3 Truths About Finding Love and Being Happy

You gotta stop putting people on pedestals

1. You Won’t Attract Love

Wait. Before you freak out, hear me out. There are concepts that will cause many to create resistance when it comes to finding love.

We are told we have a soulmate. A twin flame or something. One person who will make us truly happy and so we go out looking for it.

The problem with this method of attracting love is that trying to look for love outside of yourself is like looking around for a soul because you can’t see your soul. Just because you don’t see your soul doesn’t mean it’s not within you.

Just because you don’t have a lover doesn’t mean you don't have love. Christ died for your kind. That's love. Your family may really love you. That's love. You may have friends who will do anything for you. That's love. You may have so much love to give yourself and others, and that's love, too.

Just because you haven’t found love doesn’t mean you don’t have love.

When you believe you don’t have love, you attract those who don’t have it to give.

When you feel love even while single, you reflect love, making it so much easier to attract it.

Knowing this opens your mind to the fact that every person you attract is a reflection of you. It also means that there is no such thing as the one, but such a thing as the one who is aligned with you at the time.

This is why it’s more than the attraction. You won’t attract love. You will reflect it. Replace the word attract with reflect and it changes the whole dynamic of finding love.

You can’t attract something you don’t embody. You can’t reflect what’s not in you. You reflect and attract what you are. To reflect and attract love, we must embody love. Be love. Give love. Get love. Make love.

You attract what you embody. To embody is to express, to give, or to become. To attract real love, you must embody it.

You reflect and attract fear if you embody fear. You reflect and attract kindness if you are kind. When you have unhealed dramas and traumas, you reflect and attract unhealed dramas and traumas. When you're desperate for love, you attract desperation for love.

You attract a reflection of yourself, so if you want to attract love, cultivate it, embody it, reflect it, and then attract it.

2. You Gotta Let Go Sometimes

When you know it’s more of the reflection and less of the attraction, you see you have to let go of what you’ve been holding on to. You see how holding on is suffering.

Then you stop trying to attract love, and you become love. That’s when love comes in. When people have given up on love and made peace with it, it knocks on the door of the heart.

When you keep trying to attract something from a place of lack, you lack it

To reflect and attract something, cultivate it from within. When you cultivate, it grows and reflects and so the attraction is naturally magical.

It will take letting go of what you think you love and start cultivating that which you want to attract.

The moment you let go is the moment it comes to you.

We cross paths with people for a reason, but those encounters happen unexpectedly. It happens when you’re not looking. It happens when you’re having fun in the flow. It happens when you least expect it and that’s when it’s the best.

Most people find love when they’ve given up on it and that’s because they’ve released all resistance and surrendered and so vibrationally, they’re in alignment.

You must let go of your attachments to people who don’t choose you, even those you really like. When you hold on too tightly to people refusing to let go, you are saying you have all the control.

When you’re trying to control something, God and the universe can’t.

When you let go of a connection, and you connect with it from within by choosing yourself first, that will always be attractive.

Whenever a connection feels like a chase or makes you feel crazy or makes you exhausted and sad, it’s time to let it go and take care of yourself. It’s time to choose your ‘self.’

This is not letting go in an egotistical attempt to trick the universe by saying you don’t want it when deep down you want it more than anything. It’s knowing you want it more than anything and choosing to let go.

Letting go is saying, “I know I’m not in total control of this and so I stop trying to control it.”You let go and allow God and the universe to take control. You let go and let it come, no matter how long it takes. As long as you cultivate that which you want to attract, you won’t ever lack it.

The more you hold on or try to work it out, the worse it gets.

If you struggle to let go, you’re attached. An attachment to the things of the world is the beginning of suffering.

You can’t force love. You can’t force someone to love you. You can’t control someone loving you, but if you let them go, you allow them to be free to choose or not choose you, and in both cases; you win.

If they choose you, that’s unconditional love and the best energy for love. If they don’t, then they’re not wasting your time.

Letting go is the way to know the truth.

3. Stop Putting People on Pedestals

We’ve been told we have one twin flame or soulmate, and when we believe we’ve found it, we put it on a pedestal.

When you believe you’ve found the one, it’s normal that you want to hold it up to the light so you can see, admire and adore it, but that ruins it before it began.

What was supposed to be a thing becomes a toxic thing, one-sided, where one person on a pedestal feels mighty looking down on the other person. You gotta stop putting people on pedestals.

You must feel good within yourself that you need nothing outside of yourself to enjoy your life.

You may want to reflect and attract a divine partner, but you don’t need it to feel love. You feel it way before you have it because it’s cultivated in you.

You are the love to seek.

You are the one to make you happy, so you are the one you’ve been searching for. Love yourself first and love will find you.

© 2022 Kimberly Fosu. All rights reserved.

Note: This article is meant to provide godly spiritual guidance and light-hearted content.

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