5 Ways To Make Sexy Talk Even Sexier

A guide to dirtier language

As any experienced lover knows, dirty talk can be a great way to add an extra level of excitement to your bedroom play.

As Isabel Allende says, “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.”

But while it may be easy to view dirty talk as simply dirty words uttered in the heat of the moment, there’s actually a lot more to it than that. When done right, dirty talk can be an incredibly erotic and empowering experience for both partners.

There are five easy ways to make sexy talk even sexier.

Here are those five ways.

Do It Doucement

In one of my favorite movie scenes from True Lies, Arnold Schwarzenegger pretends to be a foreign assassination target.

As he hunkers in the shadows of a hotel room, he tells his wife (who’s unaware that it’s her husband in the hotel room) to turn around and to do it doucement (dou·se·man), which means to do it very slowly.

Here’s the video clip from the scene. Can’t share it here because YouTube says it’s age-restricted.

One way you can make sexy talk even sexier is to do it slowly, all throughout the day. To do it doucement.

When it comes to dirty talk, think outside the bedroom.

Research shows that texting sexy messages and images during the day results in higher sexual satisfaction. The slow burn of arousal ramps up arousal and can also lead to more powerful orgasms.

Do It Like a Foreigner

Speaking of other languages, another easy way to make sexy talk even sexier is to learn a few words or phrases in another language.

Some languages, like French and Spanish (romance languages), sound romantic or sexy no matter what you’re actually saying.

When you speak another language, you sound more exotic. This turns many people on inside and outside of a sexual experience.

Here are a few sexual phrases to get you started:

French

• Je te veux = I want you
• Donne le moi = Give it to me
• Tu es si belle = You look so beautiful

Spanish

• Asi = Just like that
• Sabes tan bien = You taste so good
• Me haces feliz = You make me happy

Italian

• Sei bellissima = You’re beautiful
• Facciamo l’amore = Let’s make love
• Voglio scopare = I want to fu*k

Do It Like a Director

There’s something incredibly hot about being with a partner who knows what they want in the bedroom.

There’s no fumbling around or awkwardness, just confident movement and touch. Being with someone who is comfortable taking the lead can make the whole experience feel more intimate, as though you are sharing a part of yourself that you don’t often let out.

It can also be a huge turn-on to simply let go and let your partner take control.

Whether it’s being tied up, spanked, or just told what to do, giving up power can be incredibly erotic. If you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom, why not try being a little more directive? You may just find that your partner loves it as much as you do.

If you’re not sure how to tell your partner what you want, here are some examples of directives you can use to give them a little guidance:

• “Turn over.”
• “Lay down.”
• “I want you on your back.”
• “Straddle me.”
• “Sit on the edge of the bed.”
• “Kneel on the floor.”
• “Stand up.”
• “Lean against the wall.”
• “Walk over to the window.”
• “Come closer.”
• “Stay where you are.”
• “Touch yourself.”
• “Don’t touch yourself.”
• “Put your hand here.”
• “Do what you did last time.”
• “Surprise me.”

Do It Like a Cheerleader

Being a cheerleader during dirty talk can make the whole experience better for both partners.

When your partner is feeling self-conscious or nervous, your positive attitude and encouragement can help them feel more comfortable and confident. Additionally, showing enthusiasm for what your partner is saying can add to the excitement of the moment and make them feel appreciated.

Of course, you don’t always have to be cheering them on — sometimes it can be hot to playfully tease or challenge them during dirty talk.

The important thing is that you are responsive to what your partner is saying and doing, and that you are both enjoying yourselves.

Do it like Stephen King

No, I don’t want you to gross out your partner. I want you to consider being more descriptive in your dirty talk.

There’s no need to go into extreme anatomical detail. In fact, you probably shouldn’t.

However, painting a vivid picture with fresh images is a wonderful tool in your sexy talk toolbox. The best writers, Stephen King included, know how to paint a picture with their words.

Here are a few tips on how to dirty talk descriptively:

• Use all of your senses (touch, taste, smell, sound)
• Only mention a few choice details
• Use short words and phrases (paragraphs aren’t sexy)
• Use sexy language (say “slide into bed” not “plop down”)

Here are a few examples:

• Damn, you taste divine
• I want your juices running all over me
• I want to ravish every part of you with my mouth

Final Thoughts

Another thing I found helpful with dirty talk is to be authentic.

If you act and sound as white as I look in my profile picture, you probably should avoid tossing around phrases like, “Call me Big Papi.”

Unless, of course, that matches your style.

In that case, be you, boo.

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