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This is what men wish more women did in bed

There’s a myth about men that I keep encountering over and over.

Lots of people will say that women’s sexuality is complex, complicated, and multifaceted. But when it comes to sex, they insist that men are incredibly simple.

They want, at most, three or four things out of the sex they have. They want to look at some tits. They want spontaneous mid-afternoon blowjobs. They want to fuck to completion. And most of them seem really keen on anal, too.

And yeah, true, lots of guys would love an impromptu blowjob and a chance to put it up their partner’s butt.

It’s just that they need a lot of other things too if they’re going to feel like the sex they’re having is amazing.

There are a few reasons this myth of the sexually simple guy keeps getting spread.

I hear it a lot from men who have higher sex drives than their partners. They’re feeling pent up, desperate for sex, and just wish they could get laid more. To them, their desires feel simple. All they want is sex — any sex they can get.

But the other reason is that men don’t always seem to have a clear understanding of their own desires.

They know when they feel bored by their partner, but they’re not always sure why.

They can tell there’s something missing in their sex life, but some of them can’t pinpoint what that something is.

The sex they fantasize about is very different than the sex they’re having. But they might have trouble articulating what it would take for them to get turned on more and get off harder.

If you’re with a guy like that, it puts you in a tricky position. You want to be extra exciting to him. You want to turn him on so much you stay on his mind. You want to give him a mindblowing fuck that makes him feel lucky to be with you.

You’re just not exactly sure how to give him that.

Here’s a good place to start. These are some of the things most men wish their partners would do more in bed — even if they don’t realize it.

He Wants You to Expose Yourself More

Women are hot. Naked women are even hotter.

That’s simple enough. But the problem is that a lot of women are very timid when it comes to showing their bodies — myself very much included.

Getting half-naked for sex is easy. Fucking under blankets is a piece of cake. Banging in the dark is super safe, too.

But I’m talking about really being naked.

He doesn’t just want you to undress — he wants to see all of you. And he wants to see you clearly.

If you really want to get him excited, give him exactly that.

Fuck with the lights on, even if you keep them dim.

Get fully undressed. I spent years fucking with my shirt on and even though it’s a cute look sometimes, he’ll get far more excited if he can see all of you.

I personally think you can keep your socks on, though. Your partner’s preferences may vary, but I feel like as long as your tits, stomach, pussy, ass, and thighs are bare, you’re good.

And exposing yourself is about more than just showing skin. It’s about how you position yourself and how much you really let him see.

If you really want to drive him wild, get in all the positions that make you feel vulnerable. Spread your legs wide for him. Go face down, ass up and let him get a good look at you. Lie down comfortably on the bed, without using your arms to cover yourself up.

And don’t be afraid to be a show-off.

Strip for him. Give him a tit drop and ask him if he likes what he sees. Bend over to show him your ass in its full glory.

Flaunt what you have and act like you know you’re hot — because you will be when you do.

He Wants Playful, Experimental Blowjobs

Blowjobs can be really simple if you want them to be. All you have to do is bob your head on his cock for however long you want, and you’ve successfully given him head.

And that’s really good. I hear it feels great and most guys won’t complain about having their dick in someone’s mouth.

But if you really want to blow his mind, it’ll take something a little more elaborate.

I don’t mean it has to be complicated or intense. It’s not really about technique. You don’t have to gag or take it all the way down to the balls. You don’t have to suck and slurp aggressively.

There’s no magic formula for giving a blowjob. The secret to giving a really good one is just to keep it fun.

Treat every blowjob like you’re experimenting and just trying things out.

Give him some slow, sensual suction. Use your tongue all over. Take his balls in your mouth. Stroke his shaft while licking his head. Give him lots of shallow little sucks, then see how deep you can take him.

Try different positions. Have him stand while you get on your knees to blow him. Lie down next to him in bed and give him a long, comfortable suck. Climb on top of him for a good old fashioned sixty-nine.

If you want inspiration, watch amateur blowjob porn. You can learn from the professionals, too, but it’s the amateurs who tend to have a lot more variety in their techniques.

It doesn’t really matter how you do it, though, as long as it doesn’t become predictable. Give him playful blowjobs, make them interesting, and keep him on his toes.

He Wants You to Ride Him

Guys love it when a girl gets on top during sex, and a lot of them complain that it doesn’t happen nearly as often as they wish it did.

I completely understand why.

For one thing, in a lot of relationships, it’s the guy who puts in a lot of the physical work during sex.

He’s thrusting, humping, pounding, and banging away. You’re doing some work, too, but if you’re in missionary, doggystyle, or spooning positions, he’ll be the one really working up a sweat.

When you get on top, he gets to have a break. He can recover in between positions, regain some energy, and feel ready to pound you harder after you’re done.

It also lets him really be in the moment. He can just sit back and enjoy the way your pussy feels without having to worry about anything else.

It’s a really fucking hot visual, too. Cowgirl means he gets to see your face while you’re experiencing some real pleasure, he gets to watch your tits bounce beautifully, and he gets to watch your thighs work. And reverse cowgirl lets him get a good look at your ass and watch his cock sliding into your pussy.

And because you’re in complete control of the speed, rhythm, and depth, being on top means you’re fucking in a way that really gets you off. He gets to watch you get lost in your pleasure in a way that he might not get to in other positions.

