The 5 Stages of Breaking Generational Cycles and Curses
You have power, but not that much
1. Learning About Duality
If you’re going to be the powerful person who breaks ancestral curses, tramples on serpents, and vanquishes demons, you’re going to have to take a walk in the darkness. This is what makes every lightworker first a shadow worker.
A lightworker is here to do lightwork, but they must first be the master of navigating their way out of the darkness. As much as they know the light, they must also know the darkness.
Life is all about duality. There is nothing but opposites. There’s good, and there’s evil. There’s love and there’s fear. There is light and there is darkness.
Duality is when two opposing forces within a system conflict with each other. Once you’ve experienced one side of the force, then you can understand the other.
You can only learn to break the family curse by being cursed by it. You will only break those family traumas by being traumatized by them.
Whatever is going on in the family, you have to know it by experiencing it.
Extremely traumatizing childhood and dark experiences happen to you so you can understand it. Only then can you break free and free your family.
2. Dark Night of The Soul
You came here to heal yourself and others, but once you arrive and forget who you are and find a bed to go to sleep in the matrix, something traumatic happens to shake and wake you up.
The matrix is not where you go to sleep.
The dark night comes to strip all the layers of your ego and open to eyes to see things for what they truly are. It’s a process of unbecoming all that you’ve become and then becoming all that you came here to be.
The dark night of the soul prepares and shows you how you can go about breaking those generational cycles, patterns, and curses within your ancestral line.
It's difficult, but the night is the messenger. There’s no growth without the dark.
The dark night is a sign that you can’t continue living the way you’ve been living. It’s a sign that something in your life needs to change, let go of, or disintegrated. It’s a warning sign that something is blocking your path and must be unblocked, dislodged, or cleared away.
The dark night is the path of initiation. You are subject to darkness so you can understand the element of light.
3. Escaping The Matrix
We came to the earth knowing our mission, but we come with 3D templates and one of our missions is to establish new 5D templates. The first way to start to do this is to become aware of the matrix and start planning how you're going to escape.
You start by releasing all the 3D from within you.
Healing work is necessary. You must first do the inner healing work to get rid of all the outdated beliefs and the societal programming that no longer serves who you're evolving to become.
Most of the programming and templates are stored in your lower three chakras. If you have ancestral trauma to heal, you will have all sorts of trauma and dense energies stuck in your root chakra.
You must first work on healing your chakras and your light body by clearing blockages from your first(root), second(sacral), and third (solar plexus) chakras.
You have to learn to place yourself in alignment with the universe so that cosmic energy will be able to flow through you to push out dense energy from within your chakras.
Once you heal your lower chakras, the doorways to the higher chakras will open which will assist you in breaking those ancestral cycles.
4. Breaking The Patterns In Yourself
You have power, but not that much. You're only powerful when it comes to your own personal sovereignty. You don’t have the power to make the people in your family change their ways. You don’t have the power to heal them when they don't need your help.
You have power, but it is only limited to yourself.
You have to power to change your ways, heal yourself, and break the toxic patterns in your family starting within yourself.
It's that simple.
You're here to break curses in your family, but don't fall into the trap of thinking you're going to change or control someone else. You can only change or control yourself.
Don't think you have to heal others because they're the ones who need healing. It does not work like that.
It's the highest form of spiritual bypassing when you think you can change someone else without first changing yourself or thinking you can heal your family when you yourself haven't healed.
You came to end family cycles, but it has less to do with the family and everything to do with you.
There is nothing to change, control, or heal but the self.
The only way you can heal your family line is by healing yourself and making peace with your inner child.
You can’t break anybody else curses without breaking your own first.
The way you shatter the curses and heal the entire ancestral line is by changing all those toxic patterns you see within the family within yourself.
By changing toxic patterns within yourself, you end it for the family line, and your descendants will never see those patterns.
Anytime you're tempted to think that your family is just so messed up, change that thinking and bring it to yourself. You are a part of the messed up family but when you heal yourself, your family reflects that.
Change yourself and the entire world changes around you.
5. Letting Go and Forgiving
This is the reason many people will not be able to break generational curses. They can’t let go of the pain and the trauma that has been inflicted upon them by their families and their hearts are hardened. They refuse to forgive those who have wronged them.
They can’t forgive because they are so plugged into the matrix that they assume forgiveness makes them weak or that it encourages bad behavior.
Holding grudges, bitterness, and resentment towards others is a thing of 3D. By refusing to let go and forgive, you’re continuing the cycle when you’re supposed to end it.
There’s a reason you chose to come into a difficult family. Those same difficulties you hate so much present an opportunity for soul evolution. Without them, you would stay small. Your soul would not evolve. Without them, you wouldn't master important karmic cycles and there would be no mission to complete.
If it wasn’t for those people and experiences that traumatized and caused you great pain, you would never have woken up. You would still be asleep in the matrix and would have to return to the earth to repeat it all.
Holding on to the pain and refusing to forgive is choosing to stay asleep and remain plugged into the matrix, unaware of the plan for your life.
As a lightworker, you have to learn to see the bigger picture.
The bigger picture is that you had to be hurt in order to heal the hurt within yourself and, ultimately, your family. You had to be traumatized to truly understand the trauma to heal it.
You are the chosen one. You have to see the purpose behind certain things that are happening.
Let it all go and let it all come to you.
Let go of everything that has happened. Take the focus off of the toxic patterns in your family and focus on the patterns within yourself.
Forgive everything and everybody that wronged you and understand that they were all soul contracts that were meant to catalyze your awakening. By forgiving, you break the chains and the cycles for yourself and the entire family line. You save the younger generation from a life of pain and trauma.
Knowing that you've been able to do what your soul came here to do, you live your life fulfilled and at peace. Then you become kind of free.
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