3 Signs You’re Doing So Much Better Than You Think

#2. You take responsibility for the things you’ve done

1. You Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

There are two groups of people in this world: those who spill their coffee in the car, say “fuck” once or twice, clean up the mess, and keep on humming to the music playing on the radio, and then there are those who fumble to clean the spill while cursing continuously and letting out big, miserable sighs.

The first group takes life’s minor nuisances and setbacks with a shrug, while the second group makes mountains out of molehills. They blow up and fly off the handle in a loud huff and puff. They sweat the small stuff and they are therefore always tired and sweaty!

As humans, we’re always going to spill coffee, get stuck in bumper-to-bumper traffic, or lose our keys, and it’s natural to feel upset and say “fuck” once or twice but it’s not natural to let something as small as traffic ruin your entire day. You spilled your coffee. Okay. How big a deal is spilling a bit of coffee? Not big.

Getting stuck in traffic or spilling your coffee is an insignificant, mundane incident that won’t be remembered a month later, so why sweat it?

Sweating over the small stuff isn’t worth the energy it takes, whether it’s locking yourself out of your apartment or the maintenance guy failing to show up. You have to learn to let go of the little things because there are bigger things that are worth your energy.

You’re doing so much better when accidents happen; you feel what you feel for a moment and then bounce right back without letting it ruin your day.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff.

2. You Take Responsibility for What You’ve Done

When we mess up, it’s so much easier to point fingers at others. It’s easy to pin the blame on someone or just complain about how messed up life really is. But we forget something.

When you point a finger at others, you have three fingers pointing back at you. Not one, not two. Three!

That’s a lot of fingers.

Taking responsibility for your actions, especially when things go wrong is something many people struggle with. Holding yourself accountable for your own behavior and the consequences of that behavior is not easy, but it’s the one thing that can help you learn important life lessons and make better decisions the next time around.

You learn nothing when you say your ex-girlfriend broke your heart and messed you up bad, but you learn a lot when you say, “Damn I really ignored all those red flags and signs that told me she couldn’t be trusted.” You learn that way and next time, you will pay attention to the signs.

To thrive as an adult, you need to take responsibility for your actions and for every decision you make in your life. You need to own the consequences of the things you do and don’t do.

If you cannot hold yourself accountable, you’ll be forever stuck in toxic, repeating life patterns.

If you know — or you’re learning — how to hold yourself accountable for the choices you’ve made that led you to where you are now, then you are doing so much better than you think.

You’re aware of yourself and emotionally mature than most.

When you point a finger at others, you have three fingers pointing back at you.

3. You’re No Longer Young, Dumb, And Broke

You're doing so much better when you're no longer impressed by material things. When we are young and dumb, we take ourselves shopping during difficult times or any other time and we buy things we do not need, thinking it will take the pain away.

We spend so much money — money we don’t even have — on material things only to return home, still feeling miserable.

It dawns on us that we aren’t any happier after returning home from the store with our hands full of shopping bags. It hits us that we’re still young, dumb, miserable — and now broke — with a designer purse.

Thank goodness for growth and for realizing that material things don't bring happiness.

Now there’s nothing wrong with wanting that gorgeous Chanel bag or that dope Gucci backpack.

Absolutely nothing!

If you work hard and you desire something nice, you should totally get it, but it becomes a problem when you think it’s going to make you happy or, even worse, you get it to impress your friends.

Yes. A nice car will cover up your heartache for the day, but as soon as you drop the keys on the kitchen table and crawl into the bed, everything you tried to avoid during the day comes back and whispers, “We’re still here.”

Material things won’t make you happy.

The thing that makes you happy and fulfilled is watching your bank account grow thicker and thicker every day because you’re not wasting your money on things you don’t need.

You’re happier when you’re using your money to change your life and the lives of those around you.