Want to Become a Sex God? You Need These 2 Things
Wow her every single time
For as long as I can remember, there’s been a lot of talk about how women love bad boys. And yeah, that’s partially true.
These days, I hear it mostly from men complaining about their romantic competition. They don’t think of themselves as bad boys and think it’s the reason women don’t go for them.
They’re the ones who’ll grumble misguided things like “Maybe if I treated her like shit, she would’ve been more interested in me.”
The rest of the time, it’s pickup artist types trying to channel their inner bad boy through negging, emotional distance, and some extremely sketchy attitudes toward consent.
Those guys are right that sometimes assholes do get the girl — especially if the girl falls for guys a little too quickly.
But they’re wrong if they think women fall for them because they’re jerks. When they end up dating and sleeping with one, it’s because of his other qualities.
The guy who peacocks his shitty behavior in front of other men doesn’t usually act that way with the women they’re trying to get with.
Behind closed doors, on dates, and over text, those guys can be kind of sweet.
They keep our phones buzzing all day with thoughtful messages and playful banter. They stay up all night to talk to us about nothing and everything. They run their hands through our hair after sex and get really vulnerable with us.
Yeah, there are usually some red flags, but those aren’t the things we fall for — those are the things we ignore because we’re smitten by all the other stuff.
If there’s one thing that really attracts us to those guys, though, it’s the confidence they show.
The bad boy type usually oozes confidence. He takes chances. He makes bold moves. He seems to have a clear sense of what he wants.
That’s attractive as fuck.
And one of the reasons confidence is so attractive is that it’s one of the main ingredients to really hot sex.
Why Confidence Turns Her On
Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in a man.
A guy who knows he’s a catch, and acts like it, can melt panties right off.
I don’t mean a cocky guy. A cocky guy might think he has confidence, but what he’s got is completely different.
A cocky guy might boast a lot. He’ll brag and find ways to flash his money if he has it. He’ll often act like he’s giving girls a sales pitch instead of flirting with us.
He’ll often come on really strong. He might put others down when he’s not talking himself up. He might even put the girl he’s macking down, because he doesn’t know the difference between playful teasing and saying things that are genuinely hurtful.
When a guy acts cocky, he doesn’t come across confident — he just seems insecure.
It comes across like deep down he doesn’t believe he’s attractive enough, accomplished enough, or just plain good enough to be a catch — and he’s trying really hard to compensate for that.
A confident guy, on the other hand, knows that he brings something to the table.
He’s not surprised when women are interested in him and he doesn’t have to put on a big show to keep us captivated. He knows that a good conversation and some active listening will go a long way.
And he won’t tell her that he’s going to give her an amazing night if he gets in her pants — but you can tell he knows it.
As long as he can back all that up, that kind of confidence is incredibly sexy. And it makes the sex better, too.
So much of what makes sex really fucking good isn’t just the physical parts of it — it’s all the emotions surrounding it.
It’s getting fucked in a way that makes you feel attractive. It’s passion that’s so intense you can practically breathe it in. It’s the aftercare sessions that make you feel appreciated, taken care of, and completely safe.
I’ve had sex that felt great on a physical level. Peak levels of horniness, intense stimulation, powerful orgasms — the works. But because there was such an emotional disconnect, it left me feeling terrible.
And I’ve had sex that didn’t even make me come but still felt absolutely incredible because all the emotional stuff was lined up so perfectly.
Fucking a confident guy plays a big role in that.
Being with someone who’s confident makes a girl feel special because he has a lot to offer and he chose to offer it to her.
He’s not desperate. He’s not trolling for whatever pussy he can find. He’s a guy who knows his value, so it means something that she’s the one in his bed.
Sex with a confident guy also makes her feel desired because he’ll fuck with passion.
He’s not timid about what he wants. He’s not unsure of himself. He’ll show the girl he’s with that he wants her instead of second-guessing whether she really wants him.
He’s also willing to do a bit of experimenting because he’s not scared of a little embarrassment. He knows that a sex fail is always better than never trying anything new.
And because he’s not insecure, he’s not using sex as a way to boost his ego. He can just be there in the moment, admiring his partner’s body, enjoying the pleasure he’s giving her, and getting off to all the things she’s doing to him.
He’s not going to obsess over his performance, obsessively keep count of her orgasms, or constantly be competing with that ex-boyfriend who once made her come seventeen times in a row.
That kind of confidence plays a big part in making sex great. But for it to be really mind-blowing, a guy also needs to be attentive.
Great Sex Is Attentive Sex
Confidence can get a girl in bed, but it’s attentiveness that really delivers.
Being good at sex takes some standard moves.
You should have an idea of where the clit is and a good understanding of what to do with it.
Knowing lots of positions and techniques is handy to keep things interesting.
If you’re going to do anything kinky, then you definitely need to know what you’re doing — don’t go pulling her hair, slapping her pussy, or wrapping her in rope unless you know how to do it safely.
But what makes the biggest difference is actually paying close attention to your partner.
That’s why you can’t be a sex god unless you’re attentive.
A guy who’s attentive in bed doesn’t need a bunch of tricks to get a woman off.
He knows there aren’t any magic moves, and he won’t be confused if rubbing circles around her clit, tapping her G-spot aggressively, or jackhammering her doesn’t make her come.
He can talk about sex openly and he knows how to communicate during sex. He can take feedback without treating it like criticism. He knows how to adapt in response to it.
When he’s fucking, he checks in with her often. He stays tuned in to the way she’s feeling. He looks for any signs of discomfort instead of putting all the onus on her to drop her safeword.
He never assumes he knows her body better than she knows it — even when he does.
Being attentive also means he’s in the moment. He’s present. You don’t know what it means to connect during sex until you fuck someone who’s attentive.
Because he’s really in it, he also gives feedback. That matters, too. For one thing, seeing a guy in pleasure is really fucking hot. Every woman wants to hear those groans, hear that enthusiastic dirty talk, and see him fucking lose it when he comes.
Good feedback also helps us be who we want to be during sex. Every girl wants to feel like she’s giving head like a pro, fucking like a Pornhub amateur, and staying sexy the whole way through. But she can’t feel that way unless he’s giving her some approving feedback — or guiding her there.
Sex with an attentive guy also never feels rehearsed — because it isn’t.
Sex is going to feel different every time. His moves, his techniques, and even his dirty talk are all responsive to what she’s doing.
It’s never predictable, which is one of the reasons it’s going to be so memorable.
Become a Sex God
If you can develop these two qualities, you’ll have everything you need to become a sex god.
Attentiveness can be learned, but it takes a little practice to get right. You have to get out of your own head, learn to be present, and really flex that empathy.
Confidence takes more work. That requires undoing some of your insecurities, learning the right way to manage those you can’t shake, and developing some great qualities you can be proud of.
That’s not necessarily easy, but it’s worth it. It’s how you become the casual hookup she’ll never forget. It’s how you become the friend with benefits she texts every time she wants to feel less lonely. It’s how you get to fuck her so well she’s eager to go on another date. And it’s how you’ll keep bringing it so you become the boyfriend she never wants to lose.
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