He Gave My Clit a Blow Job and It Rocked My Entire Universe
This rarely talked-about oral sex technique can give your partner with a vulva mind-blowing orgasms and create a deeper bond
I’ve recently begun my own sexual revolution. What started as a much-anticipated journey into polyamory turned into finding a partner who fulfills my every need and desire — and then some.
The past 10 months have been highly eventful as far as learning new ways that my body loves to receive pleasure, and he’s the one who taught me.
It’s worth reiterating. My partner, who does not have a vulva, has been teaching me things about my own body — showing me that I can experience different types of pleasure that I never even realized I was capable of feeling.
This, my friends, is because he’s not afraid of trying new things in the bedroom. Our intimate sessions often go to our favored activities, sure. We both love missionary and oral, and much time is spent doing those classic activities that never seem to get old with us. But now I’m with a partner who is just as interested in mixing it up and branching out into new territory.
This includes not only new positions and new toys — but simply putting a new spin on typical activities.
The other night, he did something I never would have even thought to suggest. Something I didn’t even know was a thing.
It was a totally new-to-me way of receiving oral sex. And let me tell you, it worked like a charm and got me to climax faster, and harder, than what is typical for me.
He gave my clit a blow job — and the result was an intense, squirting, body-shaking orgasm that had me covering my own mouth so that I didn’t wake the neighbors with my screaming.
It also left me feeling more emotionally bonded to him.
The clit blow job is a game-changer.
The first time he did it
We were both enjoying a long and leisurely lovemaking session, as we often do. We also happened to take edibles that evening, which we sometimes do. High sex can be amazing sex, but that’s another story.
Some edibles make me more sensitive and I orgasm more easily. Others have made the sex feel pleasurable for hours, but seem to cause a barrier to orgasm. That barrier and longevity have never been an issue, as we get to spend all that time just enjoying each other’s bodies and minds as we play, with zero pressure to get to a finish line.
Suffice it to say, I was pretty sure I wouldn’t climax on this particular occasion. But, that didn’t keep him from giving my body sensual delight and trying with all his might to help me come.
That’s because he genuinely loves spending his time and effort making me feel good whether I reach an orgasm or not, and he always lets me know that when I feel self-conscious and apologize for taking so long.
In fact, he always tells me to never apologize for that. Communication in bed — letting your partner know she is worth every bit of effort — is a beautiful thing.
Up to that point, he’d spent some time fingering me, then we moved on to PIV sex with a vibrator — something that has been a proven method to getting me off in the past.
Everything felt amazing, like my body was on the precipice of orgasm for nearly an hour. I was just enjoying a low simmer without actually being driven over the edge. It was a relaxing, almost meditative state of bliss. Not even the vibrator made me climax while he was thrusting into me, but what a ride.
He soon moved on to oral sex, and by then, my body was almost motionless, nearly drained. My partner has a lot of energy, and his stamina is greater than mine. I usually like to tense my core muscles and thrust into his face when he goes down on me, but I was deliciously and thoroughly spent, splaying my legs open and doing absolutely nothing while he gently kissed and licked and circled my clit with his tongue. I loved it.
And when he started doing something with my clit that he’d never tried before, I loved it even more.
He started sucking it, which is something he’s thrown into the repertoire before. Sucking the clitoris isn’t exactly an unusual oral sex method. Some women like it a lot, others not so much. Everyone’s different.
But how about sucking the clitoris in such a way that you’re actually treating it like a small penis, giving your partner with a vulva the best blow job of your life?
Don’t sweat the technique
My partner has never given another man oral, but he certainly seemed to take to it well, applying the same sucking and stroking methods with his lips and mouth in the very same way I do when I’m blowing him.
A clit blow job isn’t just keeping your head stationary and sucking the clitoris with your lips and cheeks like a straw or piece of candy — though creating that suction effect is part of it.
