What Is Responsible for Your Upsets and Fear?
Anything you experience is a natural part of life.
You can always rely on your subconscious mind telling you the truth.
Even when you are upset or have the feeling as if the world is crashing around you.
The latter could mean that you ignored the signals of your subconscious and its most profound truth for too long.
Because
“our upsets are vestiges of our own un-experienced emotions.” — Ariel and Shya Kane, Practical Enlightenment
And when you ignore those un-experienced emotions for long enough, only slight pressure is enough to pop or rather explode the bubble of your delusions.
“When you have chipped away at the edges of your truth and life applies a little pressure, things easily fall apart. But when you operate with integrity, it is far easier to withstand life’s pressures.” — Ariel and Shya Kane, Practical Enlightenment
The things, the world falling apart sounds dramatic and “bad.” We all learned to despise unpleasant feelings. What we don’t prefer is bad. What we prefer is good. Right?
But what if we got beyond what we preferred? Got something even “better.” And it threw us off balance so much that it didn’t feel that good anymore. There’s no chance for labeling something as “black” or “white” then, or “good” or “bad” anymore.
What can we do then?
Well, first of all, we can stop labeling.
And then appreciate that every quality, every sensation, every signal can be useful.
I recently watched one of the many inspiring videos Ariel and Shya Kane share with their community and the public, where they said something extremely enlightening. They said (quoted from memory),
“Everything is an asset.”
That would mean that all those non-preferred signals from our bodies and minds are not bad or good. They are just signals. And if we truly listen, they can become a great asset.
Those who can truly, in other words, non-judgmentally, listen to what happens inside and outside themselves are often successful in their lives. Also, because they “operate with integrity.”
Here is an example of how to use fear as an asset:
“Successful people find fear as uncomfortable as anyone else does, however instead of rejecting or avoiding it, they see it as a signal that something important is happening that requires their attention. As children do, they assume that fear is a natural part of life, and they know that whenever they’re doing something important, fear will show up. Fear is something to be recognized, embraced, and boldly addressed; and developing an acceptance and awareness of fear is crucial in maintaining success in work, health, and relationships.”
— Robert Maurer, Mastering Fear: Harnessing Emotion to Achieve Excellence in Work, Health and Relationships
You can, of course, try to ignore all those signals you don’t prefer from all the fantastic teams and ventures inside your body and mind that make you out. But they are resilient, and they will nudge you — and occasionally give you an energetic shove — until you pay attention.
Or you can choose to pay attention to every moment. And if you happen to be distracted and notice it without judging, there you have your asset again. Being distracted is a signal too. You might have attempted to duck away from something that feels uncomfortable.
As you become aware of your emotions without judging anyone and anything that might have ignited them, or yourself for avoiding them previously, you embrace anything you experience as “a natural part of life,” and you are your true self again.
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