6 Untold Harsh Truths I Wish I Learned Sooner
Wisdom…. comes with age, experience, and learning.
While growing up, I perceived like I am the most sorted person at least from my outlook but inside my mind, it was like some kind of war was waiting to explode.
It sounds conflicting but it’s true.
If I look back, my 20s were highly experimented. I solo-traveled a lot, lived in different cities, countries, and experienced extreme cultural differences.
All these experiences took me closer to self-awareness, gave me a sense of purpose, and build perspectives.
Amidst all that, there were many things I learned along the way but never really understood, and wondered why most people talk about them.
Life is still incredibly confusing but as I grow and get older, there are life lessons that I wish I comprehended sooner.
1. Do what you can with what you have
In life you are constantly searching for something means that you don’t often stop, retrospect, and look up to enjoy the world.
The biggest lesson I learned is that it’s equally important to enjoy where you are and appreciate your current place in life.
You’ll always feel like you could have more and that feeling probably never go away.
But learning to feel like you have enough that’s the thing you want to focus on.
This is the feeling that can help you live in the present rather than chasing to next big thing.
2. Building a thriving system
I used to feel like stupid whenever feel low and thought there is something wrong with me. Specially when you see all the people around you having their best time of life.
Or if I make any mistakes, I am doomed. That has led me to be perfect; perfect all the time.
I took lots of time to let go of certain things and other people’s idea of perfection and expectation of me what I should do and be.
I would beat myself up wishing to feel happier even though I felt low.
The thing is nothing in life is perfect and as good times never last so do the bad times. I wish someone told me sooner that every emotions are valid.
Here are the things that helps me to over come from low days:
- Going for a long walk
- Writing online and sharing my vulnerabilities
- including mindfulness in my routine like yoga and meditation
3. Enjoying the daily routine
We are told and believed that life is a series of milestones and achieving them milestones are everything. Life should be all rainbow and glitters.
But the thing is all these are good to have but happiness comes from doing the mundane and least exciting thing.
In reality, life is about small moments and tiny things that brings joy.
The simple truth is most of life is boring stuff.
It’s washing the dishes, cleaning your apartment, vacuuming the carpet, wiping the table, or eating your comfort food every day.
I wish someone told me that.
4. Self-care is not overrated
Self-care is essential and taking care of your need is not selfish.
To love others, you need to love yourself first. Making sure you value yourself, give time to yourself, love yourself without negative self-chatter.
Taking care of yourself is the foundation of everything.
It’s all about accepting yourself with flaws, trusting yourself, and being on your side-always.
5. You can be anything but you can’t be everything
I can’t do everything. Everyone has limits.
Sometimes it’s okay if you don’t want to take over the world.
And I can’t run from one thing to another around the year.
It’s healthy to put boundaries and saying no to certain things, able to choose things.
6. You will never have it ‘all’ figured out
I planned a lot in my 20s and a bunch of things never really happened; no matter how badly I wanted them or how hard I tried.
It’s the sad truth that I’ve believed that it’s so easy to “have it all” until now and perhaps you can’t have it all not at the same time.
Everyone has their battles with life and I can choose to be kind and compassionate. That led me to develop a sense of empathy and a better human being.
The thing is you will never feel like you have it figured out.
I think that makes life fun and joyful.
As I get older, I understand the world and my place in it, feel more control over my life. I’m starting to think that this is what it feels like to live.
At this moment, I have enough, you have enough.
Enough is a word that you don’t hear many people use.
We all live in a hyper-simulated environment that is mostly driven by want and wanting some more.
But the thing is this world has enough of all of us. And we have enough at this very moment.
When feeling a sense of contentment with the things you have today can make all the difference in how you perceive your reality.
When the world is running from one shiny object to another, take a moment to reflect on your surroundings and see how many of the things you need vs what you want.
Hope this helps you to create your own path.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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