Abortion, right or wrong?
A complex topic to write about
Abortion is a topic that many find right or wrong; I will leave my view at the end of this article. Although, as a man, my opinion will have limits, and I have never carried a baby or bonded the way a mother could during pregnancy.
I hope you will accept my opinion is still a valid one; I have some experience with this topic, as I will reveal a bit later on, but for now, let us look at both sides of the argument.
This article was inspired by Lucy Socha, who wrote “To Abort, Or Not to Abort, And Maybe” please also check out her article.
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, and this article has not been written as a form of advice. This topic may also cause stress, so if you have been affected by abortion, it may not be the right article to read.
For abortions
A woman can get pregnant and carry a child for the term of the birth; the bond they must create with that child, people tell me, is a special and a unique experience, one which I will never feel as a man.
In the UK, by law, it is the woman's decision if they have an abortion or give birth to that child; whether that is right or wrong is another matter that I will explore later.
While it is not an easy choice for many women, I have worked in the adult industry, where it is common to have an abortion or take the morning after pill rather than use protection.
That industry is not tightening up. However, that was just an example; as a teenager, I also, on many occasions, did not use protection and got caught after a one night stand.
In that case, my now twenty-one-year-old son was born, and we have a tremendous relationship, but I will leave that story for now.
I can understand the argument of it being a woman's decision; at the end of the day, it is their body, and they should choose what to do with it, or should they?
If they have an abortion, should this be classed as “manslaughter”? They are taking a person’s life. This brings another debate; I am told that a person has not developed on the one side, which is why it is “right” to have that choice.
What portion of the man's feelings should come into this? 50%? Anything less would have zero impact, anything more would not be fair on the woman; it is a difficult one to call.
What if one of the parents to be wanted to keep the child? If the woman wanted to, she could; it is her right by law; however, if the man tried to keep it, he had no choice, is that right?
As I said, I have experiences that I will talk about later; please remember that what I have talked about to date is not an opinion; it questions you may like to answer.
Against abortion
The woman has the right to decide; it is her body, her bond, and 50% her baby. So why should she be stopped if she wants to have the baby?
Life is growing inside, and it is a beautiful and natural thing to happen; this is what life is all about; it is the “circle of life.” No one has the right to terminate a life, and if they do, there should be a punishment.
If the man would like to take full responsibility for the baby, they should not be denied, should they? What if they never asked for any support but took the whole responsibility themselves?
The main floor in this is they cannot carry that baby for the term of the pregnancy, but there is hope that there will be alternatives one day in the future.
In the UK, there is a program called “long lost families” dedicated to adopted people for various reasons. Now they are searching for their parents. So again, there are positive and negative endings, but they had a choice again.
This biggest argument for abortion is that you are killing, yes, taking a life that has the right to live; the fight against it is that it is yet to be a life.
My opinion
I know I have to tread carefully with an opinion on this subject, and for a good reason; however, my opinion should be listened to.
I don’t think it is a straightforward right or wrong answer; and that each case should be judged on its own merits. However, I feel that the man and the woman should have an equal privilege.
If the man would like the baby he should have the chance to be a dad; likewise, for the woman, it is her right to have the baby.
I understand that sometimes both parents want to have an abortion, which I struggle with the most, particularly if they are in a loving relationship.
Now, of course, there are some difficult circumstances, such as rape, child pregnancy and disability; however, if we still take the same concept of life being terminated, should this really be a choice?
I know that I have not spoken about the mental side of this argument, which will play a significant factor in the decision and maybe that will be a topic that I will write about next.
My mother lost three babies before birth, and I have a friend who had an abortion before I knew her; she struggles to cope mentally with this, especially since she has gone on to find a loving partner and now has given birth to children she feels guilt-ridden.
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