Can We Be More Direct In Our Casual Conversations?
I hope the answer is a BIG YES
At work, our poker face is up. We have to think about the consequences of our words before we speak up. So we deliberate, and we hesitate. We buy time to find the right words.
It’s strange how it could be the same at home. A recent episode while crossing the road explains this.
My partner and I just got off the bus and walking towards the traffic light. While on our way, the red man turned green.
It was a slightly drizzling afternoon, and we were wearing flip-flops. When we pick up the pace, the flip-flops will start to throw water onto our calves.
Back to the traffic light. We were not too far away when the green man appeared. My partner asked me this.
Partner: Shall we cross?
Me: Okay.
I responded without giving much thought. Would anyone have any? Okay, maybe. I say this because of the next conversation we had while crossing the road.
Pissed-Off Partner: Why did you choose to cross? My calves are now wet!
Me: Huh!?
And we rushed our crossing just before the green man turned red. As we arrived at the shelter, she immediately thrust the grocery bag to me (I was lugging many) and took a tissue out to clean her calves.
She was obviously angry with my decision.
But hey, come on. I merely responded to a question. A question opens multiple possibilities and, we might get the answers we don’t want.
Right?
I wonder if the World could become better if we can be more direct in our casual conversations. I mean it.
Can’t we say what we mean?
I mean, it is much better compared to handling emotional trauma caused by a decision that was never made.
Let’s Be More Direct,
Aldric
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