Why Do You All Think That You Know Better?

And Ana and I Are Just Naive and Stupid?

This is Ryan and I am making a statement.

Seriously, screw ’em butterflies! And screw you guys too!

My relationship with Ana is advancing very fast. While we had known each other for a few months only, we managed many difficult situations together.

We took one another in a carousel of feelings. Some situations were very awkward; I have to admit. The new boyfriend should not discuss with his girlfriend about her issues with her soon-to-be ex-husband, right? Or at least, that’s what everybody says.

I did not mind helping and listening. This way, I got to know Ana better and got the chance to help her. What should I have done? Tell her something like this?

Hey, Ana! I know what you are going through and I know how to help you! Unfortunately, everybody considers that it is inappropriate for me to help you in this situation. We cannot discuss your current situation with your soon-to-be-ex-husband… because it’s not right. I know it’s a very difficult moment for you and you know you can tell me anything but… Please suffer in pain now, society does not allow me to help you. Thank you! Bye now!

Fuck that! I know that the situation is weird, and I also know all the classic relationship advice.

Do you know what we are doing now? We are getting along very well, building and maintaining a healthy relationship while ignoring all the bullshit advice.

We had a fantastic 5-day Airbnb holiday. We played house a little and imagined how our life would be together. Everything was excellent, and now we are planning to move together, for real.

We were sharing our happiness with close and not so close ones when it happened. Everybody considered they knew better and told us we are doing things too fast?

It depends on how you measure relationships and life.

Well, if you measure a relationship in time, yes, we are doing things too fast.

If you consider the relationship’s intensity as the measuring unit, we are doing things too slowly.

We both have the feeling that we had known each other since forever, and it’s getting tough to stay apart from each other. We both feel that moving together is a good thing, and we struggle to live separately know.

Okay, we may have butterflies in our stomachs, but why can’t we move together if we both feel this? It’s because regular people can’t handle bold moves.

So far, we have listened to our hearts. We ignored the mind and its safe way of handling things and did everything well.

Safe relationship advice is for people doing safe things. We don’t play safe.

I think classic relationship advice is suitable for other types of people, for the people that do things slowly. The people that need a lot of time to know each other.

We know each other. We make decisions fast. We act fast. We communicate very well. We manage things together.

We are very intense in bed. Did I say very? I wanted to say very, very, very, very, very intense in bed.

We work together as a team. We get along even when we don’t do things together. We even have nice quarrels.

Do you know why safe advice doesn’t work? Because it’s too safe. It does not work for people that do things fast, not safe. We live intensely, not safe.

It would have been safe for us to wait until things get more comfortable, but we did not wait. We will not start waiting now!

If I were to give relationship advice, I would say that sometimes it’s good to break all the rules and do as you feel. Don’t play safe if you’re not the type.

I am starting to get very good at ignoring the advice I receive.

I feel that Ana and I will reinvent relationships and conquer the world, just because we can. This is Ryan and I am making plans to conquering the world.

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