avatarMichelle Marie Warner

Summary

The author reflects on the therapeutic power of water, both in nature and in self-care rituals, as a metaphor for emotional healing and the desire for companionship.

Abstract

The article delves into the author's recent experiences with water as a source of emotional healing and reflection. The author describes taking long, candlelit baths and finding solace in the rain, drawing parallels between the cleansing properties of water and its ability to nurture growth and life. The narrative touches on the complexities of being a single woman yearning for a relationship, the pain of past hurts, and the vulnerability that comes with keeping one's heart open to love despite the risks. The author emphasizes the importance of remaining emotionally available and the personal choice to stay open to love, despite the potential for hurt. The piece concludes with an affirmation of the author's resilience and the comforting routine of finding peace in solitude, while also acknowledging the absence of a partner.

Opinions

  • The author believes in the cleansing and healing power of water, both physically and spiritually.
  • There is a deep longing for a romantic relationship, with the author expressing a willingness to face the challenges that come with it.
  • The author values emotional availability and considers it a gift, albeit one that can also present challenges in relationships.
  • There is an acknowledgment of the fear and past hurt that can lead individuals to close themselves off from love, which the author sees as self-protection.
  • The author advocates for staying open to love and experiences, suggesting that this vulnerability does not lead to being overwhelmed by the world.
  • The article conveys a sense of personal responsibility for one's feelings and the importance of self-care, even in the face of loneliness.
  • The author expresses a philosophy of unconditional friendship and love, regardless of the reciprocity or the nature of the relationship.

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When The Rain Washes Your Tears Away

And offers healing to your broken heart.

Photo by Daria Shevtsova on Pexels

Water has been calling me lately. I’ve been taking candlelit baths every night, soaking for up to an hour, sometimes more. And then the rains came — glorious, loud, heavy, nurturing rain.

Water cleanses, refreshes, clears away debris, and unclogs drains, helps plants grow, and ensures survival for living beings. Water clears stuck energies and resets our bodies and spiritual selves.

I’ve been processing some sadness, rife with the complexities of a single woman grieving the absence of another human in her life. Someone to lay beside, cook dinner, wash the dishes, and snuggle up for Netflix, would be divine.

Sure, other complexities would arise. But I’d rather have challenges within a relationship than not have one at all. Oh, the tears I’ve shed from this absence. They were warm, cleansing tears for all the days and years alone without a mate.

The doors of my heart often swing wide open and don’t close even when I’m afraid. I’m always emotionally available. My greatest gift can be my biggest challenge since some humans have let past hurt dictate their present and potential relationships.

They aren’t willing to take a chance on love again. It’s too painful to imagine what could happen if we went wrong. What if we fail to stay connected and we break each other’s hearts? What then? It’s too much, they say. They try to make it seem like they’re doing it for me. But it’s self-protection.

I understand. I have ways to protect myself, too. But closing myself off to love isn’t one of them. When there was a downpour earlier, I was willing to take a chance on getting soaked. I only needed to wear boots and a hoodie. And I’m always willing to take a chance on sharing my love with someone. I only need to be responsible for my feelings.

For the ones who resonate, remember you can choose to stay open, and the world won’t swallow you whole. I know because I’ve been doing it for years. I fall into the feeling as I sink into the bath. I let the water soothe and envelop me in warmth and support.

People will hurt you, and you will hurt others. Your love remains, no matter how much you try to run from it.

I know I’ll be here, anyway. I’ll be a friend, no matter what road we take. For the one who knows, I washed away tears for your absence on this cozy, cold, rainy night. And I’m still alright.

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