It’s Time to Reclaim Your True Voice

Take inspired, courageous action and watch your relationship grow

Intimate relationships illuminate our rough spots. A partner shows us where we need to grow without saying a word. If we accept the invitation, we have an opportunity to learn about ourselves. We figure out how we can best relate to others.

Reclaiming our voice isn’t always about outward speech. Our voice resides in our intuition and spirit. Our voice includes our inner truth. We recognize what resonates, then act on those feelings.

Overthinking and attachment to old patterns interrupts our process. We might push others away with defense mechanisms or roles we’ve played in the past. Or we end up confused and hurt over unknowns, because we failed to ask.

Have you complicated situations when there’s nothing wrong?

If we don’t access our intuition, we tend to create problems where there are none. We try too hard when everything’s simple. We have feelings to share, and we stop ourselves. We make assumptions about the other person without asking them what’s going on.

I’ve had a long-standing habit of losing myself in another person. I rely on them for holding up more than their share of the relationship. I don’t always say what’s on my mind. I’ve begun to practice speaking up, but I’m a work in progress.

I tend to hold myself back when I want to express my love. I noticed a pattern of expecting the other person to take action. When they don’t, I play the victim.

Others also encourage me to step back and wait, to let them come to me. It’s in part due to gender expectations. But deep down, I don’t want to ascribe to an arbitrary gender role. If I like someone, I want to tell them and everyone else. But then I feel like I’m “too much” for them. My hang-ups make it hard to maintain a long term partnership.

I wanted to connect with a special someone but I didn’t call. It’s weird. Why didn’t I pick up the phone? I’ve been scared to appear too needy or obsessed.

I’m not excessive. We live long distance and reach out to each other every couple of weeks. Because I have big feelings, part of me believes my actions will come across as over the top.

I’ve been carrying around outdated beliefs. I used to hold unhealthy attachments to people. I don’t do it anymore, though. I’ve been afraid I’ll push him away with my intensity. But I’ve had the wrong perception. It’s not our present reality.

I sent a text two weeks ago. He didn’t respond to me. I read into his silence, letting my mind go too far. He was busy working and hasn’t returned anyone’s calls or texts. I learned a valuable lesson.

Maybe it’s not about you.

We need to speak up or accept that others won’t always do what we want or expect. We have a choice to hold on or let go. I choose the latter. I see myself in a new light now. Recently, my voice had reflected my current truth. It’s about time.

What happened when I opened up? I felt like I finally started living authentically. My outer voice matches my inner one. I’m following my heart.

I called him yesterday. We talked for a short time while he worked. We intend to talk again soon when we’re free. We discussed his upcoming visit.

We haven’t seen each other in over 30 years. My excitement is indescribable. My heart is full. I need to be willing to face my fears if I want to be in a healthy relationship. I guess I’m starting to do that. It feels fantastic.

Follow your heart’s desires. Pick up the phone and call them. Don’t wait until the time is right. The right time will never come. I promise you won’t be disappointed. Take a chance on love.

If you speak your truth, you won’t need to try hard to make anything happen. If you’re meant to be together, energies will match up. You’ll find it easy to express yourself. Allow your authentic voice to show up and see what rises.

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