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hed out loud about the entire situation.</p><p id="3f9c">After that, I managed to explain to him why I was upset. The reason was that I wouldn’t want him to think I can’t understand this. Or to think that I expected him to have “a bottomless bag of money” and that I don’t care how much our meeting costs. The cost of this 4-day trip would have permitted us to go on a one week vacation to the seaside.</p><h2 id="d206">From Angriness to Laughter in Less Than Five Minutes</h2><p id="7c34">I drifted from a state to another in five minutes. Or even less than five minutes. This was new to me. It was the first time my angry state lasted less than five minutes.</p><h2 id="7e87">Can You Imagine How Our Quarrels Will Be Like?</h2><figure id="c870"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*rqoPDSH3q0FqidyK"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@pablomerchanm?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Pablo Merchán Montes</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="b481">They will be very rare anyway because we both prefer to be honest, communicate openly, and be empathetic. We both can put ourselves in each other’s shoes and understand what we are going through. And that is simply beautiful!</p><p id="06aa">Even then, when I refused to talk to him (because I couldn’t explain how I felt), he was patient. It was the same patience he always had in my worst moments.</p><h2 id="d67a">What a Special Man!</h2><p id="c39b">He was always the pillar that supported me when I cried desperately on the phone because my ex-husband was behaving harshly towards me. He was patient when I wanted to give up because I was afraid. Or because my mind tended to choose the comfort zone.</p><p id="f14c">Ryan always listened to me and gave me the space to be aware of things by myself. He allowed me to make decisions by myself. He never tried to influence me. He did not have opinions regarding what I should do and how to do things. He just listened and provided support. He never gave me unsolicited advice.</p><div id="712c" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/why-people-provide-unsolicited-advice-6c98367bbfe"> <div> <div> <h2>Why People Provide Unsolicited Advice</h2> <div><h3>I don’t know about you, but I’m not particularly eager to get unsolicited advice. If you have this habit, you should stop…</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*w1NJ5wQxGU8JDimvyedbaQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="3793">I know that every time I go through hard times, he feels helpless because he can’t be closer to me. He can’t help and support me more than he already does. But do you know what’s beautiful? That feeling of helplessness does not make him give up on us. It makes him more want to do everything possible to be always by my side at some point.</p><h2 id="5be1">He Was by My Side in Lots of Bizarre Moments</h2><p id="efb8">Can you imagine what it’s like to cry on a man’s shoulder hurt by another man’s behavior?</p><p id="cf6b">I didn’t realize at first that I was doing that. It isn’t normal! And I realize how he felt in all those moments. And yet, although it was difficult for him, he remained with me. He always listened and stayed close.</p><p id="e937">I often thought of keeping to myself all the unpleasant feelings I was going through, but he always felt me. He always knows when I am upset, I cannot hide this from him.</p><p id="a9e7">It isn’t right to talk to him about my ex-husband, but no matter how much I refused to tell him, Ryan somehow managed to make me open up.</p><p id="6afb">And he didn’t even intend that. He behaves normally. He feels that I’m not feeling good.</p><p id="990b">In all those moments, when I was down,

