How To Peg Your Partner
A simple guide for beginners
If you’re looking to add a little excitement to your bedroom play, then you may want to consider pegging.
It can be an incredibly erotic and satisfying experience for both partners. And it’s not just for heterosexual couples. Pegging can be enjoyed by anyone who wants to explore their sexuality.
If you’re interested in introducing pegging into your love life, then there are a few things you need to know.
What Exactly Is Pegging?
In a relationship, pegging is when one partner penetrates the other anally with a strap-on dildo.
Traditionally, it’s when a woman engages in anal penetration with her male partner. That’s why pegging is also known as “bend over boyfriend.”
It can be a fun and exciting way to change up your usual routine, and it can also be a way to explore new sides of your sexuality. People of all genders and orientations can enjoy pegging.
For many, the taboo nature of anal play is part of the appeal.
And while it may seem like something that only happens in porn, pegging is actually quite common.
“I once stopped at a sex super store in the Midwest and talked to the manager to see what was trending in sales. He grabbed a pegging set off the wall and said ‘The new millennium is all about pegging. I can’t keep these in stock!’” — Paul Nelson, Clinical Sex Educator
If you’re curious about pegging, there’s no reason to be intimidated.
It’s just another way to enjoy sex with your partner. With a little communication and preparation, you can make it a pleasurable experience for both of you.
Why Do Couples Peg?
There are many different reasons why couples choose to engage in pegging in a relationship.
For some, it can be a way to add excitement to their sex life. It can also be a way for couples to experiment with new roles and explore different aspects of their sexuality.
In addition, pegging can provide a sense of power reversal which can be exciting for both partners.
Another reason why couples may choose to engage in pegging is that it can help to increase communication and intimacy. Pegging requires a high degree of communication between partners in order to ensure that both partners are enjoying the experience.
This communication can help to create a deeper sense of emotional connection between partners.
Finally, some couples may choose to engage in pegging because it can be an opportunity to give and receive anal stimulation. For many people, anal stimulation is highly pleasurable and can lead to intense orgasms.
Once again, Paul Nelson shares his insights into human sexuality:
The secrets of male prostate and anal stimulation have long been the domain of sex workers. Historically, when sex workers needed a guy to finish up in a hurry, she would slip a finger up his ass, touch his prostate, and most guys popped their cork right there. The kink world has long known about pegging.
In this way, pegging can provide couples with a new way to enjoy this erotic stimulation.
Stimulation known to produce well-documented prostrate orgasms.
Overall, there are many different reasons why couples may choose to engage in pegging. Each couple will have their own unique reasons for wanting to try this type of sexual activity.
With all that said, let’s talk about how to do it.
How To Peg Your Partner
Here is a step-by-step, simple guide to pegging.
Step 1) Get the Right Pegger
The first step in pegging your partner is to select the right strap-on.
It should be made of body-safe materials, and the base should be flared to prevent it from getting lost inside your partner.
The right size and shape can make all of the difference.
One thing I recommend is to shop for the toy together. It creates comfort and connection right from the beginning.
Step 2) Lube It Up, Baby
Once you’ve found the perfect dildo, it’s time to move on to lube.
You’ll need a generous amount of lube to reduce friction and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you. Did I mention that you should use lots and lots of lube?
You should probably just empty that bottle, really. Be generous.
Apply lube to both the dildo and your partner’s anus, and insert the dildo slowly and carefully.
Step 3) Pick the Right Position
The two best positions for new peggers are doggie style and a variation of missionary where the guy lifts his legs up in the air.
Both positions offer easy access to the anus and nice depth.
Placing a small pillow under the guy’s butt or lower back can help the pegger get the perfect angle.
Step 4) Start Slow and Build
As you penetrate your partner, pay attention to their body language and stop if they seem uncomfortable.
Once the dildo is fully inserted, you can start gentle movements and careful thrusting.
Experiment with different speeds and depths to find what feels good for both of you.
I like how sex educator, Hunter Riley, explains it:
Every person, regardless of gender, has thousands of nerve endings in their anal area. Every time we get aroused and have an orgasm our sphincter muscles are contracting and releasing with pleasure. I like to say that everyone’s butt is having a party during sex and arousal, but whether or not you choose to attend the party (i.e. do butt stuff) is up to you.
10 Tips for Better Pegging
To top off this article, here are 10 tips for a better pegging experience. Follow them to peg your partner like a pro.
- Use plenty of lube — it’ll make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.
- Start slow, with your smaller toys. As you get more comfortable, you can move up to larger toys.
- Listen to your partner — they’ll let you know what feels good and what doesn’t.
- Be sure to clean your toys before and after use, to avoid infection.
- Have open communication with your partner about any discomfort either of you might feel.
- If possible (and desired), use a condom on your toys to make them easier to clean and reduce the risk of infection.
- Don’t forget the penis. In certain positions (such as missionary), it’s possible to touch, stroke, and pleasure the guy’s penis and testicles during pegging.
- Be patient. It may take several trial runs before pegging is possible and pleasurable.
- Remember that there is no right or wrong way to do things — experiment and find what works for you both.
- Relax and enjoy yourself — pegging can be a fun and pleasurable experience for both partners.
The Bottom Line
Pegging is not all physical.
Don’t forget to massage your partner’s emotional response to the sexual act. He (or she) may feel especially vulnerable, embarrassed, or confused by some of the common societal norms about gender and sexuality.
Listen, validate, and allow your partner to express themselves.
Then come to an agreement about how you want to approach and experience pegging together.
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