Path to Masculinity: The Ultimate How-to Guide for Ejaculation Control
Starting your ejaculation control practice is hard.
“You have to be fast because my parents will be home soon” she instructed me.
We were both 1st-year university students, still leaving at home with our parents.
“Bend me over the couch then I can look out the window down the driveway to see when my parents come home” she further explained as we sat on her couch in the lounge room.
“No lay back on the couch it’s more comfortable” I replied very nervously.
Then we started.
I was going for it like there was no tomorrow. Like when you see rabbits going crazy on each other. I humped her so fast I was moving like Flash out of the Marvel comics. I was going for gold!
“What is that it?” she replied angrily, as I withdrew. I ejaculated in 90 seconds (and that is being generous.)
I felt ashamed and very confused. I thought she wanted me to cum fast. So I did.
That was the first and last time we had sex. And was the end of our relationship. She emotionally withdrew from me after this disastrous (and looking back humorous) experience.
I had no control over my ejaculation and orgasm response.
And now, I am the master of my domain.
There Is No Turning Back
Knowing your Point of No Return (PNR) is the secret to mastering your ejaculation response.
Before ejaculating, either masturbating or during sex, your sexual energy goes through the roof. Meaning your arousal level peaks very fast in the first few minutes.
Your body, when sexually aroused and stimulated, reaches a threshold where it takes over. And when it does, you have no way of stopping yourself from ejaculating and orgasming.
Your pelvic floor muscles contract, orgasm takes place and you expel seamen.
That’s it, you are done. Game over. Hasta la vista baby.
This threshold is known as the Point of No Return (PNR.) When you cross this point no matter what you do or try, you are going to ejaculate.
If you would like to master the practice of ejaculation control, the first place to start is working with the PNR.
It’s Getting Hot in Here — Arousal Rate
“You will need to become increasingly aware of the speed at which you get aroused. This sounds pretty straightforward, but most men pay little attention to their arousal rate. Often men go from erection to ejaculation like a race car, without taking time to notice, let alone enjoy, the sights along the way.”
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There are varying degrees of arousal. Your arousal level builds up over time.
I have found some men think you are either horny or you are not. This may be due to the arousal level escalating so fast.
On the graph 0 is no arousal and 10 is the point of ejaculation and orgasm. The PNR is at 8.
You don’t have conscious control to stop going into orgasm and ejaculate when your arousal levels are between points 8 to 10.
You do have conscious control in between 0 to 7.9 arousal levels. This means that in between this level you will not be ejaculating.
It’s this powerful lustful sexual feeling that is experienced in the build-up to an orgasm that you need to befriend and be the master over.
To do this you must get to know the sensations in your body.
You need to feel the rate at which your sexual energy level increases during sex or masturbation. When you learn the various techniques explained below, you can use them to manage your arousal level.
You want to learn this because you can then choose when you ejaculate or even not to ejaculate. You can benefit greatly from not ejaculating and keeping your vital energy inside the body.
The Practical Side — Relax Don’t Do It When You (Don’t) Want To Come
When you do the following practices you will be opened up to a whole new world.
Your practices change and transform your sexual experiences (and other areas of your life.)
#1 The Pause
This is the single most important practice.
That is to PAUSE. Yep that its. Just pause.
Whether during sex or masturbating, simply pause.
When you stop stimulating yourself the arousal level will immediately drop. You can tell this by the feeling in your body.
You will only have to pause for a few seconds. As your sexual energy level will drop very quickly.
Once your sexual energy level decreases you can resume.
#2 Self-pleasuring
I found it a lot easier to start with regulating my arousal level through masturbation than during sex.
I found this was because I had more control over what happened when I was by myself.
When you are in the heat of battle so to speak during sex, it’s very easier to get caught up in the moment.
How to do:
1. Selfpleasure yourself (masturbate), including the whole shaft and scrotum.
2. Beware of the sensations and, most importantly, your arousal level. Notice your breath. Has your breathing become faster or slower? Deeper or shallower? Has your heart rate increased? Self-awareness is a key element.
3. When your arousal level increases you may contract your muscles. Beware of the sexual energy around the groin. Holding your focus on this area, tell yourself to relax. Relax your anus and perineum. Immediately, you will feel your sexual energy release from this area. Accompanied by a decrease in sexual energy.
4. Regulating your arousal level through pausing is of vital importance to the whole process. Refer to the above graph. When you first start managing your arousal state keep it between 4 and 6. After you have some success. You can then stretch to do 5 to 7. If you go up to 8 straightway you will tip over the PNR.
To increase your chance for success consider the following:
Frequency. Decide on how many times a week you will do this.
Time. For how long you will commit to each session.
Stop. Don’t ejaculate, not at first anyway. You will want to commit to this. As it will stop you from getting caught up in the moment.
If you have issues around the sexual energy remaining high after doing this practice, then you can:
· Go for a run
· Cold shower
· Do 30 push-ups
· Breathing exercises (I found this to be the most beneficial)
These physical exercises will move the sexual energy and release any pressure you feel.
I committed to 1-month blocks and had goals. The week before I reached the end of the month. Depending on how I went, I would set the goals for the following month.
I failed many times. That is I went over the PNR. But I saw progress over time.
#3 During Sex
If you are in a relationship, talk to your partner and explain what you are doing. In my experience, they will want to help and support you.
If they need any convincing, tell them when you last longer it means more orgasms for them! She will quickly come around.
You can regulate your arousal level during sex in the following ways:
Microcosmic orbit. This is an effective technique taken from the Taoists. You do this practice during intercourse.
When you breathe in, imagine the sexual energy that is located at the testicles running up your spine than to the top of your head. When you exhale, imagine the sexual energy coming down the front line of the body to your navel.
You can heighten the experience by taking the tip of the tongue to touch the palate behind the teeth.
Continue to cycle in this manner.
Withdrawal. When you feel that you have got aroused too fast during sex and you are about to ejaculate, immediately stop! Withdraw your penis.
You recommence sex when you feel the arousal level has dropped.
Breath. If you feel like you are about to ejaculate, hold your breath. This is not a practice I recommend as this will cause a contraction of your sexual energy. But it’s a good emergency practice to use sometimes.
This may sound all very mechanical and calculated. And to be honest it is. But your sexual energy and addictive patterns of ejaculation are extremely strong and embedded in your nervous system.
Setting boundaries and a structure give a clear path to success. After you have got to a point when you are satisfied with your progress, the rigid schedules can be dropped.
The best thing I found at the start was committing for a set period to not ejaculate. Having a goal helps to start focused and gets you through the hard periods.
When you set goals and achieve them you feel empowered.
From your successful ejaculation practice, your energy levels will go through the roof. You will radiate masculine energy. No longer will you be a slave to your trifling desires. You will also conquer and excel in other areas of your life.
Self-empowerment is a cornerstone of any self-improvement and spiritual practice.