Let Guilt Be Your Guide

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When your conscious misleads you, lean into guilt to guide you…

At first, it felt like I had no where to turn to. No where to find answers. My experience felt like it ‘must be uncommon,” or at least I would hope (for other people’s sake) that it wouldn’t be common. Much of society doesn’t understand or perhaps decides to ignore it, and yet I am here to tell you that there is so much information out there for you to help you along the way of this trepidatious journey…

We live in a time where there are so many books, articles, groups, forums, websites, magazines, experts, courses, apps, etc. available at our fingertips. Much to my surprise, as well as relief but also regret, this includes emotional & psychological abuse. As much as I can appreciate the understanding and community, I would never wish to learn how many people have struggled through this consuming confusing anguish.

Although a part of me felt like there was something off most, or perhaps even all, of my life. The story of my emergence begins just under 6 years ago, but even with that said, the learning and awakening was still a couple years later when I started therapy. I clearly remember my therapist finally telling me to ‘lean into guilt,’ at least temporarily until I started to rebalance and learn when it was appropriate rather than a manipulation. I do not mean it lightly when I say, this advice saved my life.

Knowing these relationships could cost me my happiness, my marriage, and even my life (figuratively and also literally), I knew something needed to change. I needed to take responsibility to create the change I hoped for in my life: joy, health, and happiness. Mine were slipping away from me, and it was time to take the reigns — so I leaned into guilt. I still struggle sometimes, even after everything they have done that I have overcome, all I have read researched and tried, and all I have learned.

As someone who still needs the illusion of safety with a pen-name (nom de plume), I implore you to lean into guilt if you are struggling with a toxic relationship. It just might set you free.

I had to learn to love myself enough to walk away from those who cause me harm, or at least set boundaries and let them choose — ultimately, it is leaning into self-love and believing that God would want better for me that truly helps me. Over time I will heal and live a life full of joy, and I wish you the same. God Bless.

Your Idealistic HolisticNerd wishing you to soar like the Phoenix and create the change you wish to have in your own life ❤

(Note: Any links/books/etc. mentioned in the article are NOT affiliate links, and I do NOT earn any commission.)

For more stories from me, if you enjoyed, please follow and help spread the love. I would love to gain 200+ followers and fulfill a lifelong dream of being a successful writer. I hope to inspire and help people however I can. Your shares, claps, and followings are all helpful and appreciated! By no means do you have to sign-up for a membership on Medium, although I love mine. You can still follow, clap, and read up to 3 stories a month for free! Thank you and Blessings 🙏🏼

Note: This article is a compilation of my own life experiences, research, testament, opinion(s), etc.. It is not meant to be a substitute for professional medical, legal, or clinical services. Although I, the author, have personal and professional experience in the health and wellness field, including health coaching, am not a certified/licensed nutritionist or mental health professional. I, the author, am neither a medical nor mental health advisor — as with any and all recommendations, please do your own due diligence.

Thank you. Thank you more than words can say for reading, following, clapping, commenting, and trusting me however much you do. It is not without gratitude and appreciation to all those who support and who I hope to help along the way.

With Love, Light, and Blessings ❤

Your Idealistic HolisticNerd