I Tried a Couples Sex Toy

It felt like my husband had two penises

My husband and I have always used sex toys in the bedroom (we’ve occasionally used them in the kitchen, too, though it’s been a while).

They’ve almost always been vibrators — bullets and rabbits, mainly.

These days, vibrators almost always make a feature appearance when we’re having sex. More often than not, I’ll end by using one on myself while he’s fucking me.

But years ago, busting out the vibrator was a rare occurrence. And when we did use a sex toy, it was almost always during foreplay. We usually put it away during sex instead of using it as the cherry on my orgasmic sundae.

Some of that had to do with me.

I didn’t feel comfortable introducing toys in that way. I worried that my husband would feel inadequate or even insulted if I used a vibrator when I was using his cock. I knew supplementing what he did with a toy would give me a stronger, better orgasm, but I just couldn’t admit it to him.

Then I realized I was justifying not having sex because of it.

I was already mutliorgasmic by that point, so sex could last a while. By the time we reached the finish line, I was usually a bit desensitized from having so much stimulation over the course of the last thirty to sixty minutes.

That made it hard to have a powerful climax without using a toy.

Sometimes, I’d get really into it and grab the vibrator at the end to get myself off. But I usually felt too embarrassed to do it.

So, I’d get some decent orgasms but I wouldn’t always get the kind I wanted most.

It got to a point where I told myself there wasn’t any sense in going through all the trouble of seducing and being seduced, getting set up together, going through all the foreplay, and having all that sex when I could just masturbate and guarantee a strong orgasm. Why spend an entire night and all that energy working for something that might not even be as powerful?

I was cheating myself out of having more sex and cheating myself out of better sex when I did have it.

And I know if I gave him the choice, Mr. Austin would have chosen more sex over me sparing his feelings.

So, I decided to stop choosing between my husband and vibrator. I told myself that from then on, I wouldn’t worry. I wouldn’t be embarrassed. I would just give myself the stimulation I needed and that was that.

It was a huge improvement. Getting constant clitoral stimulation while being penetrated made it so that I was always hugely satisfied once we were done.

I always looked for toys I could use by myself, but now I was looking for one that could make it easier for me to get those two kinds of stimulation at once.

I settled on a vibrating cockring. I could get fucked while the toy vibed my clit, and it would all be hands-free. I thought I had found the perfect solution.

I hadn’t.

Once things got underway, Mr. Austin slid the cockring over his shaft and turned on the vibrator. We fucked in the missionary position and it wasn’t the experience I hoped it would be. The toy hit my clit but it was more like constant teasing than constant stimulation. Instead of applying continuous vibration to my clit, it just kept tapping against it.

Every time his cock thrust into me, I’d get a little buzz on my clit, but as soon as he thrust out, he’d take the vibrations away.

This was nothing like using my rabbit during sex. This was just a disappointment. I cleaned the toy, put it back in my closet, and never took it out again.

Rediscovering Couples Toys

I figured couples sex toys weren’t meant for us. Maybe Mr. Austin is one or two inches too long to make them work well. Maybe my clit’s just weird. Who knows, but I stopped looking for a toy meant for two since my experience with the vibrating cockring.

I didn’t really give them a second thought until I received a box of sex toys from the Doc Johnson company. I was really excited to use all of the things they sent me, but I was a tiny bit skeptical because it included a couple’s toy, the Tryst Multi Erogenous Zone Massager.

I was still really curious to try it out because of its unique design — it’s shaped almost like a vibrating wishbone — but I was trying not to get my hopes up.

It’s a versatile toy. The instructions list 12 different suggested uses and some of them are for solo play. Even if I didn’t manage to get much out of it with Mr. Austin, I’d still have an interesting vibrator to add to my collection.

I charged it and told my husband I had plans for us that evening. When he came to bed, I handed him the Tryst and instructed him to use it on me.

He stared on my nipples and I was already pleasantly surprised by this toy. I’ve used other vibrators on my nipples but I never really enjoyed it — it always felt a bit weird and uncomfortable. On its lowest setting, though, the Tryst was gentle enough and it felt tingly and arousing.

Then, he used it while fingering and going down on me. He alternated between his tongue or fingers and the toy’s vibrating arms. The ends of the two arms vibrating around my clit kind of felt like the ears from a rabbit toy, which is a sensation I am always down for.

But none of that compared to Mr. Austin wearing it.

When Mr. Austin slid it over his shaft and turned on the vibrations, I was bracing myself for another disappointing tease. But I was wrong. Very, very wrong.

We did missionary again, like the first time we used a couples toy. He climbed onto me and slowly inched his cock into my pussy. As I felt the vibrations against my clit, I knew I was going to have some fun.

The difference with the Tryst is that it fit a little less tightly around his shaft than the cockring did. So, when he pulled away while thrusting, the vibrator was still touching my clit so I could get constant stimulation while getting fucked.

But it was even better than that. Every time he thrust into me, he would push against the toy, nudging the arms harder on my clit. The vibrations were constant, but that pushing meant I kept getting jolts of greater intensity.

It’s hard for me to describe exactly how it felt, but after we were done I told Mr. Austin that it was like he had two cocks and one was fucking my clit.

It ended in a really strong orgasm — and then another.

And I couldn’t stop thinking about it after we were done. I looked up from my morning tea the next day and told my husband “We should try the Tryst again soon.”

In part, I wanted to try it using other positions. But mostly, I wanted a repeat of the same experience it gave me the first time.

Don’t Give Up Too Easily

I gave up on couples toys after one disappointing experience.

I only gave them another shot because the Tryst’s design was intriguing and the various ways of using it gave me hope that I’d find some way to enjoy myself with it.

I was shocked that I got so much pleasure out of using it as a vibrating cockring, and even more surprised that it’s my favorite way to use it.

Now, I regret that I gave up looking for a toy like this five years ago. I let one bad night with a toy that wasn’t right for me cross an entire category of sex toys off my list.

I probably missed out on a lot of fun experiences because of it, but I can make up for lost time.

When I tried a couples sex toy for the first time, I really just wanted a hands-free vibrator I could get fucked while using. Using the Tryst made me realize a couples toy can give me more. It wasn’t just hands-free — it enhanced the penetration I was getting.

So, I’ve learned my lesson. Having a disappointing experience isn’t a reason to give up — it’s an opportunity to experiment more. It’s worth staying open-minded instead. Because if you keep coming back to what you’re familiar with, you could miss out on an amazing silicone wishbone that makes you feel like your clit is getting fucked.

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