8 Big Mistakes Made in a Semen Retention Practice
#3. Retrograde ejaculation
I remember the pride when I first started my semen retention practice that developed when I had not ejaculated for three months.
When this pride came up, ignorance accompanied it.
When at a tantric workshop, I would expound with an air of arrogance about this achievement.
And it wasn’t long before my practice came crashing down like a pack of cards.
#1. Wrong reason for doing it
To be successful with any action, you need a worthwhile and actionable purpose. With semen retention, it’s no different.
However, a problem guys make is they do it for reasons that are more about trying to please other people.
Don’t do non-ejaculation control to:
- Impress women — Men will talk to women about how semen retention has increased their power to last longer in bed.
- Try to outdo others–Men like to tell other men how long they have lasted without ejaculating. Thinking it will impress the other men the longer they have not ejaculated.
What to do:
- Have several healthy, powerful ‘why’s’ for doing semen retention. Here is a list.
#2. Fear of spilling the beans
During your non-ejaculation practice, you may develop a fear of ejaculating.
This is a genuine fear; I have suffered from it many times.
There is a fear of having sex. As you are scared you will ejaculate. Then there is the fear during sex that you will ejaculate.
With the latter, during sex, you become disconnected from your partner. As you energetically withdraw from your partner.
Women are very sensitive during sex energetically, and they will pick up on the way you are moving and how you feel.
What to do:
- Set up a regular frequency to ejaculate. Start ejaculating once a week and gradually extend to only once a month.
- Talk to your partner about the fear you are experiencing. If left unsaid, it may create an uneasy tension between the 2 of you. Women love a man that can open up and be vulnerable when sharing their feelings.
#3. Retrograde ejaculation
This is where your body physically ejaculates, but you stop the semen from coming out of the penis. The semen then goes into the bladder and is urinated out from the body.
The semen is stopped by squeezing the penis at different points along the shaft or pressing on the millionaire dollar point.
Alternatively, a man will ejaculate via his penis and rub the semen into their skin, normally the belly, but will say they haven’t ejaculated. The reason for saying this is they rub the semen back into the body, thinking it’s reabsorbed into the body.
This is an incorrect understanding, as you have ejaculated. The semen has been ejaculated, and you have lost the energy from the body.
What to do:
- Admit to yourself that you have ejaculated.
- Set small goals for your practice and increase the time between ejaculating.
- Stop the practice of physically stopping yourself from ejaculating.
- Do the various practices for managing your sexual energy.
#4. Cart before the horse
Some men can think they are at a higher level of development in their practice than they really are.
You have put in the hard yards of doing the basic practices. You have been bragging to your new neo-tantric men friends. You have gone 30 days without ejaculating.
Even so, there is an underlying fear that, at any stage, you could tip over and ejaculate.
Thinking you are at a higher level in establishing your non-ejaculation practice will stop you from mastering the basics.
I have been doing semen retention for 17 years, and I still have slip-ups.
What to do:
- Don’t beat yourself up if you do ejaculate.
- Establish yourself in the basics practices. Learn to manage your sexual energy and Point of No Return (PNR).
#5. Don’t go there, girlfriend
Not knowing your point of return is one of the best mistakes in non-ejaculation. If you don’t know when you are about to ejaculate, you will continue to have slip-ups. Meaning you will ejaculate.
This can lead to the cycle of two different depressive cycles:
- After you ejaculate, you keep ejaculating. you tell yourself you will start your non-ejaculating practice tomorrow.
- You ejaculate and feel bad for ejaculating, then later in the day, ejaculate again to get rid of the negative feeling bad from ejaculating earlier in the day.
I know because I have been there many times.
What to do:
- Energetically know at what point you can take your sexual energy up without ejaculating.
#6. Addicted to orgasm
The orgasm energy is one of the most amazing feelings in life. You feel enlivened. It’s like a burst of a legal drug. Your body feels so alive. Even if it is for only a few seconds.
You may get addicted to this feeling as it feels so amazing.
If you are too attached to this feeling. Your sexual energy will dominate and control you.
What to do:
- Set a strong intention before getting sexually aroused that you will not ejaculate.
Don’t allow yourself to reach arousal level to get up near the PNR for a few weeks.
Progressively increase your sexual arousal level, over time, allowing yourself to get closer to the PNR.
#7. Keeping semen in too long
There is a sweet spot that feels comfortable for you for when to ejaculate in your semen retention practice.
For me, it’s once a month. I have gone longer and shorter periods, but this works well for me.
This is a very personal discovery. And something you need to work out for yourself through experimentation.
The problem with leaving it too long is you end up:
- Avoid contact with women and having sex.
- Suffering high levels of frustration.
What to do:
- Read my article on knowing what is acceptable when ejaculating in a semen retention practice here.
#8. Not circulating your sexual energy
If I grin and bear it, then I can use my physical willpower to stop myself from ejaculating.
This type of attitude is a big no-no.
This will cause you a lot of grief and pain.
Doing non-ejaculation by force will make you:
- Egotistical.
- Feel stuck in life.
- Sexual frustration anger.
The energy (chi or prana) needs to be circulated out from around your genitals.
What to do:
Concluding thoughts
And the truth will set you free.
Being honest with where you are at in your practice can be the launch pad to plan your next move to develop your practice.
Working with your sexual energy can reap glorious rewards. Know it’s a step-by-step process. Many men have walked before, and there are ways to move forward. You don’t have to struggle by yourself.
Educate yourself on best practices and reach out if you require help.
