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Stop Telling Yourself Lies

Get out of a failing marriage if this is your truth

Okay, technically we are not lying to ourselves, we are in denial. The truth is slapping us in the face but we are making excuses. It’s game over but we think we can still pull off a relationship win.

It’s so clear to me now.

But it was an emotional haze as I fought for my marriage.

If you’re the only one working on your marriage, stop lying to yourself.

It’s over. It’s that simple. Get out. Don’t drag it out. Don’t spend years exhausting yourself, saying ugly words, begging to be heard, disappearing, and losing time.

Face the hard facts.

Relationships demand some effort and work.

If you are the only one trying, you’re already in it alone. The other person has either checked out, doesn’t care, wants to be in control, or has some extracurricular activities you never suspected they were capable of.

Give up.

Surrender.

You deserve better.

If you stay, you will end up alternating between hating your spouse and hating yourself. That’s what happens when we engage in the unhealthy behavior of a failing relationship. We deteriorate and digress.

Your spouse is an adult.

Don’t make excuses for bad behavior, affairs, drinking, or anything else. Don’t tell yourself they are just going through a difficult time. Last I checked we are all responsible for our own behavior.

That means we shouldn’t need someone else to tell us what we are doing is wrong. We should be accountable for our own actions.

Somehow once we marry, we allow people to avoid responsibility.

And then make excuses.

“They aren’t usually like this they are having a mid-life crisis.”

“It was only one affair, they’ve never done it before.”

“They love us but they are just struggling or workaholics.”

I don’t know about you but I haven’t had the luxury of getting away with repeated bad behavior. I’m usually on the hook for anything I do wrong. It’s probably because I’m mature enough to be self-responsible.

And not expect a repeated hall pass.

High school was fun but it’s over. Yes, I got away with a few things. Our youth is well-positioned for that. But then we have to grow up. Sigh. I know, it’s a lot. And evidently, a burden for some.

If you are working on your marriage alone, stop lying to yourself.

It’s over.

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