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when I was scared, or when I was confused, he gave me empathy and confidence. His gentle voice was all I needed in those moments.</p><h2 id="9a38">And You Know What’s Even More Beautiful?</h2><p id="c665">Everything is so natural. He likes listening to me and help me, no matter how bad or angry, these things make him feel. And all those things that would have made others go away brought us closer.</p><h2 id="8c7b">He Makes Me Feel Alive Again</h2><figure id="1a15"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*Bdz0xHQ69gPMC8YB"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@acharki95?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Aziz Acharki</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="dacf">Next to him, I can be myself! Without limits and masks. I don’t have to pretend to be better, smarter, more beautiful than I am. I can finally be me. With all my madness, with all my love. And I feel accepted as I am.</p><p id="ce5f">Next to him, I saw what it means to be upset and get passed that in five minutes.</p><p id="bd77">This incident, however simple it may seem, has helped us both to realize how well we get along one with another. Yes, sometimes I behave childishly, and the fact that it makes him smile makes me understand that I met the man I was waiting for all this time.</p><p id="a1ab">In such a short time, we got to know each other so well. And you know why? This happened because we were always honest with each other. We accept each other as we are. We also have moments when we disagree, but we communicate well enough to find a proper solution, accepted by both of us.</p><h2 id="d898">I Think Empathy Makes Our Love So Special</h2><p id="fa0e">Well, after we finished laughing and explained to each other how we felt, we found the perfect place to stay when he arrives.</p><p id="eb0e">An hour before this, everything seemed to be against us. But we were stubborn enough not to give up. I searched for accommodation until I found the perfect one for our meeting. Now we have found a solution to afford the costs, and we are waiting for the day when we will be together.</p><p id="1608">Once again, we have shown that by going beyond the limits of society and disregarding the invisible rules, we can make anything possible.</p><h2 id="e6b5">Not Acting With Ego Saves Our Love</h2><figure id="5e33"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*sp-ARkceHRUpFeAC"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@scottbroomephotography?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Scott Broome</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="b54c">If he had been very proud and taken my childish upset seriously, we would have been upset for long and couldn’t say now that we would meet soon. We would have given up looking for the perfect hotel, and maybe we would both have been hurt.</p><p id="6712">I realize that people hurt each other out of childish things. And the other person’s reactions matter so much.</p><p id="96b1" type="7">Empathy and lack of pride matter so much!</p><p id="b9e0">It is essential to be patient with the person next to us and to express love. Honest and unselfish love. We need to put our ego aside and be happy.</p><p id="3919">I never thought I would “un-upset” in a maximum of five minutes! And this gave me once again the certainty that the man I love is the perfect man for me.</p><p id="0600">All I can tell you is to love sincerely with your soul and not allow the ego to stand in the way of your happiness.</p><figure id="08d6"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*Jv1H5orIbeS2plbN.png"><figcaption></figcaption></figure><p id="7db3"><i>If you have enjoyed this article and want to follow our love story and the things written as they happen, subscribe to our <a href="https://medium.com/unusual-love-story">Unusual Love Story</a> publication.</i></p></article></body>

From Angriness to Laughter in Less Than Five Minutes

I never thought I’d get mad at someone, and after five minutes, I’d laugh out loud.

It happened to Ryan and me last night, while he was planning to come and visit me.

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We looked for plane tickets on short notice, and everything was costly. Ryan could come in a specific time frame only, but the plane tickets and the accommodation costs were high.

The plane tickets and the COVID test were within the budget, but the hotel prices exceeded it. And, at one point, he said, “I’m sorry, don’t get upset, but the prices are too high.” I reacted impulsively and got upset… “of course.” You’ll laugh, but I was upset because he thought I was upset. Not because he couldn’t come! No, that wasn’t the problem. I knew I am stubborn enough to find a fair price for the five days rental, and I was sure he would find a way for us to meet.

What Happened Next Was Hilarious

I am a very expressive person, and if I get upset, it’s easy for everyone to notice. I’d rather be honest than hide my feelings. And that’s what I did. I couldn’t explain why I felt like this. I only reacted to feelings. And Ryan remained silent.

It was the first time I got upset, “live.” We saw each other on video. And honestly? I was stammering, trying to tell him why I got upset, so I decided to shut up. Next, both of us were annoyingly silent.

And as he offered me space to calm down (and to think about my reaction and how to react next), I realized how childish my anger was.

How to get upset when the other person tells you nicely and gently not to get upset? What he said was just a form of expression, nothing more. What happened next was hilarious.

Well, Ryan is the kind of person that observes details very quickly. He notices people, situations, behaviors, and learns from them. This makes him unique.

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Even though I knew of this quality of his, it still took me by surprise.

Well, as I sat sullen and silent, realizing that what I did was childish, Ryan noticed my facial expression. And he started laughing. To laugh!!!! Seriously? I didn’t know why he was laughing, but it was so contagious that no matter how upset I was, I couldn’t help myself and laugh back.

And I laughed without knowing why. I said, “you know, I am upset; why are you laughing?”

Why Did He Laugh If I Was Upset?

The moment I realized how stupid my upset is, I felt guilty. Guilty because I’ve figured out that my reaction was childish. And he, noticing this, naturally began to laugh. It wasn’t that annoying laugh that can make you angry.

And precisely because we both reacted so sincerely and naturally, in a maximum of five minutes since I got upset, we relaxed. Then we laughed out loud about the entire situation.

After that, I managed to explain to him why I was upset. The reason was that I wouldn’t want him to think I can’t understand this. Or to think that I expected him to have “a bottomless bag of money” and that I don’t care how much our meeting costs. The cost of this 4-day trip would have permitted us to go on a one week vacation to the seaside.

