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Confession — I Have Never Had A Boyfriend At 37

The reasons I am glad I have never been wifed up

Bachelor Gal

Once I tell people I have never been in a relationship, they are stunned. They cannot fathom how I have been uncoupled for this long, especially with so much dating experience (and a fun personality). Truthfully, for a while, I thought I was cursed. Then I began to embrace singleness.

Singleness means no commitment or strings attached, and I can mingle tingle, and dingle with whomever I please. I am footloose and fancy-free, while many are in meaningless, boring relationships. This single thing sounded like a good gig, so I ran with it and became a bachelor gal. Guys are praised for being single at my age, so why can’t I mingle in my 30s?

Anyhoo, today I sat and thought about reasons I am thankful I have never been in a relationship.

No Cray Cray Exes

Since no guy has ever called me bae, I have no worries about crazy exes. Nor do I have to worry about running into them (and their new squeeze) while shopping at my local Whole Foods. I can boldly walk about and not worry about trying to avoid anyone.

Additionally, I don’t have to share custody of pets, see awkward reminders around the apartment, or have people ask about him (because he doesn’t exist!). There are no bad memories, run-ins with his family, or hateful endings. The best thing is I have no one to compare my future boyfriend to. We start with a clean slate since I’m a boyfriend virgin.

Explore All Options

If you are still single at my age, you should have explored all types of men (or women). Asian, White, Black, Mixed Race, Latino, etc. If there is a buffet, why keep trying the same thing? That’s so boring! Try a little Kung Pao one day and a little Caribbean Jerk the next. I’m just saying, mix it up! (Growl)

Whenever I meet people who state, “I only date this type of person,” it boggles my mind. When you stick to the Toms of the world, you miss out on the Simons, Dantes, and Ronaldos. What about them; they want some lovin’ too? Have an open mind; the love of your life might not be Chad — it might be Jose standing across the street…(just saying).

Know What I Want

Because I have never had a boo thang and have a lengthy dating history, I have discovered what I want and don’t want.

What I want

Funny Outgoing Ambitious Open (minded) Thrill-seeker Good at massages Skillful lover Intelligent Spiritual Vegetarian Nature lover Fun-loving

What I don’t want

Boring Lazy Greedy Stinky Insecure Jealous Minuteman

See, I’m a simple gal. Apply Here.

Found Myself

One of the best reasons is I have found myself. Being single for so long has not always been easy. But truthfully, I was not ready for a serious relationship anyway. I had some serious shit to work through. Once I healed from my past, I began to date myself. And I like what I see; funny, pleasant, fearless, adventurous, and loving; a free spirit and free thinker full of compassion and positivity. Okay, I’ll stop bragging now…

Final Thoughts

For a long time, we have been pushed toward marriage and relationships because of social norms. Well, of course, I do not agree. People have the right to be free, explore, and connect with their special someone when they are ready. On the contrary, it is great to have the experience of love. “Is it better to have loved and lost or not to have loved at all?”

That isn’t a question I can answer, but maybe you can? For now, I am just chillin’ like a villain until my one and only comes along. Until then, I am in a serious, fun relationship with myself. :)

© Ari Love, 2022