How to Tell if Someone Isn’t Your Soulmate

The possibilities exist.

You’ve found your perfect partner. They are caring, thoughtful, and fun to be around. You feel like you can talk to them about anything, and they never get angry with you.

Everything is going great until one day when something happens that isn’t quite right between the two of you.

Something small could have been overlooked before, but now it’s a big deal, or whatever was bothering you might finally come out into the open after all this time.

These moments may lead some people to believe that their relationship is over because they think they’ve met their soulmate, and not everyone gets a second chance at love. But what if there were more signs? What if there were ten more signs someone wasn’t your soulmate?

“People wear masks of lies so that they look attractive, so be careful.” — Muhammad Saqib

They don’t support your dreams.

Your partner should be your biggest supporter. They should want to see you succeed in whatever it is that you do, and they should be happy for your accomplishments, not jealous. If your partner doesn’t support what you’re doing with your life, then they might not be the one for you.

Hence, if they are more interested in themselves than being supportive of your dreams and goals, so it can seem like they don’t want to see you succeed. They should have a positive outlook on life and always try to motivate others around them to become better people as well.

They don’t encourage you to be the best version of yourself.

If there isn’t encouragement from them when needed, if it seems like trying is too much effort, or if their own needs overshadow yours completely, so this can all lead down a path where nothing will get accomplished at all.

It’s essential that both people are working towards bettering themselves rather than just being responsible for everything. A good relationship should help you become the best possible version of yourself by celebrating your accomplishments together and being proud of yourself.

They should want to see you do well in life, not only for yourself but because they care about you as a person. If they don’t encourage you or try to help motivate you in any way, then the relationship might end up hindering your success instead of allowing it along the way.

Lack of positivity.

Negativity can be contagious, especially in a relationship. If your partner is always negative about everything, it might seem like they are never happy with anything or are willing to change for the better.

As a consequence, if their attitude towards things seems too harsh for too long, it will affect how you view them over time as well, which could lead to problems later on in the relationship.

It would help if you surrounded yourself with people who have good attitudes and bring light into your life when you’re down instead of getting negativity around you.

They put you down.

No one deserves to be put down, especially by the person that they love. If your partner is constantly putting you down and making you feel like you’re not good enough, then it can be really damaging to your self-esteem.

For this reason, if this behavior continues over time, it can lead to feeling unworthy or depressed around them — which are definitely not characteristics of a soulmate.

It’s essential to have someone who makes you feel loved and supported in a relationship, not someone who tears you down at every opportunity. A healthy relationship should make both people feel better about themselves, not worse.

You feel drained after being around them.

If you feel drained after being around your partner or feel like they are taking more than giving, this might be a sign that they aren’t suitable for you. It can seem like everything is always about them and their needs which means there will never be enough time to help anyone else out.

A good relationship should make both people involved want to give back instead of constantly taking from one another without ever feeling satisfied with what has been given already.

That being the case, if the other person only seems interested in furthering themselves at all costs, then this isn’t someone who is genuinely concerned with caring about others’ happiness as well — which definitely won’t end up working long term if things continue on this path.

Lack of trust and honesty in the relationship.

There should be trust in a relationship between two people. If there are constant lies or if the person you’re with seems to distance themselves when they can tell that something is wrong.

Then, it might mean that they aren’t willing to open up and connect with you on an authentic level which isn’t all too promising for your future together.

In addition, if someone doesn’t want to share things about themself because of fear, this shows insecurity instead of strength — which means problems could arise down the road when one partner expects more from another than what has been given already.

It’s crucial that you feel comfortable being yourself around the person you’re with and that they accept you for who you are, no questions asked.

A soulmate will always have honesty in their conversations along with openness, so both sides feel safe sharing ideas without feeling judged. This brings me to my next point.

They make you change who you are for them.

While you should definitely try to adjust certain aspects of your life to make other people happy, like changing outfits or trying new foods together, it can be a problem if this happens every time.

Therefore, a soulmate should love you for exactly who you are and not wish that they could change all the parts of yourself that they don’t like while still expecting their own wants & needs always to come first.

If someone doesn’t accept you for everything about your personality, then this might not be an ideal situation long term.

They tend to criticize you a lot.

Destructive criticism is never a good thing in any relationship. Sometimes even if they aren’t always saying things to hurt you purposely.

It can still be very damaging over time and take its toll on how much the other person will actually care, which definitely isn’t something that should happen between two people who are meant for each other.

Consequently, If this continues happening throughout your relationship, then nothing positive will come out of it, and instead, both sides might continue feeling worse about themselves than before, while their self-esteem plummets even further as well.

A soulmate should not only build someone back up but also help bring them down from those feelings without ever acting like it’s possible either way. That means there needs to be complete trust &

They don’t encourage your independence; on the contrary; they force you to remain dependent on them.

In any relationship, it’s important to have independence. This means being able to do things on your own and not always needing the other person there in order to feel complete or satisfied.

Eventually, if someone is constantly trying to take away that sense of self-sufficiency, then they are definitely not a good match for your long term because you will eventually resent them for it — which isn’t healthy whatsoever.

On the contrary, a soulmate should want you to be as independent as possible so both of you can continue thriving even when apart. They’ll never try to control or stifle your growth but instead support your decisions wholeheartedly while still being there by your side during tough times too.

You have to change who you are for them.

Lastly, a soulmate should never make you feel as if you have to change who you are in order for them to be happy.

In fact, they should appreciate all the qualities that make up your personality and love every part of it — even the ones they might not like so much at first because eventually, with time, those negative parts will go away naturally on their own without anyone having to force any changes onto either side.

Therefore, if someone is trying to get rid of your annoying little habits, if any, or pushing for changes in how you play with your dog, then this might not be a relationship meant for forever after all.

This can make it more complicated seeing what’s really going on during these times too since their ways might seem more appealing at first glance.

“Relationship should be real and one must know how to identify his or her relationship.” — Neil Gorsuch

The Bottom Line

In conclusion, if anyone makes you feel bad about yourself but doesn’t give back anything positive in return while still expecting things from you no matter what happens throughout each day, then chances are that person isn’t actually right for long-term love & happiness anyway.

You deserve a partner that should also make you feel like the most special person in the world and not just take you for granted. If these things are happening, then it’s probably a sign that this isn’t your soulmate after all.

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Originally published at implementationofwisdom.com

This post was inspired by and researched on these references:

• https://www.bustle.com/p/7-signs-your-partner-is-not-actually-your-soulmate-7635094
• https://www.luvze.com/fake-love-quotes/

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