From Angriness to Laughter in Less Than Five Minutes

I drifted from a state to another in five minutes. Or even less than five minutes. This was new to me. It was the first time my angry state lasted less than five minutes.

Can You Imagine How Our Quarrels Will Be Like?

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They will be very rare anyway because we both prefer to be honest, communicate openly, and be empathetic. We both can put ourselves in each other’s shoes and understand what we are going through. And that is simply beautiful!

Even then, when I refused to talk to him (because I couldn’t explain how I felt), he was patient. It was the same patience he always had in my worst moments.

What a Special Man!

He was always the pillar that supported me when I cried desperately on the phone because my ex-husband was behaving harshly towards me. He was patient when I wanted to give up because I was afraid. Or because my mind tended to choose the comfort zone.

Ryan always listened to me and gave me the space to be aware of things by myself. He allowed me to make decisions by myself. He never tried to influence me. He did not have opinions regarding what I should do and how to do things. He just listened and provided support. He never gave me unsolicited advice.

Why People Provide Unsolicited Advice

I don’t know about you, but I’m not particularly eager to get unsolicited advice. If you have this habit, you should stop…

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I know that every time I go through hard times, he feels helpless because he can’t be closer to me. He can’t help and support me more than he already does. But do you know what’s beautiful? That feeling of helplessness does not make him give up on us. It makes him more want to do everything possible to be always by my side at some point.

He Was by My Side in Lots of Bizarre Moments

Can you imagine what it’s like to cry on a man’s shoulder hurt by another man’s behavior?

I didn’t realize at first that I was doing that. It isn’t normal! And I realize how he felt in all those moments. And yet, although it was difficult for him, he remained with me. He always listened and stayed close.

I often thought of keeping to myself all the unpleasant feelings I was going through, but he always felt me. He always knows when I am upset, I cannot hide this from him.

It isn’t right to talk to him about my ex-husband, but no matter how much I refused to tell him, Ryan somehow managed to make me open up.

And he didn’t even intend that. He behaves normally. He feels that I’m not feeling good.

In all those moments, when I was down, when I was scared, or when I was confused, he gave me empathy and confidence. His gentle voice was all I needed in those moments.

And You Know What’s Even More Beautiful?

Everything is so natural. He likes listening to me and help me, no matter how bad or angry, these things make him feel. And all those things that would have made others go away brought us closer.

He Makes Me Feel Alive Again

Next to him, I can be myself! Without limits and masks. I don’t have to pretend to be better, smarter, more beautiful than I am. I can finally be me. With all my madness, with all my love. And I feel accepted as I am.

Next to him, I saw what it means to be upset and get passed that in five minutes.

This incident, however simple it may seem, has helped us both to realize how well we get along one with another. Yes, sometimes I behave childishly, and the fact that it makes him smile makes me understand that I met the man I was waiting for all this time.

In such a short time, we got to know each other so well. And you know why? This happened because we were always honest with each other. We accept each other as we are. We also have moments when we disagree, but we communicate well enough to find a proper solution, accepted by both of us.

I Think Empathy Makes Our Love So Special

Well, after we finished laughing and explained to each other how we felt, we found the perfect place to stay when he arrives.

An hour before this, everything seemed to be against us. But we were stubborn enough not to give up. I searched for accommodation until I found the perfect one for our meeting. Now we have found a solution to afford the costs, and we are waiting for the day when we will be together.

Once again, we have shown that by going beyond the limits of society and disregarding the invisible rules, we can make anything possible.

Not Acting With Ego Saves Our Love

If he had been very proud and taken my childish upset seriously, we would have been upset for long and couldn’t say now that we would meet soon. We would have given up looking for the perfect hotel, and maybe we would both have been hurt.

I realize that people hurt each other out of childish things. And the other person’s reactions matter so much.

Empathy and lack of pride matter so much!

It is essential to be patient with the person next to us and to express love. Honest and unselfish love. We need to put our ego aside and be happy.

I never thought I would “un-upset” in a maximum of five minutes! And this gave me once again the certainty that the man I love is the perfect man for me.

All I can tell you is to love sincerely with your soul and not allow the ego to stand in the way of your happiness.

If you have enjoyed this article and want to follow our love story and the things written as they happen, subscribe to our Unusual Love Story publication.