How to Snap Out of Your Sucky Life
Take a step back and reflect.
Life has so many potentials, but we seem to make so little of it. No matter how much we acquire, we seem to always be in shortage of financial scarcity. And despite our constant social media interaction, we seem to be more lonely than ever; why? On a daily basis, our life sucks; why?
I drove 16 miles to Concan for a vacation with some of my staff. I have been feeling stuck lately, and I needed to unwind. Driving takes away the stress and gives clarity of mind. As I walked through the Bridges trail towards Frio River, my mind wondered why the hell I feel stuck.
I have a great career as a writer. I own a business that settles my monthly expenses and still have extra to invest in stocks. I live in a comfortable two-bedroom condo with an indoor gym and pool in the building. I have a daughter who is my world and a loving family. My life is perfect, yet I feel like I’m missing something.
During this vacation, I had time to reflect on my life and why things aren’t falling into place. My life is in line with that of an average American life. You may be in this boat as I am, and you are probably wondering why your life sucks too.
You spend six hours watching Netflix as I do. You spend the same amount surfing social media only to get bamboozled by your friends’ baby photos. You join multiple dating sites expecting to find the one; instead, you run into jerks requesting nude photos of you.
You watch YouTube videos and sign up for different self-improvement programs hoping to find the hidden secret, but you are disappointed because nothing worked. Well, here are my two cents on why our lives suck.
1. Listening to the inner bitch
We live trapped in the psychic prison of the mind. We live in a cage in our own world of stories and interpretations. The antidote to defeating the inners a bitch is a shift in mindfulness.
The ability to watch and witness your thought as if they are just clouds that move in the sky. Rather than take your thoughts too seriously, watch them go by.
Mindfulness is the ability to know these thoughts can come and go. You don’t have to get sucked into them. You are not these moving thoughts. You are the sky, the space of consciousness that holds these moving thoughts.
2. Unresolved past experiences
We wear a mask to cover our pain and insecurities. After a painful experience, we hide our pain. Things that happened to us in our childhood and in our adulthood create feelings of insecurities.
The unresolved past represents the insecurities, pain, sadness, and shame that we all carry inside us. We try to become unique, special, and extraordinary, but we forget that we are already unique, special, and extraordinary. There is nobody like us on the entire planet.
Falling in love with yourself is the power to shift our focus from everyday tension and stress of proving our worth to appreciating ourselves and everybody around us.
3. Living a robotic lifestyle
Our desires transform us into programmed robots. We live planning a grand future while the beauty of the present moment disappears right in front of us. Believing we will be happy when we reach our goals is a false discombobulated mentality.
Because as we reach our goal, too often, a new goal emerges. Just as the need for more is a motivator, it can also be a destroyer. Whether it be for financial freedom or spiritual realization, we may lose sight of our goal in the process of wanting more.
Sometimes we get caught up with seeing what we don’t have, obsessing over them, that we fail to see what we do have. Contentment is the key to breaking free of your obsession for more.
Your life will suck less with less addiction
The truth is we are human wanting. No matter what we do, we can never satiate the taste of wanting more. There will always be a part of us left wanting.
We hide and mask how we feel with addictions. We think our life will be easier if we make more money, meet the perfect partner, land a dream job, or spend money on things we don’t need.
Our addiction to our desires has grown from traditional stuff like drugs, alcohol, and gambling to digital ones like social media, online shopping and gaming, poor eating habits, and compulsory fitness activities.
The reality is that these addictions will continue to rise because life is nothing but pain and suffering. Society doesn’t make it any easier. You will always be judged, criticized, backstabbed, betrayed, and disappointed.
So get used to living life the way you want, not the way others expect you to live. Get used to living in the moment, being content with what you have, no matter how little, and feeling gratitude for your everyday experiences.
