Summary

A 45-year-old man is conflicted about getting a vasectomy as requested by his wife, who wants to ensure they have no more children, and he is hesitant due to the procedure's risks and side effects.

Abstract

The author, a 45-year-old man with three children, including two young daughters with his current wife, is facing a dilemma. His wife insists that he undergo a vasectomy to prevent further pregnancies, a decision she believes is final. Despite initial interest in the benefits of vasectomy, the man is apprehensive after researching the procedure and its potential side effects, which include bleeding, infection, and pain. He seeks advice from friends, only to be met with stories that increase his anxiety. In a bid to negotiate, he suggests his wife undergo tubal ligation instead, which is met with resistance and a discussion of its own set of risks. The couple is currently at an impasse, with the author seeking personal accounts from individuals who have undergone either procedure to help inform their decision.

Opinions

The author is hesitant and anxious about undergoing a vasectomy, primarily due to the potential side effects and the invasive nature of the procedure.
He perceives his wife's insistence on the procedure as a final decision, indicating a sense of external pressure.
The author attempted to offer an alternative form of contraception, tubal ligation, to his wife, which was not well-received, suggesting a desire for shared responsibility in the decision-making process.
He is skeptical about the advice given by friends, which has contributed to his fear and uncertainty about the vasectomy.
The author is open to hearing from others who have undergone sterilization procedures to better understand the potential outcomes and ease his concerns.
There is a clear concern for his wife's safety and well-being, as evidenced by his reaction to the side effects of tubal ligation.
The use of humor and the mention of abstinence or reliance on "little Jonny" indicates a level of discomfort and avoidance in addressing the topic directly with his wife.

My Wife Wants Me To Have A Vasectomy

But I don’t want one.

I am a 45-year-old man, my wife is 39, I have a son who is 20 and two girls by my wife who are 3 and 1 respectively.

She has decided that we have done our bit for the big wide world and will not be populating it anymore through our children, now when she gets an idea it is normally a good one, but I am very unsure about her latest request.

She would like me to get a vasectomy, gulp!

I know, she must be kidding right? Wrong! So my initial thoughts were, great idea, I can see the positives, excuse the pun.

I started to look at what the procedure was, then quickly closed my PC off and went for a cold shower.

This was not what I bargained for, the procedure sounds horrendous and there are plenty of side effects, knowing me I would have all of them, it’s easy, I just told her no.

Oh boy! she keeps on about the same things, about how nice it will be, not to worry after sex, she thinks these comments will wear me down.

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For those of you who don’t know a vasectomy is a surgical procedure for male sterilization or permanent contraception. During the procedure, the male vasa deferentia are cut and tied or sealed to prevent sperm from entering into the urethra and thereby prevent fertilization of a female through sexual intercourse.

The potential side effects are:

Bleeding or blood clot inside the scrotum.
Blood in the semen.
Bruising of the scrotum.
Infection of the surgery site.
Mild pain or discomfort.
Swelling.

Despite these facts, she is still asking me to go through with this, “ask your friends” she said, so I did. It did not help either of us, they were probably pulling my middle leg but managed to scare the living daylights out of me.

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I decided to try and play her at her own game and suggested Tubal ligation, which is a surgical procedure for female sterilization in which the fallopian tubes are permanently blocked or removed. This prevents the fertilization of eggs by sperm and thus the implantation of a fertilized egg. Tubal ligation is considered a permanent method of sterilization and birth control.

Now that suggestion did not go down too well, however, I thought it was only fair we looked at all the options.

She came back with the potential side effects just as I did.

Damage to the bowel, bladder or major blood vessels.
Reaction to anaesthesia.
Improper wound healing or infection.
Continued pelvic or abdominal pain.
Failure of the procedure, resulting in a future unwanted pregnancy.

Fiar play, they don’t sound too good to me either, she is my wife and I want her to be safe above everything else.

I of course returned the compliment and suggested it would be a great thing if she has it done, particularly not worrying after sex, I just got a stern look, she did not say much for a few days, so I enjoyed lots of football during that time!

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We are now at the stage where “little Jonny” is our best friend, or we go without, guys and girls out there, if you have had either procedure and are willing to share your experience of both during and after the event, I would be very interested in hearing your stories.

Written by Robert Ralph

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