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Why I Love Dating Older Men
5 reasons I enjoy dating older gentlemen
“I find older men more attractive than boys. I need a man who can teach me a thing or two.” — Donatella Versace
I am 37, and have dated for most of my adult life. I have dated guys my age, guys a little younger, weird guys, intelligent guys, creepy guys, and older guys. So, a plethora of men from all walks of life.
Whenever I would tell my girlfriends I was dating a guy 15+ years my senior, they would say, “Gross, that is too old.”
I disagree with that closed-minded comment (eye roll). So, I have compiled a short list of why I love dating men 57 or older.
Full disclosure: I am open to all adult men of any age, but this list focuses on older gentlemen.
They pick the best dates.
Seriously, men over 57 are creative AF. My most memorable dates were with older men; burlesque shows, jazz concerts, an auction, and salsa/ballroom dancing (to name a few).
Guys my age are not as creative. Guy in 30s, “so, you wanna grab dinner and drinks? Or we can grab food and Netflix n’ chill?” And we all know what Netflix n’ chill means. Boy bye!
They don’t press for sex.
I am not saying this about all men over 57, but the ones I have dated were total gentlemen. Meaning they never pressured me for sex. We simply went on dates and had a great time; we laughed, flirted, and had meaningful conversation.
One guy I dated for a few months; he always made sure I was at my door safely. He would kiss my cheek and hand before he left (I know, so adorable!)
I found this so sweet and romantic; I was good and ready to give it up. You wanna stay for a drink? I would ask as I batted my eyelashes…
They have lots of experience.
Some of the men I dated had very successful careers; physician, lawyer, CFO, engineering, real estate, and finance professor. I especially loved those in finance since I worked in that field. I would ask one million questions, and they would gladly answer and provide feedback.
They also had experience in dating, relationships, women, and sex — which leads to my next point.
They are better in bed.
I have to keep it 100; older guys be putting it down. They have decades and decades of experience exploring the bodies of women. They had years to learn what every moan, groan, scream, and yell means. And years of instruction; too hard, faster, to the left, to the right. You get the idea.
Additionally, the guys I dated weren’t selfish. They were focused only on pleasing me; their main focus was foreplay. It wasn’t bang bang goodnight sex. It was passionate, sensual, hot sex.
They are straightforward.
The older men I dated (or chose not to date) were straightforward. If they just wanted to take a pretty girl for a night out, this was expressed upfront.
If they were married, they would say this right away. If these men wanted to get laid, they would tell me upfront. I appreciated this because ain’t nobody got time for games. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Being straightforward helps because you are on the same page and can enjoy the evening and each other’s company (without awkwardness or drama).
Final Thoughts.
There are more reasons why I love dating older men, but these are the main points; patient, good lovers, thoughtful, and successful. Need I say more?
If you want to do more than Netflix n’ chill, drink and club, watch Marvel movies, and have mediocre sex, I suggest you give older men a go.
To the men in my age group, please don’t get mad, be glad that I just provided you with some dating tips. You’re welcome. Kisses! :)
© Ari Love, 2022
