The 3 Quickest Ways To Get Better at Sex
Time-saving tips for a total sex makeover
When you want to get better in the bedroom in a hurry, you don’t have time to try 39 made-up sex positions or spend the summer in Tibet reconnecting with your inner sex god.
You need a quick fix.
Thankfully, there are a few simple things that you can do to start seeing results almost immediately.
Here are three quick ways to get better at sex.
“Life is about growing and improving and getting better.” — Conor McGregor
Swivel Your Spotlight
One of the quickest ways to get better at sex is to swivel the spotlight on your partner. By that, I mean to focus your attention on meeting your partner's needs, not your own.
That means the more you focus on your partner and their needs, the more that they will enjoy the sexual experience.
And, therefore, they will rate you as better at sex.
Many of us fail to realize our sexual potential because we are too inwardly focused. We’re too concerned about our own enjoyment, discomfort, and pleasure.
As contradictory as it may seem, you instantly improve your sex life by focusing on your partner more than yourself.
This doesn’t mean that you should neglect your own needs entirely.
But by taking the time to explore your partner’s body and desires, you’ll not only make them feel loved and appreciated, but you’ll also likely learn a thing or two about what gets them really hot in bed.
And who knows?
In the process of focusing on your partner, you may just rediscover some of your own hidden desires.
Go Deep Not Wide
If you want to get better fast, don’t do more. In fact, do the opposite.
“Do less and obsess.” — Morten Hansen
Instead of trying to learn a little about everything, pick one thing and really commit to it. Not only will this help you to master the skill more quickly, but it will also keep you from getting discouraged.
For example, let’s say you want to learn how to play a musical instrument.
Instead of signing up for a million lessons, why not make a goal of practicing the guitar for at least 30 minutes every day?
Focusing on going deep instead of wide will help you to see real results, and that is ultimately what improving is all about.
In a GQ article about Kenneth Play, the author had this to say about the so-called “sex hacker”:
Kenneth isn’t good at sex because he won the genetic lottery. He’s good at sex because he’s worked at it. And that’s the ultimate takeaway: Good sex is about arousal and pleasure more than it’s about penetration. If, for example, you’re trying to fuck people who aren’t attracted to you… don’t. Compatible partners and practice are the keys to good sex.
If you’re looking to enhance your sex life, there’s no need to improve in every area of intimacy. Instead, focus on becoming really good at one sexual act.
I call that, “going deep not wide”
Once you’ve mastered one act, you’ll find that your improved skills make up for other areas where you come up short (literally or figuratively). Some skills even transfer from one sexual experience to another.
For example, if you become really good at kissing or oral sex, you might also find yourself becoming better at cuddling, erotic touching, and foreplay.
The key is to focus on quality over quantity.
By becoming an expert in one area, you’ll be able to better enjoy all aspects of physical intimacy. Go ahead and put some time and effort into mastering that one perfect physical act.
Your partner will definitely thank you for it later.
The Reverse Muse
If you’re looking to up your game in the bedroom, the Reverse Muse method may be for you.
A muse is a silent stage or street performer.
The Reverse Muse is all about communicating with your partner during intimacy to find out what they like and don’t like. This real-time feedback can help you quickly learn what works for them and adapt your strategy accordingly.
According to research published in the Journal of Personal and Social Psychology, the more you respond to your partner, the more satisfying your sex life.
The best part of the Reverse Muse method is that it’s not about perfection
Instead, it’s about listening to your partner and hearing what they want moment by moment.
If you’re ready to take your physical intimacy to the next level, give the Reverse Muse method a try. You may be surprised at how quickly you start seeing results.
Final Thoughts
Other ways to quickly boost your sex cred are sexting throughout the day leading up to intimacy, having sex under bright lights, and getting your adrenaline pumping (body arousal) right before sex.
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