By that point, he’d made me feel so good for so long that my clitoris was fully engorged with pleasure. This made it possible for him to take both my clit and my clitoral hood into his mouth entirely, keeping it erect while bobbing his head up and down on it, using his neck muscles as he worked me, over and over, in a gloriously erotic rhythm.
He continued sucking and moving his head in that same up-and-down motion, non-stop. Slow at first, then faster and faster. And faster. With that same, steady rhythm.
I found myself placing my hand on his head and threading my fingers through his hair, pressing down slightly as he worked and enjoying the show.
He kept going, picking up the steady rhythm and bobbing up and down on my swollen, sensitive clitoris until I came — squirting the juices of my orgasm all over his face and onto his tongue, the warm liquid of the pleasure he’d coaxed from me trickling down his throat.
Throw traditional gender roles out the window
Part of what makes a clit blow job so incredible is the heady sensation of feeling empowered. The gender roles are reversed. I’m typically more feminine, but wearing the masculine and playing with gender-swapping feels fun and different. And it really added to the physical pleasure for me.
Much the same as a cis female pegging her cis male counterpart.
But this was something more because it felt so wildly pleasurable and made me orgasm harder than ever, unlike when I pegged my ex.
And don’t think size will stop you from enjoying a clit blow job. My clitoris isn’t extra large by any means. Even when it’s swollen with pleasure, I’d say it’s your average-sized, medium-to-small clit.
But my partner was able to work with that and do things to me that felt like nothing I’d ever experienced before. Fun fact: I’ve had vivid dreams of having a dick and getting head, and I’ve felt actual sexual pleasure during such dreams. But this was reality and so much better — an erotic, climactic dream come true. Or cum true? (Sorry — I can’t resist a sex pun!)
Something about this method feels so different from the usual licking, flicking, blowing, and sucking gently with your lips. The movement is more intensive, the sucking more definitive, the bobbing head and thrusting neck adding a certain something that can’t be replicated any other way.
For the moment, my partner was the more submissive one, taking the shaft of my clit into him until he drained every bit of come I had.
At the same time, he was more powerful, because he held me and all my pleasure at his mercy.
Just like when I give him a blow job.
And it wasn’t one bit emasculating. In my eyes, he’s a god of sex. And a goddess. All wrapped up in one.
He’s the best I’ve ever had and leaves me trembling and climaxing like no one ever has. And his willingness to explore new things and take care of all my sexual needs makes me feel more emotionally bonded with him than any past partner.
True story.
Try it for yourself — and for your partner with a clitoris
Treating a vulva to a glorious session of oral sex can run a very wide range of varying techniques. Most of us are aware that you typically want to start slow and take your time. You don’t just zero in on the clit right away — you warm up with some kissing on the thighs and labia, then maybe some sensual licking.
When you do move in on the clitoris, your partner might respond well to gentle strokes of the tongue, flicking up and down or side to side, pressing against the clit in a circular motion with the flat of the tongue, or using your lips and maybe nose to massage that central sensitive spot. And many of us love when you incorporate fingers or toys in the vagina while stimulating the clitoris.
Your partner also might respond incredibly well to you trying a clit blow job — take it from a gal whose sexual world has shifted for the better. Way better.
I tell my partner he’s the best sex I’ve ever had. I also jokingly say he’s the best sex anyone has ever had with anyone. Even though I know there’s no metric to really prove that, I constantly and consistently suspect it may be true, the more we play with and discover each other. The more we connect mentally and emotionally.
Trying new things in bed leads to better sex and a stronger bond with your partner. The most important thing that has made sex better now than when I was married to my ex is having a partner who is not only willing to study my body, but who gets pleasure out of taking the time and effort to give me pleasure.
Communication and consent are both essential to this of course, and so is playfulness.
In order to discover better, more joyous, out-of-this-world sex, you and your partner have to be willing to go into uncharted sexual territory together.
And if trying something new doesn’t work, don’t let that stop you from trying other new things. Be able to laugh about it and keep playing in novel ways. Have fun and just enjoy each other as you seek out new sexual adventures.
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