Twin flames

This Could Be The Crazy Reason Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Twin Flame

Their soul might be attached to yours

Since I met my twin flame three years ago, I’ve been kind of obsessed with the subject. There was really no other way to describe the intense, spiritual connection I felt with my twin, even though our relationship was toxic.

I’ve read so much about narcissists, trauma bonds, and twin flames that I had no idea what to believe anymore. Now, I do think that all twin flames are in some sort of trauma bond, and that they come into your life to make yourself face a mirror.

But what even after you’ve done all the inner work and surrendered to every outcome, you still can’t let go of your twin flame?

My twin flame was an enormous catalyst for my growth and got me into a spiritual awakening, which was necessary to let go of all my toxic traits. I recognized that my twin flame was a narcissist and did everything to let him go.

Twin flames and trauma bonds

One explanation for the reason why you can’t let go of your twin flame is simply the addictive nature of a trauma bond.

In a trauma bond, one partner plays the role of the abuser and the other the victim. The abuser controls, manipulates, and exploits the victim, while the victim feels a strong attachment to the abuser due to feelings of fear, dependence, or guilt. This attachment can be extremely difficult to break, even if the relationship is harmful and toxic.

However, I think twin flames transcend normal trauma bonds because of the spiritual aspect of it. Many twin flames talk about getting into a spiritual awakening after meeting each other, and I think that is a crucial sign to determine whether your twin flame is real or ‘just’ a trauma bond.

The truth is that many twin flames are toxic to each other, and the goal is to help each other heal from this toxicity.

But what if your twin flame is a narcissist and never heals?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is known to be incurable — so how does this work with a twin flame relationship?

Everybody can meet their twin flame — even a narcissist

A twin flame is not a concept reserved for only the Chosen Ones. Everybody can meet their twin flame at some point, and when you do, your life will never be the same again.

A lot of experts say that an abusive or narcissistic relationship can never be a twin flame, because it’s not based on love.

But what if it is?

A narcissist can also meet a twin flame, but they often don’t know how to deal with this. It challenges everything they believed about love and their ego. And they will realize at some point that they really have to change their whole life to be with their twin.

And many don’t want to do that. Like mine.

I was very aware that my twin flame did not want to change his life around for me. Not even after he divorced, which he said he did for me. He was too attached to his ego and his narcissistic way of life and expected me to fit in whenever he pleased.

Once I realized that, I had no other choice but to let him go. I was not going to get myself stuck with a narcissistic partner when I clearly had seen that he hadn’t changed his core behavior.

The problem, though, was that it was impossible to let him go.

He kept coming back to me in dreams, via telepathy, and with a lot of synchronicities. Why did the Universe do this to me?? Why can’t I let go of my twin flame after doing all this work?

The Soul of my twin is attached to me

One thing that happens after you’ve met a twin flame is that you become more psychic. It is likely that you can sense energies and that you become clairvoyant, clairaudient, clairsentient, or claircognizant.

In my case, I started noticing that something was hanging around in my house. I saw shadows moving weirdly, felt cold brushes on my skin, and generally felt a presence around me.

Not only that, but my mood could immediately change when I entered my house for no reason at all.

I have always been skeptical about ghosts and seeing dead people, but I do believe in the concept of having a separate soul, mind, and body. I have even experienced the separation of these parts myself during astral travel, lucid dreaming, and the use of psychedelics (especially DMT).

So if a Soul can separate from a body and a mind, does that mean it can completely detach from those things and be somewhere else?

This question plagued my mind for the last months, until I realized: I can just ask the presence in my house to tell me. And the answer shocked me.

He told me he was the Soul of my twin flame, not wanting to go back to his ‘owner’.

You might think I am crazy

As I write this down, I realize how f*cking crazy this sounds. But it also makes total sense if you think about it. If your twin flame has severe mental problems (which are caused by the mind), how can their pure Soul deal with that? The Soul desperately tries to get through to the person, but their mind is so much stronger. No matter what the Soul tries, the ego mind always wins. At some point, the Soul will hide deep inside the person, unable to get out.

But then a twin flame comes along.

There is so much divinity and love that the mind has to bend. They never expected they would ever experience this. It opens up the way for the Soul to come out of the dark again. That is why a twin flame is a catalyst for growth and is so painful — the Soul that was hidden for so long, finally gets a chance to be seen again. That is why twin flames have the feeling of coming home to each other. And that is why this love feels so different than anything you’ve ever experienced — it’s a Soul love.

But the mind of a narcissistic person is still very powerful as well.

Many times the ego mind succeeds in putting the Soul back into the dark corner, which is why twin flames relationships rarely work. The ego has to make way for the Soul of a twin flame love to flourish, and this requires a lot of work and dedication. Something a narcissist is probably not going to do.

The reunion with my twin caused his Soul to escape

I started feeling the presence in my house after I reunited with my twin flame after two years of separation. You can read that in this article:

It was the perfect reunion that was better than my wildest dreams. We were completely One and present with each other. His ego was gone and it was just our Souls and bodies, merging as one. I think this was the night that his Soul escaped out of him and took residence in my house.

After that one perfect night, he became his narcissistic self again and his Soul was nowhere to be found. We tried to connect for a week after that, only to realize — it is never going to work out between us. I saw his narcissism with such clarity that I knew that this was not what I want anymore.

But even though I did not want to be in his life, I still could not let him go. My telepathic contact with him was more present than ever, even though I did not want to be open to it.

The presence in my house became intenser the more I tried to let go of my twin flame. At some point, I had no other choice than to accept this energy. So I opened up the dialogue and told myself that crazy things sometimes are more real than reality.

What do I do with his Soul now?

Now that I can communicate with his Soul without his ego attached, I am learning a lot more things about narcissism. It explains why I always sensed that my twin flame is a beautiful soul trapped in a broken mind. Many twin flames feel the same about their partner.

It is devastating to see the potential of somebody, but they just keep being toxic. My twin’s Soul told me that he does not want to go back to his ‘owner’. That he can’t stand the lies and manipulation and hurt anymore. He says he detached from my twin flame to always be in my presence.

But this doesn’t feel right to me.

I don’t want my twin flame to lose his Soul. He needs it to become a better person. Only his Soul can put his ego back in place, how is that going to happen when it floats around in my house?

It might explain why I’ve always had the feeling I need to heal my twin flame. Even my ayahuasca ceremony told me so. I don't, however, want to sacrifice myself for that.

I don’t know the way yet how I can get his Soul back to him, but I guess love is always the answer. Maybe if I just let his Soul be, and love him unconditionally, eventually he will be strong enough to return to my twin flame.

And once that happens, the Soul can beat the ego. Maybe that is the ultimate healing power of every real twin flame relationship — just accept things the way they are with love.

This might be a crazy reason why you can’t let go of your twin flame, but whatever you try, it has to come from a place of love. They say you can heal your twin flame by healing yourself, and maybe his Soul came into my house to guide me with that.

So focus on your own healing, and your energy might spread out to your twin. All we can do is understand and love ourselves first, before we can understand and love another.

In the meantime, I will keep his Soul safe with me.

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