7 Things “Nice Guys” Don’t Understand About Women

Most nice guys don’t understand why ‘nice guys finish last’.

A lot of them say that girls only want assholes. That’s not the case at all.

Others think it’s their kindness driving women away. That’s not particularly true either.

In most cases, the problem is: what motivates their kindness.

The majority of nice guys are motivated by scarcity and desperation and that’s why they’re so damn unattractive.

If you want to be a nice guy who attracts amazing women, it’s important to understand what they love and hate about kind behavior.

Below, you’ll find seven examples of social nuances that most nice guys don’t understand about women.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About COMPLIMENTS

Women love compliments. They hate when men compliment them to try and get in their pants.

Nice guys tend to overwhelm women with compliments, regardless of whether they’ve earned them.

But when you do this, you’ll often seem desperate for these women to like you. This desperation saps all their respect for you.

Compliments are more powerful when used sparingly. If you wait until a woman genuinely impresses you, she’ll appreciate the compliment more. Women want to earn your respect.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About MAKING A MOVE

Women love when a man takes the initiative. They hate when they have to do it.

‘Nice guys’ might think it’s respectful to wait until a woman hints that she wants to be approached, asked out or kissed.

But when you do this, you’ll often seem either too scared to make a move or not interested in her.

So, make the move when you’re ready to make it. If she’s not into it, respect that. This doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road.

You can recover from pulling the trigger too quickly. If you take too long, you could be doomed to the friendzone forever.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About TEASING

Women love when you tease them. They hate when you bully or ‘neg’ them.

Nice guys might think that being endlessly positive is the way to a woman’s heart.

But when you do this, she’ll usually find you boring and predictable.

Teasing is what people do when they’re comfortable around each other. It communicates that you’re not afraid of losing a woman and gives her the emotional rollercoaster that sparks attraction.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About CONVERSATION

Women love when men express their personality without filters. They hate giving personal information to men they barely know.

Nice guys might think it’s polite to endlessly ask women questions about themselves.

But when you do this, she’ll have no reason to view you any differently to the thousands of other men she’s met over the years.

It’s particularly awful to bombard a woman with questions when you’ve just met. She’ll feel no motive to carry the conversation until she finds out whether you’re cool. That’s why it’s better to talk about yourself first, then ask about her later.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About FAVORS

Women love when men do them favors and pay for things. They hate feeling like they owe you sex afterwards.

Nice guys might think doing favors shows their loyalty and their ability to provide for a woman.

But when you do it, she may get the feeling as if you’re only doing it to get something in return, or that you feel you’re only worth her time if you’re doing these favors or spending this money on her.

Either way, that’s going to give her the ‘ick’ and lead to her saying she only sees you as a friend.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About SOCIAL PROOF

Women love the idea of dating a man that other women want. They hate the idea of being your only option.

Nice guys might think a woman wants his complete devotion after the first date.

But when you do this, you risk coming across as too desperate and needy for affection.

You don’t want to be an OVERT ‘player’. This can come across as too try-hard or make her feel like a worthless side-chick. Still, a few innocent social media photos with your female friends wouldn’t hurt.

What Nice Guys Don’t Understand About RELATIONSHIPS

Women love the chase of locking their dream guy into a relationship. They hate when men try to lock them down too quickly.

Nice guys might think all women are looking for a relationship as soon as possible.

But when you ask a woman to be your girlfriend too quickly, you risk coming across as even more desperate and needy than before!

It’s inherently masculine to desire freedom. It’s inherently feminine to desire a stable family.

So, wait until she asks you to be her boyfriend.

You absolutely SHOULD behave like a nice guy once you’re in a relationship. Women love when their boyfriends spoil them with love, gifts and attention. They hate when their boyfriend acts cold and disloyal.

But you need to become her boyfriend first. That’s what nice guys don’t understand.

When women give advice about how they want men to behave, they usually describe what they want a man they already really love to do.

Nice guys make the mistakes of acting like that perfect boyfriend before she really loves him.

When you do this, you’re going to be continuously overlooked and friendzoned.

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