Summary

The article argues that excessive texting with women is an ineffective dating strategy and suggests more impactful alternatives for men looking to establish romantic connections.

Abstract

The article "Why Texting Women Is Overrated" emphasizes that texting is a suboptimal method for getting to know someone, as it fails to convey chemistry and can't dispel concerns about safety and personality compatibility. It suggests that men often spend too much time texting, under the misconception that it will lead to a date, when in fact, women may decide to meet based on the initial impression. The author recommends focusing on making a strong first impression, whether through real-world interactions or an attractive dating profile, and using texting primarily for logistical planning rather than prolonged conversations. The article also provides alternative activities that can enhance a man's attractiveness, such as meeting women in person, improving dating app photos, being active on social media, personal development, and prioritizing relationships with loved ones over persistent texting. The author posits that men who quickly move from texting to meeting in person are more successful in dating.

Opinions

Texting is an ineffective way to create a genuine connection or convey the nuances of one's personality.
Women prioritize safety, chemistry, and real-life interactions when deciding whether to meet a man.
Men should focus on making a strong first impression and not rely on texting to build attraction.
Online dating profiles and real-world approaches should be optimized to increase the chances of securing a date.
Texting should be used sparingly, mainly for arranging dates, rather than attempting to impress or engage in lengthy conversations.
Engaging in activities that improve one's lifestyle and social presence is more beneficial for attracting women than excessive texting.
The author believes that men who are quick to suggest meeting in person after a brief exchange of messages are more likely to be successful in dating.
The article suggests that men may be wasting time on texting when they could be using that time more effectively to improve their dating prospects.

Why Texting Women Is Overrated

And things to do instead.

Photo by Joshua Rawson-Harris on Unsplash

If you’re a single guy, you’re probably spending too much time texting women.

It’s one of the biggest mistakes that single men make.

In this guide, I’ll explain why texting women is overrated and what you should do instead.

Texting Is An Ineffective Way To Get To Know Someone

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, because it shows you so much more. So, how many words is a face-to-face interaction worth?

The truth is: no matter what you text a woman, she’s still going to wonder if you’ll have chemistry. She’ll still question whether you’ll be cool in real life. She might still have concerns that you’re creepy or dangerous. Words on a screen can’t answer these questions for her.

This is part of the reason why dating apps are far more difficult for men. As a horny dude on Tinder, you probably don’t care (as much) about chemistry or even if she’s weird. Women care about these things a lot, and that’s why they’re reluctant to meet with just anyone. They’re taking a bigger risk meeting with a stranger, and they’ll usually only do it if she deems him to be incredibly attractive. Most women aren’t taking that risk for Average Steve.

Rely On Your First Impression

Most men think they need to text a woman for several days or weeks to tempt her out on a date. That’s not true at all.

Many women will meet up spontaneously if they decide you’re worth the risk. The amount of time you spend texting does little to change that decision. No matter how much you text her, she knows you could still be shy or creepy in real life. She’ll only know for sure by meeting you. So, you might as well shoot your shot quickly.

To land more dates, focus on making a better first impression. You can do this by learning to approach her smoothly in the real world or creating an irresistible dating profile. This will be infinitely more useful than learning the most effective texting strategies.

This Is How I Text Women

When online dating, I use the opening lines recommended in Ice White’s book The Message Game. These openers were designed to subtly reveal if a woman is excited to meet up quickly. If she responds well, it’s because my profile made a great first impression. From there, I suggest swapping Instagram details and begin discussing potential date ideas.

I have a back-up question for women who respond badly. If they respond poorly to that, my profile didn’t make enough of an impact. The conversation tends to die shortly afterwards. Some dating coaches might claim to have a texting formula that gets these uninspired women into bed. I don’t think that’s a time-effective dating strategy. I’ve created a list of more useful things you could be doing below.

When meeting women in real life, I try to suggest date ideas before we part ways. If we agree it would be fun to meet again, we’ll swap Instagram details. This allows me to solidify my great first impression. From there, my first text will confi rm the plans we already agreed upon.

Either way, I’m only really texting to arrange the logistics of a date. I’m not trying to impress women with witty messages. Instead, I’m relying on my first impression being strong enough to attract her.

Here Are Some Things To Do Instead Of Texting Girls That Will Make You More Attractive

Go outside and meet women in the real world. This is more fun and it’s more memorable. If you have a great personality, you’ll make a stronger first impression this way. Plus, meeting women is a skill you can improve with practice.
Take better photos for your dating app profiles. This is the most cost-effective and time-effective way to improve your online dating results.
Create some fun Instagram stories with your friends. The women you’ve already connected with will see these and remember how awesome you are. Often, they’ll respond to your stories and this can lead to you arranging a date. That’s just one reason why I swap Instagram details instead of phone numbers.
Improve your life in any way. Go to the gym. Work on your side-hustle. Attend a networking event. Start learning a new skill. These will all make you more attractive and allow you to make a better first impression on women in future.
Check in on your loved ones. You’ve probably been “too busy” to call your Grandma since Christmas. But you always find the time to double-text the Tinder matches who left you on read. Weigh up your priorities. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don’t care about you. (Women spend zero time thinking about the men they left on read.)

Texting women too often makes you look too desperate. You can come across as a guy with nothing better to do. Every new message brings a new opportunity for you to say something stupid that puts her off.

If you’ve successfully spent weeks seducing a woman over text, please know that you could have done it in days. You’ve probably lost several more women to guys who knew how to pull the trigger quickly.

I’m urging you to skip the BS next time around. Once you realize how quickly women who like you will meet up, you’ll never waste your time on this pointless chit-chat again.

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