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Why Men Should Seek Out Older Women

Reasons why you should be in search of your Cougar

“Older women know who they are, and that makes them more beautiful than younger ones. I like to see a face with some character. I want to see lines. I want to see wrinkles.” — Naveen Andrews

In the US and other parts of the world, women who date younger men are referred to as Pumas or Cougars. Pumas are women under age 40 who date men at least ten years their junior. Cougars are women over age 40 who date men much younger. Some celebrity examples are Cher, Madonna, Jennifer Aniston, Tina Turner, and Julianne Moore.

I find it interesting that women have these titles, but men do not. Like men, mature women are free to explore and date whoever they choose (if the partner is of legal age, of course). As I quickly approach age 40, I have become more confident, free-spirited, and open. I absolutely love who I am in my late 30s. I wear a lot less makeup and a lot more cheetah print (wink).

I have a 32-year-old friend who is currently dating a 58-year-old woman. Yes, she is 26 years his senior (a real Cougar — growl). Interested in his opinion, I asked why he enjoyed dating an older woman. Not surprisingly, his answers mirrored mine. Below I outline why men should seek out mature women to date, marry, or have fun with.

We are better in bed.

Older women are better at sex because we know what works and what we want. Older women are great teachers and lovers in the bedroom. We are not shy about communicating what we need to climax. Additionally, we are no longer faking orgasms. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Like our male counterparts, we have years of experience; we know what works and does not. If something is not working, we will let you know. If something is working, we will let you know. We know how to use our words. This is important for a pleasurable sexual experience. If you are tired of banging a dead fish, you might wanna get yourself a Cougar.

We are more refined.

Let me ask you a question. Do you prefer a wine that has been aging for 2 years or one that has been aging for 15 years? Women 40 plus are more refined, robust, confident, and bold. Like wine, women get better with age.

With age, our confidence grows, and we no longer need or desire the opinions of others for validation. We know who we are and do not turn to anyone for approval. This confidence is difficult to explain, but it is powerful and sexy.

We know what we want.

Unlike younger women, we know what we want and how to go after it. Like a Cougar in the wild, we snatch it up with confidence. We don’t play young girl games. We see it, we like it, and we go for it.

With this, we are very straightforward. If we want sex, a relationship, or marriage — we will inform you promptly. There is no need for guessing games. Women in their 20s are unsure of who they are, what they want, or where they want to be in life. We have been there, and done that.

Additionally, we are not as self-absorbed. Many women 40 plus have married, divorced, been in long-term relationships, or raised children. They are selfless, kind, and generous. This builds strong character and makes them more thoughtful and caring.

We are better at everything.

Generally, older women are better at everything; cooking, fucking, communicating, and entertaining. No offense to the younger women; you will get there someday. These things develop with age.

This is because we have more life experience. If I am invited to a work dinner date, I can work that room like a Roomba. Travel, finance, education, and other various topics. Older women can make the best partners for these types of situations.

Younger women might feel intimidated or out of place. They may only chime in when they hear Instagram or Tick Tock. A man with status needs more than a Supermodel; you need a partner in crime. Someone who makes you look good and can hold her own. Just keeping it real.

Final thoughts

It amazes me how seemingly the focus is on older men, but not older women. Some of the strongest, most beautiful humans I know are women 40 plus. These women are running companies, closing deals, and keeping their families together. I am unsure of what this strange illusion is concerning women and age. But it is bullshit.

I am technically not considered an older woman since I am under 40, but I am an advocate. Men, stop chasing these Tick Tock girls and find yourself a mature, strong woman. If you have not realized how amazing women 40 plus can be, my love, you are late to the game.

Disclosure — This does not apply to every woman 40 plus.

© Ari Love, 2022

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