All of that is extremely hot and arousing for him. So, make sure you get on top if you really want to turn him on.

He Wants You to Use That Filthy Little Mouth of Yours

Most women make noise during sex. We moan, we groan, we whimper, we make cute little sex noises that would turn anyone on.

But we don’t always say much.

We’ll say things like “yes,” “don’t stop,” and “holy fuck” when it gets really good. But a lot of us won’t string together sentences.

And that’s too bad because it would drive our guys wild.

Dirty talk is fucking hot. It’s arousing. It shows a lot of enthusiasm. And because it’s so unladylike, hearing dirty things coming out of your sweet mouth can be extremely thrilling.

So, don’t hold back. Say whatever dirty things come to your mind.

Tell him what is turning you on. Tell him what feels really good. Tell him what you want him to do to you and what you want to do to him.

And don’t be afraid to get really filthy. Say all the nasty things you feel like saying.

I recently watched a porn scene with lines like “feed me that cock — I’m such a hungry slut” and “fuck me like a whore.” That’s advanced stuff. You don’t have to get quite that dirty, but if you do it will definitely excite and encourage the guy you’re fucking.

He Wants You to Worship His Cock

Cock worship is just what it sounds like. You spend a little while making his cock the center of your attention.

It’s something guys are really into because even guys who get plenty of sex still don’t often feel like they get physical admiration.

The way we talk about cocks doesn’t help, either. Cocks are treated as a completely functional thing. Guys know that we want their cocks — we want to touch, suck, and fuck them. But they’re also constantly given the message that dicks are ugly and unattractive.

That’s what makes cock worship so satisfying for guys.

It’s not just the fact that you’re touching his cock, that you’re sucking it, and that you’re pleasuring it in different ways. He could experience that from handjobs and blowjobs.

It’s the way you’re doing it that makes a big difference.

Worshiping his cock means treating it lovingly, like you want to explore every inch of it and really get to know it.

It’s taking time to admire it, to look it over closely, to see the way it reacts to your touch and your tongue.

It’s complimenting it. Telling him what you love the most about his cock and why you appreciate it so much.

Most guys are at least somewhat insecure about their dicks. Giving them a bit of cock worship gives them some reassurance that their dick is more than fine just the way it is.

He Wants You to Touch Him More

When guys complain about girls starfishing during sex, it’s really a complaint about a few different things.

In part, it’s because it makes sex kind of boring. It limits the kinds of positions you can do or the sex acts you can try.

It’s partly because it shows a lot less enthusiasm than arching your back, riding him hard, moaning deeply.

But it’s also because guys want to be touched during sex.

They don’t talk about it often (unless you count touching their dicks), but it’s something that guys find really enjoyable.

He loves feeling your arms and legs wrap around him while you’re fucking him — like you’re trying to pull him in even deeper than he can go.

Or running your fingers in his hair while he’s going down on you.

Or gripping his shoulder while he’s making you come with his fingers.

That physical touch makes him feel loved. It makes him feel appreciated. It makes him feel like you’re present with him in the moment. And sadly, that’s not something guys always get to feel during sex.

He Wants You to Make Him Feel Desired

One of the biggest complaints men have about sex is that their partners don’t initiate it or don’t initiate it often enough.

That’s a really frustrating thing for a lot of women, because we know that we do. We prep for sex. We get a little flirty and coy. We give him a green light. And then he still complains that he always has to initiate.

Sometimes, that’s because guys can be a bit dense when it comes to this stuff. He might not notice all your subtle moves and think that because he’s the one who put his hand down your pants first, he did all the work.

But it can also be because he doesn’t just want you to initiate sex — he wants you to initiate it in a certain way. He wants you to do it in a way that makes him feel desired.

He doesn’t just want to know that you’re open to having sex. He doesn’t want to feel like you’re up for a fuck. He wants to know that you specifically feel turned on by him and because of him.

He doesn’t want you to give a green light for him to do stuff to you — he wants you to be so into him that you’re the one hitting the accelerator.

He wants to feel hot and sexy. He wants to feel like he’s driving you wild. He wants to know that you think dirty thoughts about him long before he’s doing anything to your body.

If there’s one thing you do to make him feel extremely sexually satisfied, it should be this.

Show him you’re hungry for him. Be eager instead of acting coy. Let him know you actively want him, not just that you’re receptive to having sex.

Compliment him physically and sexually. Tell him he’s turning you on and why. Let him know what kind of naughty things you want to do to him or have him do to you.

Get on top of him and ride him like you can’t wait to have his cock inside you. Show lots of enthusiasm when you’re sucking him off. Beg him for more if you like being a bit submissive.

Keep flirting once sex has started. Tell him how much you want his cock even when it’s already inside you. And say some very nice things about him during the aftercare.

Men aren’t used to being desired so overtly. Making him feel wanted is going to leave him feeling incredibly happy and satisfied.

Give Him the Fuck of His Dreams

Men often claim they’re extremely simple. But they really do want more than just a blowjob and a sandwich.

They have a lot of preferences. They have sexual needs that they don’t always feel are being met. They have desires that don’t always get to be fulfilled.

Sometimes, they don’t get fulfilled because they struggle to articulate them.

So, don’t wait for him to ask for it. Give him the enthusiastic sex, the playful head, the filthy dirty talk, and the sweet compliments he secretly wants.

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