The Secret to Succeeding In Life

Is to think like a successful person.

Why do some people get ahead in life more than others?

Why there are people who are more successful and less fortunate?

How come some people make it while others don’t?

I know the above questions bother many. Yet, the answer is simple.

Success is the mindset mode, not a set of favourable circumstances planned out beforehand by some divine force.

Successful people do not stumble upon opportunities, nor are they bestowed with good fortune. They work for it. Mentally.

Many people focus on action and hard work, neglecting the cognitive process behind it.

You do not have to struggle to come as a winner. The only change you need to implement is a mindset shift to think like a successful person. When you change the pattern of your thinking, your actions follow organically.

Start thinking of yourself as the hero, not the victim.

Victimhood is never a reality. But a mindset choice.

When you blame others or external events for your current circumstances, you become a quitter. You are stating that those conditions hold the power over you. And if you have been studying Law of Assumption for quite some time, you know that is bullshit. Whatever you believe makes it so.

You alone create your reality. However, if you engage in the victim narrative, you hold yourself back. Nobody has the power to control your life. Nobody can put limitations upon you. No circumstances can put an end to your dreams. Everything is possible.

Victimhood is never a reality. But a mindset choice.

You can only allow or disallow blessings to enter your life. Blaming, staying in the victim mindset are a few options to disallow good fortune. Each time you are saying: I cannot have ____ because of somebody else, or I am not ___ enough — you are limiting yourself by perpetuating the story of the victim.

There are countless stories where people with disabilities, unfavourable upbringing shifted their lives: Stevie Wonder, Stephen Hawking, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Oprah Winfrey and Jim Carrey, to name a few.

It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.

— Walt Disney

Only the human mind can come up with excuses for not going after what you want. But also, only the human mind can break the pattern.

There are people who have done it regardless of the circumstances you think you are in. Are you waiting for somebody to make a change for you or hand in the ready-made remedy? You are the only person who can do that. Take back your power and make the change by shifting your attitude towards life.

What you believe grows stronger.

If you assume that you do not have enough money to travel, or you are too shy to make friends, those assumptions will dictate the events of your life or how uneventful it is.

Whatever beliefs you hold about yourself, those limiting beliefs narrow down your opportunities.

You persevere in a toxic, damaging or just passionless relationship because you do not believe you deserve more. You end up staying in what you already know rather than stepping outside the comfort and grabbing the change you have been seeking. You want the change. Yet, you are just too afraid to act on it.

Your desires are meant for you, and there is a reason they have planted seeds in your mind. What ideas light you up? What thought makes you jump out of bed in the morning?

It is not what you want that you attract, you attract what you believe to be true.

— Neville Goddard

If you believe somebody else has it better than you, your mind will only be preoccupied with comparison and finding faults all around you.

If you believe that something is difficult, you will fail to act when the opportunity arises on the horizon.

Never be afraid to ‘fail’.

Again, this is about how you perceive failure. Is it a dead zone or an opportunity to learn and grow?

Looking back at my teenage days through the lenses of an adult makes me cringe at how unsure of myself I was. The fear of defeat and external opinions caused many opportunities to pass me by.

I have removed the word ‘failure’ from my vocabulary a long time ago. Instead, I label it as a ‘chance to see anew’.

I refused to be held back anymore by the fear of rejection and started chasing it. I have a theory about life experiences: If you haven’t been rejected, it means you are not aiming high enough.

I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

— Michael Jordan

Your mind is your playground. What kind of seeds you plant, with determined care, is exactly what you will harvest.

Be aware of distractions.

Distractions are nothing more than habits you engage in routinely. They serve nothing more than diversions from acknowledging your emotions, thus taking responsibility for your life.

Recall the scenario: you have a task to accomplish, but you end up scrolling through social media, checking out sales, sending it to a friend only to start a conversation. The loop goes on and on.

You are stepping further away from your goals when you choose to binge on TV shows instead of learning that language in the evening. Why? Because it is easier. Because it is more fun. Because it is what most people do. Because you are afraid to fail the course. Because you are uncomfortable with novelty.

But again. You don’t want what most people have. You want a new life. So take up unfamiliar steps and build new habits instead of perpetuating the same oldies. They are not goodies.

If you were living your dream life, what would your day look like? What would be your habits? How would you perform even the most mundane tasks? Would you still be eating garbage food? Would you still be sad and disappointed with your life?

I bet you would have more energy. You would spend your time mindfully and valuably with people who resonate with your new career path or interests. You would not waste your time mindlessly prying into somebody else’s life on social media, as your life is pretty dope, and you are good with living it on your own terms.

Thinking about that dream body or perfect health? How would you start your day? Lazing around on the couch, waiting for somebody to drive you to the gym, or would you take life into your own hands, jump on the mat, eat a nourishing but tasty breakfast and move on with your day? Start now. Let go of the things that do not correlate with your dream life.

Mind your self talk.

Observe how you converse with yourself daily. Hey, everybody does. What are you whispering to yourself when looking in the mirror? Are you quick to criticize? Are you lavish on compliments? Do you search for blames in others around you? How do you respond to a family member who does not approve of your decision? Are you easily irritated, or are you forgiving and accepting? Do you allow the doubts of others to cloud your self-esteem? Do you play the same explanations for your behaviour on repeat?

The best mindset to cultivate: Everything is working in your favour. No matter what has happened in your life. No matter who has left you. This is the beginning you can coin into strength and opportunity.

Everything depends upon our attitude towards ourselves. That which we will not affirm as true of ourselves cannot develop in our life.

— Neville Goddard

The problem with a pessimistic attitude, apart from the damage it does to your mood, is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect bad things, you’re more likely to experience negative events.

Whatever you affirm to yourself is what you end up creating. Adopt the mindset that is going to benefit you. Worrying strips you of joy. Worrying strips you of recognizing possibilities.

Persist.

Never give up on your dreams. I don’t care if you were brought up by parents who do not support your way of living. I don’t care if your peers made fun of you. And you should not care, either. Because deep down, you know what a badass you are, and reality is shifting all the time.

Life is energy. And energy transforms. Opportunities come along all the time. People change. Your conditions do as well.

Whenever you feel down, acknowledge those feelings, admit that you feel hurt, but do not stay in that zone for long. You are allowed to have bad days and still know that this is just a bad day that is about to pass.

Successful people believe in their own self-worth, despite what others may shout in their faces.

The inventor of the light bulb and the phonograph, Thomas Edison, is well known for his ruthless determination. He tried thousands of ways to develop the electric light bulb until he finally succeeded:

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

He changed the narrative around his actions and allowed the mind to focus on opportunities instead of obstacles.

Be done with waiting.

The only way to implement a new mindset and get comfortable with it is to start doing it.

There will never be perfect timing. It is already so. Build the new comfort in the new way of doing things. It will be uncomfortable at first, but your body and mind will get used to it.

The time for change is ripe now. Get out of your way to feel successful. Shift how you feel internally, and the world will follow. The feeling is the secret.

After all, what defines successful people is their bottomless belief in their ‘can do it’, even if nobody else does.

Thank you for reading!

I write to empower and inspire with self-love. Your biggest strength lies in your authenticity, so embrace the whole package. Wear your unique attitude proudly.

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