Why You Can’t Afford To ‘Take Things Slow’ In Modern Dating

If you have a crush on someone at your college or your workplace, you need to ask them on a date NOW.

On the first date, you need to make a move, or they may start to look elsewhere.

That’s the way dating is in 2022 — and it doesn’t look like changing any time soon.

Don’t Wait To Ask Out Your Crush

It has always been a good idea to ask your crush on a date at the first opportunity you get.

This makes you look courageous and self-assured, which are attractive qualities. More importantly, it helps to ensure you take your opportunity before someone else asks them out instead.

I’ve written before why you don’t need to wait for a ‘sign’ before making your move. That’s more true than ever now that guys are shooting their shots on Tinder, Bumble, Instagram, Snapchat and every other app.

Don’t Wait To Approach The Hottie At The Bar

Most guys who tell themselves they’re waiting for the ‘right moment’ to ask a woman out are actually rationalising their fear.

That’ll usually cost them an opportunity, especially when you’ve spotted a hottie at a bar or nightclub.

It might not look like the ‘right moment’ to introduce yourself as soon as you see her on the dancefloor. But there’s no guarantee it’s going to get easier.

There’s every chance that more friends join her group, some other guy swoops in or that she leaves the venue altogether!

Once again, your best move is to act instantly.

Don’t Wait To Arrange Your First Date

Let’s say you approach your dream woman and swap contact details.

That’s amazing — but your next job is to try and get her on a date within the next 48 hours.

It’s important to invite her out while she still remembers how much fun it was to meet you.

If you wait longer than a couple of days, your awesomeness will start to fade from her memory.

By then, the next wave of guys will have slid in her DMs and began to capture her attention.

That’s the dating market you’re operating in. You need to strike while the iron’s hot.

Don’t Wait Too Long For Your First Kiss

If you don’t try to kiss a woman on a first date, she won’t think you’re a gentleman or that you’re ‘playing it cool’. She’ll think you’re a coward or that you don’t like her.

Good luck landing a second date when she feels like that!

Slow courtship over several dates is a thing of the past. Dating apps have contributed to a new ‘hook-up culture’ where sex on the first date is no longer seen as shameful.

We live in a world where everything moves faster. Your date is used to guys trying to kiss her and have sex on the first date — and it’s in your best interests to do the same. A memorable physical connection is the best way to inspire a woman to want to see you again.

The video below will help you learn how to time your first kiss perfectly.

It’s Not Easy, But Acting Quickly Will Turn You Into A Badass

Let’s talk about the psychological advantages of asking a woman out as soon as you can.

Mel Robbins, author of The 5 Second Rule says that counting backwards from five and moving your feet before 0 is a cheat code for success in life.

It’s the best way to avoid dealing with your inner chicken; the voice in your head that convinces you to pussy out of life’s most important moments.

In the book, Robbins explains:

“Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for just a nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than — you guessed it — five seconds.”

Once you get used to acting in spite of nerves, it becomes easier. Soon enough, you’ll identify as a brave action-taker who always goes for what he wants. You can learn more about this idea in my list of ways to strengthen your ‘bravery muscle’.

Modern Dating Has Changed. You Need To Adapt.

This fast-paced dating market isn’t necessarily better for men or women.

I believe that dating apps are making us more miserable, but it’s no good playing golf on a football field. You have to adapt to the market you’re in.

My book Big Dick Energy features 12 powerful exercises to transform you into the assertive, brave and charismatic guy who modern women are excited to date.

It’s available to buy in paperback or e-book. You can learn more about it by clicking here or by watching the video below.