The Complete Works on Ejaculation Control — You Can Quietly Learn the Why, What, Who Where, When & How
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I didn’t fully understand what just flew out of my penis, nor the associated feeling.
It happened so fast!
I first ejaculated when I was 15 years old in my grandma’s shower.
The sad thing is I didn’t feel like I had anyone to talk to about this. Neither probably did you.
Ejaculation is a phenomenon that appears like a natural bodily reaction. And it is but many aspects to it that require further exploration.
Why practice non-ejaculation?
Keeping the ‘whys’ in mind help when things get hard (pardon the pun.)
Bigger & deeper orgasms. Your orgasms over time will change in nature. The sensations associated with the orgasm will get stronger and will last a lot longer (before my orgasm lasted just a few seconds, now it lasts for over a minute.)
I now experience whole-body orgasms. Meaning the orgasm energy is not just located around the groin.
I experience different types of sensations exploding inside my body, in different areas. This occurs mostly in my chest and abdomen.
However, sensations and movement happen from the top of my head down through to my toes.
The orgasm energy sometimes will move through my body in a wave-like motion. The wave of energy takes over my body and as such my whole body moves in a wave-like motion.
Other times my pelvis will buck up and down very strongly.
I have no control over these sensations. These experiences happen by themselves.
The feelings and sensations are highly pleasurable and satisfying.
Increase in your pleasure. When you learn to control your ejaculation you can have sex for longer. The reason being you don’t lose your erection. Your arousal level being higher for longer enables longer and much bigger orgasms.
Increase your partner’s pleasure. Similarly to the above point when you last longer or don’t ejaculate during sex you can have sex for longer. Which your partner will thank you for.
Instead of you and your partner only having sex once. You now can have sex with her multiple times and she can enjoy multiple orgasms.
Moving sex from a physical act to lovemaking.
As a result, your intimacy will deepen with your partner.
The power increase in energy. You lose a huge amount of energy when you ejaculate. When you stop ejaculating this energy is no longer lost. If you don’t ejaculate over a few weeks there will be a noticeable higher energy level.
This abundance of energy can then be directed into following your career, dreams, and passions.
Dispose of porn. If you require porn to get aroused, this is a sign that all is not right. When you practice non-ejaculation the sexual energy is kept inside. As such with the energy level high little effort is required to get aroused. Hence the use of using porn becomes obsolete.
Goal-orientated sex. Your goal during sex shifts from ejaculating as fast as your can, to one of enjoying the journey and deepening of intimacy with your partner. Thus mechanical and lifeless sex will be an act of the past.
Emotional Maturity. I noticed when I was able to manage my sexual energy, this, in turn, translated to being able to regulate and manage my emotions. The disappointment associated with ejaculating too fast became a thing of the past. With this internal power comes an ability to feel more deeply into your emotions.
Spirituality. Being a more powerful man allows you to focus on your investigation into who you are. This question is at the heart of all the great religions and philosophies.
Self-empowerment. You now have a choice over when you will ejaculate. Having a choice or when you do or don’t do something translates into other areas of your life.
What is non-ejaculation?
Ejaculation is the release of semen from the penis.
Control of ejaculation allows you to keep the semen and sexual energy inside the body.
Who is non-ejaculation practice for?
Several types of men can benefit most from a non-ejaculation practice.
Those who I have seen benefit the most are:
Troubled Millennial. You are 16 to 30 years old. You suffer from social anxiety and there is an experience of something not being right. You have suffered quietly with varying degrees of depression.
Weekends are spent binge drinking and holding onto the hope of having sex with females you hope to meet at bars. Your friends are getting ahead, buying a house, and getting married but you aren’t.
You ejaculate frequently to pornography. You regret it afterward. But feel powerless to stop.
Married Man. Your early 30s to 50 years old and while your material wealth has grown over time. Deep isolation has crept in.
Your marriage is either overly challenging or very passive. One thing you do know is that you never thought you would be caught in a sexless partnership with someone you thought loved you.
