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    </div><p id="69e2">Whenever a friend needed me, I would be all ears, ready to hear anything they had to say, and offer my help in any way I could. I was afraid to say no because I thought I would lose that friendship.</p><p id="493d">I set such a high standards for myself yet never thought to set them for others.</p><p id="ead5">I didn’t know how to communicate my needs — I didn’t know what they were at the time.</p><p id="fda8">It was also tough for me to open up. To speak about the struggles I was facing and be vulnerable.</p><p id="8ec4">Looking back, I realize I never once told anyone when I wasn’t doing okay.</p><p id="8c3f">Never once did I shed tears in front of them — I didn’t feel comfortable.</p><p id="f8ea">Maybe a part of me knew they weren’t able to bear that burden.</p><p id="e9e4">Unfortunately, they were unable to hold space for both their emotions and mine.</p><p id="1b08">I’m happy to have this blessing — to be able to hold space for others' emotions.</p><p id="e86b">I’m very thankful for the growth I’ve undergone because I’ve been able to learn how to listen to people without taking on their struggles as my own.</p><div id="03c6" class="link-block">
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    </div><p id="6d0d">The biggest lesson I’ve learned from this is it all stems from fear.</p><p id="4410"><b><i>The fear of rejection will make you betray yourself and accept less than the bare m

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inimum.</i></b></p><p id="d19d">I’m learning to let go of that fear and set standards for the people I allow in my life.</p><p id="acc5">Letting go of this fear allows me to see people for who they are and where they are in life.</p><p id="5b30">The reality is not everyone who you come across that appears to be nice should be allowed an open-door policy.</p><p id="1f86">It’s good to see the good and the best in people, but it’s also important to set boundaries to protect your mind and your heart.</p><p id="50f7">To know if you can trust someone, they have to undergo a process where you get to know them and how they act and react under different circumstances, and vice versa.</p><p id="d965">More often than not, time will tell you that the majority of people shouldn’t be allowed into your life easily.</p><div id="3187" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/its-so-difficult-to-make-friends-as-you-age-93216249492e"> <div> <div> <h2>It’s So Difficult to Make Friends as You Age</h2> <div><h3>I want to make new friends, but it’s tough out here.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*ALGGUlRXdrRHl7jK)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="3040">This may seem harsh or uncaring. But the truth is, if you’re the only one setting a standard, that means you’re the only one who’s willing to do the work to meet it.</p><p id="704e">If you’re the only one making an effort, that’s a very one-sided relationship. And we all know how those turn out.</p><p id="b446">If there’s one thing I would like for anyone to take away from this, it’s don’t be afraid of rejection. Many times it turns out to be protection. God, the universe, whatever you believe in, has a way of looking out for you.</p><p id="7780">Be self-aware and aware so you can make the best decision possible about who gets to have an influence on you.</p></article></body>

Learn To Accept People For Who They Are.

Otherwise, we will constantly let ourselves down by setting expectations that can’t be met.

Now that my life has changed — I’ve changed — for the better, my needs and wants for friendships, and overall relationships, have changed as well.

Many of you will find yourselves coming to a crossroads with your relationships and friendships as time passes.

One thing, however, that hasn’t changed is my ability to accept people where they are.

This is both a blessing and a curse.

Because I'm able to give love and acceptance so easily, I fall into the trap of thinking it will be given in return just as easily.

I thought treating people this way was the norm — turns out it’s not.

Unfortunately, some people cannot accept that you’re human and make mistakes.

I’ve always been seen as a golden child. The smart kid who gets great grades and is obedient for the most part, and doesn’t cause much trouble.

The truth is I was afraid of disappointing those around me, and I carried this into my friendships.

I’m sure many of you relate to being this kind of person.

What To Expect From Relationships When You Choose To Grow.

There are two very clear results that happen when you start getting to know yourself and understanding what your needs…

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Whenever a friend needed me, I would be all ears, ready to hear anything they had to say, and offer my help in any way I could. I was afraid to say no because I thought I would lose that friendship.

I set such a high standards for myself yet never thought to set them for others.

I didn’t know how to communicate my needs — I didn’t know what they were at the time.

It was also tough for me to open up. To speak about the struggles I was facing and be vulnerable.

Looking back, I realize I never once told anyone when I wasn’t doing okay.

Never once did I shed tears in front of them — I didn’t feel comfortable.

Maybe a part of me knew they weren’t able to bear that burden.

Unfortunately, they were unable to hold space for both their emotions and mine.

I’m happy to have this blessing — to be able to hold space for others' emotions.

I’m very thankful for the growth I’ve undergone because I’ve been able to learn how to listen to people without taking on their struggles as my own.

How to get to know yourself.

Improve your self-awareness skills.

medium.com

The biggest lesson I’ve learned from this is it all stems from fear.

The fear of rejection will make you betray yourself and accept less than the bare minimum.

I’m learning to let go of that fear and set standards for the people I allow in my life.

Letting go of this fear allows me to see people for who they are and where they are in life.

The reality is not everyone who you come across that appears to be nice should be allowed an open-door policy.

It’s good to see the good and the best in people, but it’s also important to set boundaries to protect your mind and your heart.

To know if you can trust someone, they have to undergo a process where you get to know them and how they act and react under different circumstances, and vice versa.

More often than not, time will tell you that the majority of people shouldn’t be allowed into your life easily.

It’s So Difficult to Make Friends as You Age

I want to make new friends, but it’s tough out here.

medium.com

This may seem harsh or uncaring. But the truth is, if you’re the only one setting a standard, that means you’re the only one who’s willing to do the work to meet it.

If you’re the only one making an effort, that’s a very one-sided relationship. And we all know how those turn out.

If there’s one thing I would like for anyone to take away from this, it’s don’t be afraid of rejection. Many times it turns out to be protection. God, the universe, whatever you believe in, has a way of looking out for you.

Be self-aware and aware so you can make the best decision possible about who gets to have an influence on you.