30 Chilling Signs You’re Being Terrorized by a Narcissist

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ur birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions are sabotaged.</li><li>You are drilled about who you were with, who you talked to, and who you’re connected with on social media as if you are a criminal.</li><li>You wonder if you’ve been bugged or tracked.</li><li>You witness extreme reactions to seemingly minor things.</li><li>You walk on eggshells to avoid triggering their feelings</li><li>The narcissist blows up when you want to improve the relationship.</li><li>You make excuses — lots of excuses.</li><li>You run interference for your kids and other family/friends, so they don’t experience the wrath.</li><li>Over time, you notice that family/friends grow close to the narcissist.</li><li>You notice conflict or strain in your relationships that never was there before.</li><li>The narcissist’s opinion is the only correct point of view.</li><li>The energy of the home is tense.</li><li>You lose the ability to relax.</li><li>You feel anxiety as you approach home.</li><li>You find novel ways to “read the room” to know what to expect when you walk in the door.</li></ul><p id="79fd">Your mind is making excuses already. I hear it.</p><p id="7523">Know this. These are the signs. They are not normal. They are not healthy. A relationship like this is not sustainable.</p><h2 id="83dc">If you still aren’t convinced…</h2><ul><li>You grow more and more insecure and unsure of yourself.</li><li>You become physically and emotionally sicker each day.</li><li>You wonder if something is wrong with you.</li><li>You lose all connection to what you want and need.</li><li>You look in the mirror and no longer know who you are.</li><li>You become unable to make even simple decisions.</li><li>You question your reality, your memories, your beliefs.</li><li>You know you need to leave, but look for reasons to stay.</li></ul><p id="2d1b">If any of the last 8 ring true, you are in an abusive relationship — you are a vi

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ctim of intimate partner violence.</p><p id="679e">And you’ll continue to be terrorized until you choose to leave, or you die.</p><p id="f566"><b><i>Disclaimer: </i></b><i>This answer is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute medical or legal advice. It’s a recount of how I’ve been able to help myself and others heal from narcissistic abuse and how it may be helpful to you.</i></p><p id="5b44"><b>Dr Melissa Kalt, MD</b> is a trauma and covert narcissistic abuse expert who helps high-impact women break free from the longstanding after effects of narcissistic abuse. Download her free risk-assessment guide, <a href="http://narclesslife.com/">3 Hidden Financial Risks Every High Income Woman MUST Avoid While Coparenting with a Covert Narcissist</a> and find information on working with her on <a href="https://melissakaltmd.com/">her website</a>.</p><p id="ae9e">Recommended for you: <a href="https://readmedium.com/what-is-it-typically-like-living-with-a-covert-narcissist-df84ca7430e8">What Is It Typically Like Living with a Covert Narcissist?</a> and <a href="https://readmedium.com/will-a-covert-narcissist-become-more-abusive-over-time-489ac38afcea">Will a Covert Narcissist Become More Abusive Over Time?</a></p><div id="6230" class="link-block"> <a href="https://medium.com/@MelissaKalt/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link - Melissa Kalt, MD</h2> <div><h3>As a Medium member, a portion of your membership fee goes to writers you read, and you get full access to every story…</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*2sRpqqZyJ49M1gVn)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

It’s like living with the invisible enemy

Living with a narcissist, living in a narcissistic home, can be impossible to recognize if you don’t know the signs. You’ve been groomed to believe your experience is normal, that everyone behaves like this, that all relationships are like this, that if you work harder and give more, you can make it work.

You were taught that by a toxic parent or previous partner because it suited their needs. It isn’t true. In fact, the sooner you see your situation clearly, the sooner you will find freedom.

The big 3–0

Below are 30 signs you’re in an abusive relationship — signs you’re being terrorized by a narcissist in your own home. Some you may have noticed. Others seem “normal.” And some are going to blow your mind.

You start out feeling like you’re “living the dream,” but quickly realize you’re in a nightmare.

You realize nothing you do will ever be “right.”

You alone are responsible for all relationship, financial, and household problems.

You can’t trust anything the narcissist says.

You feel like you’re with another child, not a partner

Nothing of yours is sacred. It will be used, moved, broken, or hidden.

Your birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions are sabotaged.

You are drilled about who you were with, who you talked to, and who you’re connected with on social media as if you are a criminal.

You wonder if you’ve been bugged or tracked.

You witness extreme reactions to seemingly minor things.

You walk on eggshells to avoid triggering their feelings

The narcissist blows up when you want to improve the relationship.

You make excuses — lots of excuses.

You run interference for your kids and other family/friends, so they don’t experience the wrath.

Over time, you notice that family/friends grow close to the narcissist.

You notice conflict or strain in your relationships that never was there before.

The narcissist’s opinion is the only correct point of view.

The energy of the home is tense.

You lose the ability to relax.

You feel anxiety as you approach home.

You find novel ways to “read the room” to know what to expect when you walk in the door.

Your mind is making excuses already. I hear it.

Know this. These are the signs. They are not normal. They are not healthy. A relationship like this is not sustainable.

If you still aren’t convinced…

You grow more and more insecure and unsure of yourself.

You become physically and emotionally sicker each day.

You wonder if something is wrong with you.

You lose all connection to what you want and need.

You look in the mirror and no longer know who you are.

You become unable to make even simple decisions.

You question your reality, your memories, your beliefs.

You know you need to leave, but look for reasons to stay.

If any of the last 8 ring true, you are in an abusive relationship — you are a victim of intimate partner violence.

And you’ll continue to be terrorized until you choose to leave, or you die.

Disclaimer: This answer is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute medical or legal advice. It’s a recount of how I’ve been able to help myself and others heal from narcissistic abuse and how it may be helpful to you.

Dr Melissa Kalt, MD is a trauma and covert narcissistic abuse expert who helps high-impact women break free from the longstanding after effects of narcissistic abuse. Download her free risk-assessment guide, 3 Hidden Financial Risks Every High Income Woman MUST Avoid While Coparenting with a Covert Narcissist and find information on working with her on her website.