Law of attraction

3 Things to Do Instead of Chasing People and Butterflies

Your story is going to dictate the way you act

1. Let it Come To You

Most of us love butterflies.

The pretty ones that fly around us and the ones that flutter in our stomachs. It’s a great sight and an even greater feeling. We chase the prettiest ones and the things we think we want and feel.

To our surprise, the butterfly flies away, not knowing how gorgeous it is in our eyes. The person we want walks away.

The butterfly wants the freedom to show you all of its prettiest colors and colorful patterns, but you want to catch it. You want to feel its beauty in your hands. All you want is to love it.

“Come back, beautiful.”

It thinks you want to take away its freedom of flight. What to do? Wait?

Relax.

You must understand that you don’t control what happens or when it happens. Sometimes we catch a butterfly and we let it go, other times we hold on with all we’ve got. We end up suffocating the butterfly. To prevent that from happening, you relax, and you wait. You let your butterfly flutter around and you focus on being a flower.

If you don’t relax, you chase it away. The butterfly energetically feels your need to catch it. It’s the same as the last person who seemed desperate for your attention. It scares you a bit and you go away. Desperation is a turnoff for you, others, and butterflies. No one wants to feel captured.

You must learn how the law of attraction works and work with the law. You relax and wait for the butterfly to come. You stop worrying when the butterflies come, you just be yourself and allow it to come.

The flower doesn’t focus on the butterfly. It doesn’t care where the butterfly lands. Instead, it focuses on life. It focuses on the sun and on the rain.

It blooms, and the butterfly comes.

When you see yourself as a flower, the butterfly comes and perches on your nose.

2. Check Your Energy and Your Vibration

When you understand how to attract butterflies, you focus on taking care of your flowers. You focus on yourself.

It’s about understanding that, like the butterfly, the person you want can energetically feel your strong desire to catch them. They may feel your energy and your vibration.

Your desire to catch and control others feels limiting. It feels unsafe. When it feels scary to them, they fly or flight. If you chase others, you put them on a pedestal and you assume they’re too beautiful or too better than you are. Your energy tells them they’re better than you.

They feel superior and they feel your desperation.

It’s your state of being, your energy, and your vibration that makes people want or not want to come to you.

When the flower is focused on itself, the butterfly feels safe. The person feels safe. They feel your cool, beautiful vibes and they come. When you’re out there having fun with your friends, the person you want feels your fun vibes. What you’re indulged in your passion, they feel your passion.

Instead of chasing the butterfly, forget about it and have fun. Forget the person and have fun. You’ll be surprised to see that it flies/comes to you.

If you want a person to love you, love you first. If you want them to see you, see you first. Do you want to be with them so badly? You must learn to be with yourself. You must be the person who the person you want will be attracted to. You must develop the qualities that the person you want would like to see in you.

You see that to be treated like you’re beautiful, you must feel beautiful. You see how the celebrity treats you like a fan when you treat them like a celebrity and how they treat you like a friend when you see them as an equal.

You must grant the person you want the freedom to show you who they are and their colors willingly. You must learn that jumping, screaming, and throwing your hands in the air in an attempt to capture scares people and butterflies away. It’s all about your energy and your vibes.

It’s your state of being, your energy, and your vibration that makes people want or not want to come to you.

3. Rewrite Your Relationship Stories

Everybody has a relationship story.

The story we tell ourselves about relationships and why the butterfly doesn’t come. You think they always run or fly away. You think you have to try too hard. You think they think you’re an ugly flower and they just don’t want you. You think the people you want are always too busy to spend time with you. You think all the butterflies have their favorite flowers already and all the good ones are taking. You think you’ll always stand alone.

You must become aware of your story and how it affects your energy and the vibes you give. If your story makes you seem desperate, change it so it doesn’t scare the butterfly away. You must change the role you play in your story. You change it and play a better role where the butterflies come, and the person runs to you.

You change the story so you’re a total babe — the prettiest flower out there. Your new story should be that someone out there wants you and they’ll be crazy about you.

Your story is going to dictate the way you act. It’ll dictate what you do next.

In the new story, butterflies easily come to you. In your new story, you do nothing at all and you’re surprised by a beautiful butterfly that perches on your shoulder. In your new story, you meet people; you love them and they love you back. In your new story, there’s a butterfly in a chrysalis who can’t wait to meet you.

You must believe you’re more than enough. You must see yourself as worthy.

You’ll embody that energy and others will feel that off of you. The stories you tell yourself about love and relationships will have a powerful indication of how people relate to you. If you stop chasing the butterfly, you might be pleasantly surprised at the beauty that appears in front of you.

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