Your exciting dreams and goals you once had are still no closer to manifesting. You are sick and tired of experiencing shame and rejection from your partner when you make advances for sex. As a result, you no longer make an effort to have sex with her. You now have found unhealthy ways to ejaculate.
The Separated Man. Separated from your façade of marriage. You thought once out of it that you would soar like an eagle. However, the emptiness continues to plague you.
Your friendships from your 20s and those built through your marriage have all but faded. Your drinking has been on the increase. And when drunk your dreams don’t seem too far away. You plan to go on big holidays that will set you free. But these things are never eventual.
You lack masculine energy and purpose in your life. Pornography and an occasional one-night stand are your unsatisfying methods for sexual gratification.
Note this is only a small number of the profiles of men I have seen that have benefited greatly from semen retention.
All men can benefit greatly from this practice, whether you are in a relationship or not.
Where to practice non-ejaculation?
You require a space that is quiet and feels safe to practice semen retention.
The reason for this is that you need to be able to relax and be focused on the practices.
If you think your grandma or kids could burst through the door at any time and catch you with your pants around your ankles you will not be at ease.
When to practice non-ejaculation?
Mastery of ejaculation control will take time.
Due to getting easily caught up in the pleasurable feeling of experiencing an orgasm. It’s best to start the practices by yourself.
There are several practices you can do by yourself.
Once you have gained some proficiency in your solo practices. You can then move on to practicing semen retention with your partner while having sex.
Remember to have that conversation with her about your practice. At first, there maybe be some awareness. However, this will quickly disappear when you can keep repeatedly bringing her to orgasm.
You will be pleasantly surprised how her support will greatly improve your non-ejaculation practice.
How do I practice non-ejaculation?
There are practices you can do by yourself and with your sexual partner.
The most effective place to start practices you can do by yourself. Then move on to non-penetrative practices with your partner.
Solo Practice
The Big Draw. When you get close to orgasm when masturbating, do the following while either lying on your back or standing up:
- Exhale slowly. Expelling all the air from your lungs.
- Inhale until the lungs are full of air.
- Holding your breath, clench all muscles in your body as tight as possible. Tense all the muscles in your face, down through your trunk and limbs, including contracting your muscles in the feet and toes.
- Hold your breath for as long as possible, with the muscle tense. But do not overstrain.
- When you are ready to release, exhale slowly and gently release all the muscles in your body.
- Upon the release of the breath, on the next 5 inhalations, visualize the sexual energy moving up the spine to your head, and on the exhalation imagine the energy coming down the front of the body to the stomach.
This exercise will assist with managing your sexual energy. It will show you how to be in command of your sexual energy.
There is a tipping point. Called the point of no return. That is when your arousal level takes you from immediately before orgasm over to that point where you will orgasm and ejaculate. You have no power to stop it from happening.
Learning this exercise will assist in decreasing the sexual energy around the groin and put you back in a place of power.
Shared Partner Practice
Looping Breathe. Your connection with your partner is greatly increased through this exercise. The looping breath draws on the use of your breath and visualization.
- Sitting with your legs crossed on a soft surface, your partner sits on your lap and wraps her legs around your hips.
- You inhale and imagine your sexual energy rising from your groin up your spine. On the exhalation image, your sexual energy goes down the front of the body.
- On the next inhalation shift your focus onto your partner. Imagine the sexual energy rising from her pelvis, up her spine to the head. Then on your exhalation imagine her sexual energy coming down to her stomach.
- Your partner is to do this same exercise.
- Keep a soft gaze into each other’s eyes.
- Remain relaxed during the whole practice.
The purpose of both techniques is to move the sexual energy away from the groin area. This assists with releasing sexual tension and practicing non-ejaculation.
Concluding thought
This isn’t about becoming an alpha male or a sexual stud to impress the girls in the bedroom
From personal experience, ejaculation control was one part of my transformation into being that masculine man I knew I always was.
Semen retention is a practice that allows you to reclaim your power and be the man you really are.
