3 Quick Questions That Might Help You Live in the Present Moment

You always have a choice. Either drift away in your thoughts or anchor yourself in the bliss of the present moment.

Even though I don't know you personally, I know you deserve a life full of joy, peace, and bliss.

I know you are trying hard to bring that calmness to your life. You get overwhelmed and lost while trying to find balance. Yet, you don't give up even when you feel weak.

Life can be hard sometimes.

Unfortunately, I don't have a magic wand to land you in bliss. But I know that the peace and happiness you seek are:

• Not outside of you but in the depths of your beautiful heart.
• Not somewhere in the future or past but reside in the Now.

That is why living consciously helps you to find that joy. But the heavy word, conscious life, can feel intimidating.

To make it simple, I've got a few questions you can ask yourself when you feel chaos. It might make it much easier for you to lead a conscious life.

“What Am I Feeling Right Now?”

As a civil society, we have effectively practiced hiding our actual feelings from the world. The process has become so strong that, slowly, we have hidden it from ourselves.

Do you disagree?

Let us see the scenario of your life. Remember any recent fight with your partner, colleague, or boss.

For the first few days, you are stunned or in utter chaos.

After a fortnight, things might start to settle. You might even accommodate your feelings. Your extreme behavior might even dull down.

You may feel absolutely fine over a month later. As if nothing happened. You may even forget about it.

But do you really forget?

Another incident after a couple of months will rewind the process. All the unhealed hurt feelings from the previous episode will rush back.

The fresh injury opens up the gaping wounds you seemed to forget. But they appear out of thin air.

Your new reaction may even be much more intense than the previous one.

Why?

Because it all comes back with the burden of previous trauma, you didn't heal.

What to do

Living in awareness requires time and patience. You can't expect to heal instantly magically.

The first step is always to be attentive to your feelings.

Neglecting how you feel is the biggest and most common mistake.

Yes, you don't want to look at the ugly emotions of anger, fear, and frustration. You want to be happy, not frustrated.

I understand.

But how can you heal them if you ignore them?

If you want to live in the present moment, heal your past. Otherwise, it will raise its hood at the slightest hint.

The first unsaid rule is to be conscious of every emotion arising in your heart.

Don’t give it any name. Don’t label them. Instead, witness them. Be with them.

Suppose you feel anger toward your partner. Instead of attacking them with harsh words, watch your emotions rise.

The rage and the intensity may be nerve-wracking. You might want to run away or delay the process.

But don't suppress it. Just go to a different room.

Put on high-volume music and pour out all your wrath.

Scream behind closed doors if you have to. Cry, weep, and act out your anger by punching in the air.

Escaping and acting that everything is okay won't help.

Instead, support your emotions. Be with your sentiments till they pass.

Labeling it as negative energy prevents you from facing it. Just see them as they are.

Don't give it any tag. It is energy rising and will fall once it fades away.

“Am I Reacting Out of Compulsive Emotions or Pure Understanding Of Life?”

Most people burst like mini land mines. The trigger always seems to be with the other person.

Even though the toxic culture of sophistication promotes fake attitudes, so we can "impress others," the truth is life doesn't work that way.

You are a human being, not a robot. If you are fake, you:

• Drift away from your actual self,
• Curb who you really are,
• And don't enjoy life and allow people to dictate your life.

Here’s the harsh truth of life — If you can’t live the way you want, people will force you to live the way they want.

For a fulfilling life, you must prioritize who you are over what people want you to be.

Because when you are forced to behave in a certain way, you feel trapped. And burst while interacting with your near ones. Then emotions dance. Compulsive reactions erupt.

What to do

The more you drift away from your heart and become unauthentic, the more chances of emotional outbursts happen.

Nobody wants anyone to dictate their lives. But molding yourself to fulfill others is a self-created prison.

Be aware of why you do it.

It may be because of the unconscious attempt to be a people pleaser. Or you may be a highly sensitive person or empath.

Find out your reason. Recognize your actions. And stop letting people dictate you.

How?

The easiest path is to get close to your heart. Do things that you love.

Laugh openly. Do some creative acts. Sing, dance. Be with nature. Do whatever you feel is right for you.

The point is to connect with your heart. Your connection to the heart signifies your authentic living.

And ultimately, it becomes easy to live in the present moment without friction and frustration.

So, always ask whether you are reacting out of emotional compulsion. Because if you do, it means you are still allowing certain people to pull your strings.

Now is the moment to live a truthful life. Connect with your beautiful heart. It is the seat of pure life flowing through you.

“What Is It I Have to Learn From the Current Situation?”

I used to run away from any overwhelming situation. I always thought about the ways to evade or get past it.

But I learned how wrong I was.

The truth, however, is difficult situations are a vital part of our growth. It shapes who we are.

You don't create situations. They happen.

And if you manage to look at challenges as a stepping stone, life suddenly becomes much easier.

What to do

Let go of control. Controlling life may seem normal, as everybody is doing it. It may seem to give security, but all of it is false.

With a minor incident, life may crash like a house of cards.

Accept the truth that life is never in our control. But our reactions and learnings are.

When you live in the present moment, life becomes a series of happening. And if you are open to its teachings, you never fear life.

We try to control our lives because we worry about change. We want to live in the safety of the known. Unpredictability scares us.

Living in the present moment is easy when life is comfortable. Once unpleasant events arise, we resist and fight against them.

This resistance causes us suffering. Instead of learning from life, we try to ignore it, run away, or make it the way it was before.

Instead, ask what life is trying to teach you.

It may be a lesson in self-love, compassion, or awareness.

Open your mind and be non-biased. Only then you truly get an answer about what life is trying to teach you.

And always remember, life will knock on your door again and again till you truly imbibe its lesson.

Don't be afraid. Take one day at a time. Baby steps are all you need. Then living in the present moment is not a struggle but an opportunity to be one with pure life.

Final Thoughts

Living in the present moment is a blessing. But many obstacles block the path.

Use these three questions. They will open many possibilities to rest in the present moment, the seat of healing and joy.

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