How to Give a Nipple Orgasm

Enjoy a new way of getting her off

My sex education didn’t include an education in pleasure.

I knew sex was supposed to feel good and that an orgasm was one of the best things you could experience. And I pieced together that there were two ways to get them: clit stimulation or hitting the G-spot.

I was shocked when I found out that this was only the tip of the orgasmic iceberg.

I discovered other ways to come soon after I turned 18.

That was an especially lazy and horny season of my life. I didn’t have a ton of responsibilities and it felt like time stretched out endlessly in front of me. I was also madly in love. I couldn’t think of better ways to spend my days than exploring my boyfriend’s body and having him explore mine.

We tried anything that seemed fun. And if something felt good, we would pursue it and see how far that pleasure could go.

Often, it went all the way to an orgasm.

He would give me firm, loving, rhythmic spanks until I panted and shuddered my way to a climax.

If he squeezed my sides long enough while we made out, I could come from that too.

A few times, he managed to get me off just by rubbing the small of my back. My mind would concentrate on his fingertips tracing against my skin and I would feel my pleasure intensify until my muscles tensed up and an orgasm radiated through me.

And if he could finish me off by rubbing my back, he definitely could get me there by playing with my nipples.

Some of those orgasms I attribute to being in my late teens and hornier than I ever would be again (except during a brief stint of hormone replacement therapy). I like when my husband strokes his fingers across my back but I can’t come from it anymore. And squeezing orgasms still happen but they’re kind of rare.

The spanking orgasms I still get, though. The nipple ones too. But the conditions have to be right. Otherwise, I’ll need more than just a bit of nipple play to reach a climax.

And even when everything goes perfectly well and I get to come from him handling my tits, it’s not an earth-shattering orgasm by any means. Even a good nipple orgasm isn’t very strong. For me, they’re kind of like little baby orgasms.

They still feel really fucking good but they’re never fully satisfying. I always have the urge to go for more and get the clit-focused action that will lead to a big finish.

But that just means it’s great foreplay. It’s a nice little tease that leaves you biting your lip and wanting more.

Sometimes I’ll have a nipple orgasm early in the day when I’m planning to fuck in the evening. It leaves me excited and a little impatient for what’s coming later.

It’s basically like an orgasmic appetizer.

Nipple orgasms seem to be fairly common. Lots of women say they can get them, but it will take the right kind of stimulation to get her there. If you want to make her come just by playing with her nips, here’s how to do it.

Turn Up the Heat

It might be tempting to just go for her nipple, but building up to it is an important step.

Even though it’s a weaker climax, I actually need more arousal to have a nipple orgasm. If I’m going to get there, my body needs to be extra receptive.

So, take the time to warm her up. Rub and grope her breasts. Tease the areola around her nipple. Kiss and lick her tits all over.

Working your way up to stronger sensations is going to create anticipation and get her breathlessly horny, which will increase her chances of getting off when you finally start playing with her nipples.

Help Her Focus

Some women also need a lot of concentration to achieve a nipple orgasm.

She might be able to come from clit stimulation or G-spot rubbing without a lot of mental effort, but the pleasure she gets from nipple play is going to be a lot more subtle. If she can’t focus on it, she might not be able to get over the edge and actually reach a climax.

Avoid doing anything distracting, like peppering her with open-ended questions. Asking “Do you like that?” or “Do you want it harder or softer?” is fine, but “What do you want me to do next?” is going to take more mental bandwidth.

Telling her not to touch you is also a really good move. If she’s pleasuring you she’ll be trying to keep her rhythm steady, getting the pressure right, and reading the feedback you’re giving her. Instead, let her sink into her own pleasure.

Go Soft

Nipples can get sore if you go too hard for too long. Keeping your touch and your tongue soft will let you go longer without making her so tender she can’t come.

Saliva and lube help a lot. Licking your fingers to keep them wet is a good idea, and it will make her enjoy your touch even more.

Flavored lube is often used for oral sex, but it’s fine for nipples too. It’s a lot tastier than licking plain lube off her tits and it will be extra pleasurable for her.

Pinch, Roll, and Tug

Even though you should be gentle when playing with her nipples, you don’t want to be too timid with your fingers. If she’s going to come from nipple play, she’ll need a bit of intensity.

Give her nipples a pinch without applying too much pressure.

Tug on them. Too hard might be painful, but doing it lightly can be incredibly stimulating.

One of my favorite nipple moves is having them rolled between the thumb and index finger. The touch from two fingertips at once combined with the way it softly twists the nipple is just perfect.

Lick It Like a Clit

Use your tongue the same way you would use it on her pussy.

Flick the tip of your tongue against her hard nipple.

Lick it softly at a steady pace.

Give her breast a squeeze while you give her nipple a gentle suck.

And of course, do circles. Trace your tongue around and around her nipple to really get her going.

Add Some Gentle Vibrations

Some women really like using vibrators on their nipples. But a lot of us find them a little too strong.

If you’re going to use a toy on her nipples, try one that has some light settings and only turn the power up if she wants you to.

I couldn’t enjoy vibrations at all until I tried a toy called the Tryst. It’s technically a couples sex toy, but it was the first one I owned that had a really gentle mode that my nipples could actually put up with.

Using the Ora 3 on my nipples felt really fucking good, too. That one’s designed to mimic oral sex, but the circling motions it makes are really stimulating when held in the right spot.

When She’s Close, Keep Going

Nipple orgasms have the same pattern as any other orgasm.

It starts with a lot of arousal as you tease, touch, and seduce her. Then there’s a buildup of pleasure as you play with her tits. After that, she gets to the edge. That’s when she’s really close to coming but needs something to tip her over into an orgasm.

When you reach that point, you need to find something that works and keep giving to her until she hits her climax.

Keep the same stimulation going — same speed, same intensity, same everything — until she hits that peak.

Don’t Sweat It

Not everyone can achieve a nipple orgasm, so don’t sweat it if you can’t make her come with nipple play. Just chalk it up as a good try and keep fooling around.

It’s really not a big deal if you can’t. Nipple orgasms are fun, but they’re not essential. There are other ways to give her a bigger, stronger, and more satisfying climax.

But all these techniques are still really useful. Use them in your foreplay or while you’re fucking. Even if she doesn’t come, you’re playing with tits and that’s a win.

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