Your Role

3 Things That Block You From Attracting Love

You must be aware to notice them

1. Your Wounded Inner Child

The inner child is not talked of much because it involves shadows, darkness and the icky yucky bits and pieces of us but this work is necessary when you’re trying to attract love and they almost always have to do with the kid in you. The child you used to be.

Imagine you’re back in time into your childhood. How’s that little kid feeling? Were there times you felt afraid? Sad? Angry? Rejected, maybe? You ever felt alone? Left out? Were your needs met?

And how’s the person the kid grew up to be feeling?

Childhood trauma is an important thing that needs to be looked at when you’re trying to manifest your desires into reality because when unchecked and unaddressed can create resistance in our manifestation.

They are things that happen in your adulthood that haunt and block you from opening up to attract love. Things you may or may not be aware of.

Let’s say as a child you didn’t feel seen. You didn’t feel heard. You may have been controlled and forced to fit in when you just didn’t fit. You grow up and you spend your days trying to fit in and your nights trying to belong somewhere. Because you’re not on the right path when you’re forcing to fit in, you may miss the love that belongs in your life.

You go outside and waste time with people at places, doing things that don’t serve you. Things that drag you down and hold you back. You forget who you really are and why you don’t fit in the first place.

You grow up hiding from the world or fighting to be seen and heard.

Now imagine a stressful event in your childhood that triggered and activated your sympathetic nervous system and threw you into fight-or-flight mode. Did you fight? Did you flee? How scared were you and did you deal with those things or you forced yourself to forget?

When you start to notice these things and you pay attention, your inner child will release any resistance and move you out of your own way.

All it takes is for you to notice.

When you become aware of your wounded inner child, you may get angry at certain people for how they treated you and the things they did, that’s understandable but holding on to these things also becomes resistance blocking you from attracting love, and may even (cock) block you from attracting the love of your life.

During your inner child healing work, you must forgive yourself for trying to fit where you didn’t belong. You must forgive yourself for the things you didn’t know and for the mistakes you made when you didn’t know any better.

Once you start healing, you’ll forgive your mother and your father. You’ll forgive anyone else that hurt and wounded your inner child. You’ll realize that they were also operating from their own childhood trauma and when you look at it that way, you may even feel compassion for those who didn’t do right by you,

To find and see the traumas so you can heal them, you must learn self-awareness. If you don't find and heal them, they sit in your subconscious mind blocking you from attracting love.

There are things that can happen in your adulthood that haunt and block you from opening up and attracting love.

2. Not Feeling Like You Deserve It

Do you feel you deserve the love you wish to attract? Does what you’re trying to attract deserve you?

The second thing blocking you is your generalized belief about yourself and love.

Do you feel worthy?

There are stories we tell ourselves that blocks us. These stories are told on auto-pilot and they run your life. You must be able to challenge old thoughts and beliefs about yourself and the world around you. You must be able to change the beliefs you have about reality and how reality works. You must also understand how your beliefs are creating your reality.

You must write a new story.

If you keep believing that people always act like they don’t see you, then instead of attracting love, you’ll attract a reflection of people who don’t see you. You must heal yourself first by seeing and healing the little kid in you who stands and feels alone.

When you’re sent into fight-or-flight mode as an adult, you can consciously choose whether to fight or flee. You can choose to fight. You can choose to see and hear yourself so you can show others how to do it. Or you can choose to flee from people, places, and things that make you feel unseen and unheard. You can flee from things that don’t serve you.

Once you pay a visit to the child in you and tell him or her you see and hear them, the child will stop resisting you and your desire to attract love. Heal your inner child by doing things that make you feel worthy. Do the things you love. Make art. (Co)-create magic with the universe.

People feel what you feel for yourself so choose to feel good deep inside even if it’s for short amounts of time amidst the chaos.

You just gotta feel it and believe it. Feel the love you have for the little kid in you. Feel the love to attract it.

If you feel unworthy to receive love, it becomes challenging for you to receive it because you are not in alignment with it. And yes, it’s going to feel unfamiliar when you start to feel the love especially for yourself, but over time you’ll start to feel a sense of self-worthiness.

When you know what it feels like to receive the love you want to feel, you get in alignment and you can co-create with the universe. When you start loving yourself — your inner child — you feel powerful. It empowers you. It changes your inner vibration when your inner child is happy.

If you feel unworthy to receive love, it becomes challenging for you to receive it because you are not in alignment with it.

3. Power Struggles With the Universe

When you tap into that vibration, you become aware that you can attract love and the things you want effortlessly as long as you stay in alignment, but sometimes you oppose the universe and there’s some type of power struggle.

You create nothing on your own; you co-create with the universe. You co-create with a higher power. You co-create with God. When the universe does not agree with the things to want to manifest and attract, if these things could distract or harm you, your desires may be blocked.

When you’re in a power struggle with the universe, who do you think has control? Not you.

You control very little.

Getting into a power struggle — with the universe, with the authorities, with law enforcement, with others who disagree with you, with those who may want the people and things you want, with elders with strict rigid beliefs — may move you out of alignment.

What if others want to attract the same things you want? It becomes a power struggle. Yes, you are powerful and can manifest anything, but so are others. Others are also powerful and can also manifest anything.

You won’t always get what you want. Being told to wait is not fun. You throw a tantrum — like a kid — when you don’t get your way.

Your emotions run wild.

You lose control of them, and then they move you. The energy of your emotions in motion moves you out of alignment. When your emotions run wild during power struggles, you must assure the child in you that it’s going to be okay. Drill it into your mind that everything will be okay and if it’s not okay, it just not the end.

Your inner child must believe that it's going to be okay, and it only matters when it comes from the most relevant person. You.

You create nothing on your own; you co-create with the universe. You co-create with a higher power. You co-create with God. When the universe does not agree with the things to want to manifest and attract; if these things could distract or harm you, your desires may be blocked.

In the battle with the universe, the universe says, “What makes you think they are the one? They’re not.”

You will see the signs and the flags that they’re not the one when you pay attention. You must pay attention to the little details and to the signs that are all around you.

You must be aware to notice them.

You must quit trying to control and work with the higher power, the universe, God, or with whatever you like to call it. You must play your part and leave what you can’t control to the universe. You must know your role and the universe’s roles in the co-creation to avoid any power struggles which lead to resistance that blocks you from attracting love.

You must trust the universe to bring you the things you desire, and when they arrive, you must be in alignment to receive.

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