Why Daughters Need Fathers, And Mothers Need “Therapists”

How fathers shape their daughters

Have you ever heard of the term “malicious mother syndrome”?

You see a malicious mother, is a woman who uses children to get back at their partner for “leaving” them. They alienate the children to turn them against their fathers.

The world is full of scorned women. Hollywood loves to make movies about scorned, psychotic and obsessive women — people love to watch such movies. This behaviour has become normalized within our society.

While at least 13.4% of children are being alienated in the United States.

Not so funny is it?

There are too many malicious mothers out there that are raising children. Many of these mothers are narcissists or suffer from covert mental health conditions. Many of them receive sympathy from others, they like to call themselves “single mothers” who are barely holding down on jobs and tackling mental health issues but at the same time raising children wonderfully.

Oh, and they have been “abandoned” by their men because their men treated them soo badly.

There is no truth in this statement.

Quite often, these women do all in their power to destroy the relationship between their children and their fathers. To others, these women will portray their ex-partners as abusers, while it's the other way round. Women can abuse too.

My mother tried to alienate me from my father whilst they were in a relationship. It didn't work out for her, I turned against her, and so did my sisters. My friend ex is trying to alienate his children against him.

It’s devastating just witnessing to what lengths she is willing to go, to eliminate him from his children lives.

My friend’s ex has severe mental health issues, mostly attachment issues. You see, her own daddy “left” her when she was young. I imagine how “hard” it must have been for her own mother — she too must have felt abandoned. So her daughter grew up without a father role model, with low self-esteem, addictions, toxic behaviours and became an abuser herself.

So instead of going to therapies, as her own mother suggested, she gave up and stayed miserable. She has a victim personality you see, and as my fellow writer, Maxwell Jordan states — she is miserable and weak. But she is also a Master manipulator, she wishes to be perceived as “weak” and play the “victim”.

People sympathize with victims, and with mothers.

I am a “Slav”, meaning I come from Eastern Europe and believe it or not, but in some countries in Eastern Europe children “belong” to mothers. There is no way a father would be awarded sole custody. Why?

“Because how would the poor mother feel? The children belong to her, obviously!”

So children stay with many malicious mothers and grow up into little copies — insecure, needy, with “lack-of-daddy ”issues, toxic behaviours, vindictiveness etc. And so goes the circle. I know so many women who are receiving serious therapies because of the lack of a father model in their early lives. These women end up quite often in very abusive relationships and result in drug use, suicide attempts and mental health issues.

If only their mothers would have stopped playing the victim, and owned their shitty behaviour and booked those therapies then perhaps they would not be concerned about their daughters being 16 and pregnant. Here I said it.

Much has been written about the mother-daughter relationship. Unfortunately, dads who are present, supportive, and involved don’t get the credit that they deserve.

This is a shame because the father-daughter relationship isn’t just special — it plays a crucial role in the growth and development of the daughter. Here are the main reasons why daughters need their fathers to develop into healthy, confident young ladies.

Father=Confidence

Fathers help daughters develop a strong sense of self and more often do daughters grow up more confident in their abilities. They have more positive self-esteem.

My dad taught me how to be confident, he is a very confident man and I’ve looked up to him. Whenever something needed to be done — he did it. He never backed off, he was fearless. Knowing that I always have my dad around to rely on him helped me become a confident woman. He was the one who signed me up to learn new skills, languages and do sports.

He loved to travel. My mother had a lot of fears: fear from flying, anxiety attacks, self-esteem issues. My mum mostly taught me how to fear things, how to hide in my bed when there was a thunderstorm.

My father encouraged us to run outside and play in the rain.

Daughters need fathers to build confidence.

Father= Respect

From an early age, daughters pick up on the way their fathers treat women, especially their mothers or stepmothers. My father provided for my mother, was always there for her, he remembered their anniversaries, bought flowers every Sunday and kissed her every time he left for work. Often, he put her needs before his and when she argued — he never argued back.

Fathers show daughters how women should be treated.

Father teach daughters what respect looks and feels like.

Father= Persistence

My dad taught me to always finish what I start. My mum used to make a lot of excuses, while my dad was always determined to make things work, however hard or impossible they may seem. He never dwelled in past — he always looked towards the future.

He implemented rules within our household and I was more than happy to oblige, as I knew the consequences — I was never chastised. I would be grounded — miss out on going out and would learn English or Russian, which turned out to be a very good punishment.

He taught me how to be accountable and responsible. But most of all, he taught me that nothing is too hard. Everything can be accomplished when there is a strong desire.

Father= Love

Having a loving, present father has taught me how to “pick” a romantic partner for myself. My father has set a bar, which is very high, but it is better to have a higher bar than having no bar. Because of my father, I respect and love myself and therefore am able to have a loving, fulfilling relationship with others.

A girl learns what to look for in a romantic partner by watching her own father’s actions and traits. When a girl has a healthy relationship with her father she may have more positive and less risky sexual behaviour in future.

My father taught me that choosing the right words and the right time to say them is more important than what I am about to say. My father is a diplomat, a prankster, a good friend, a good opponent (in tennis), the best friend, the confidant, but most of all the Dad.

Sometimes I wonder that if it wasn’t for my father I would not be so proud of the woman I have become.

Children need fathers. Daughters need fathers. Mothers who deny their children of fathers need therapy (ideally locked up).

Girls who don’t have healthy bonds with their fathers are more likely to engage in aggressive behaviour, perform poorly in school, develop unhealthy relationships with others, and develop psychological problems compared to daughters who have strong bonds with their fathers.

Like mother, like daughter…

I hate that saying.

Why not BETTER than that?

Thank you for reading.