Trust Me Bro, You Don’t Need Texting Advice
Stop searching for witty Tinder openers and do this instead…
A lot of single guys are scouring the web for the perfect Tinder opener.
Many more are looking for the best line to reignite conversations after a woman ignored their message.
There are plenty of dating coaches ready to feed them these lines.
However, there are much better things that men could be doing to land extra dates.
You Don’t Need Texting Advice
There are good texts and bad texts to send a woman, but these rules pale in comparison to your overall first impression.
If you have a super-attractive Tinder profile, you can usually text whatever you damn well please.
If you approached a woman in the real world and asked her out, you only need texting to make plans for a date.
Anything more than that could hurt you rather than help you.
Less Is More When Texting Women
You don’t need to text for days or weeks before inviting a woman on a date.
Make a good first impression and many women will meet you spontaneously if you ask them.
Yes, it’s helpful to get to know each other when building a relationship. The problem is: texting is a useless medium for getting to know each other. You can hide your anxiety through text. You can fake a cool personality. You can copy and paste a pick-up line from the internet. So, a woman could spend weeks texting you and not feel any more comfortable about the idea of meeting up.
If she doesn’t know you that well, she’ll have to risk getting to know you in real life. If she’s not willing to take the risk quickly, a week of texting won’t fix that.
With Every Text, You Risk Turning Her Off
If you say something stupid on a date, you’ll notice her reaction and be able to respond accordingly. There’s a chance to save the situation.
That’s not always the case with texting. Send a stupid text and you’ll probably be met with radio silence. You’ll have no idea that she’s lost interest in you.
There’s more chance that she will misunderstand the tone of a text message as well. It’s just words on a screen with no further expression or cadence.
This is another reason why it’s a fool’s game trying to get to know each other through text. You’re better off saving your life stories for the actual date.
There’s No Time To ‘Take Things Slow’ In Modern Dating
A woman’s interest in you will be at its highest after you’ve made your first impression. Then, it slowly trickles away with time.
Before long, the next wave of interesting Tinder profiles or dudes from the bar will have stolen her attention.
You need to strike while the iron is hot.
If you spend too long texting this woman, some other guy will invite her out instead. If their date goes well, her interest in texting other men might fade completely.
What To Do Instead Of Texting Her Every Day
- Add each other on Instagram.
- Go outside and start living an exciting life.
- Shoot some cool videos and post them to your Instagram stories.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Well, it will be 1,000 times more impactful if a woman sees what an awesome life you’re living. Make that 2,000 if other attractive women are involved. In many cases, she’ll be the one texting you after she watches these stories.
If you take some awesome photos, add these to improve your Tinder profile. Your photos are far more influential to your online dating success than your texting skills.
If you see another attractive woman while you’re out and about, go and talk to her. It’s much easier to make a lasting first impression when you approach a woman in the real world.
Here’s All The Texting Advice You’ll Ever Need
- Keep it short and simple.
- Don’t be rude, negative or overly sexual.
- Don’t be a simp. She knows you’re attracted to her.
- Don’t try to get to know each other. Save that for the date.
- Once she shows some interest, swap Instagram profiles so she can learn more about your awesome life.
- Skip the BS and lead to organising a date as quickly as possible.
If this strategy doesn’t work for you, it’s probably because your online photos or your initial approach wasn’t strong enough.
My free ‘Tinder Secrets’ e-book lists the types of photos that excite women, plus what to avoid. You’ll also learn how to craft a compelling online bio.
