3 Lessons Elon Musk’s First Wife Can Teach You About Attracting Women
When Justine Musk (Justine Wilson at the time) first met Elon Musk at Queen’s University in Canada, he was not the type of man she preferred.
She liked a man who was poetic, rebellious, and tortured.
“I liked a guy who parked his motorcycle beneath my dorm-room window and called my name through the twilight: Romeo in a dark-brown leather jacket,” she wrote in Marie Claire magazine.
But Elon was different.
He was a guy who was into science, numbers, business, and logic. (No wonder why he became a tech titan in Silicon Valley.)
Moreover, he was pursuing other women in addition to Justine, and she was aware of that.
Yet, Elon succeeded in making her feel attracted to him.
Not only a relationship was born between them, but they also tied the knot. The marriage lasted for eight years.
But how did Elon go so far as to attract Justine and marry her although he was not even the type of man she liked?
In her Marie Claire piece, she revealed some points.
1. Elon showed confidence
Elon had a crush on Justine. He approached her one day and told her they had met earlier at a party.
She knew she had not even been to the party he mentioned but before reacting accordingly, he asked her out on an ice cream date. (It was years later that she learned he had made up the party story just to meet her.)
She agreed to the date, but flaked on him by posting a note on the door of her dorm room.
He, however, did not give up.
A few hours later, he went to the student centre where she was studying.
He stood behind her and coughed politely.
“Elon was smiling awkwardly, two chocolate-chip ice cream cones dripping down his hands. He is not a man who takes no for an answer,” wrote Justine.
This is what a confident man does. He goes for what he wants because he is so sure of himself that he will get it. He is always driven by a strong feeling of self-assurance of his own abilities.
That is why confidence works like a charm when it comes to attracting women. It is like a powerful magnet. Women find it a highly attractive trait in a potential partner.
As a man, confidence is the number 1 tool in your arsenal to attract women.
If you want to attract your dream woman, be confident like Elon.
Be the man who does not take no for an answer.
2. Elon stimulated Justine’s ambition
Justine was an aspiring author when she met Elon.
They were in a book shop once when she pointed to a shelf and told him she wants to see her own books there one day.
He took her words seriously. He was impressed.
“It was the first time that a boy found my sense of ambition — instead of my long hair or narrow waist — attractive,” Justine wrote.
People with ambition know how much it means to them. The desire to achieve what they want strongly drives their actions.
Ambition becomes a part of who they are as they actively work towards their goals.
Justine was no different, and when Elon openly endorsed her ambition, he easily positioned himself as a man different from others.
Any man could compliment her on her looks, but Elon took a different route and went beyond her long hair and narrow waist.
It was an internal component that he complimented her on.
Her previous boyfriends had not been supportive of her ambition, describing her as “competitive”.
“But Elon said I had ‘a fire in my soul.’ When he told me, ‘I see myself in you,’ I knew what he meant,” she wrote.
It is easy to compliment a woman on her appearance, and tell her that she is beautiful. Beautiful women hear this so many times since their childhood that it becomes more like a cliché to them.
Moreover, they also know they are beautiful. There is nothing new in it when a man tells such women that they are pretty.
It is just another boring compliment that women know he is using to attract them.
But when a man can spot a quality in a woman other than her beauty and compliments her on that, he automatically stands out from the crowd.
He gets her attention and causes her to take notice.
The right kind of compliment always works on men and women alike.
If you want to attract your dream woman, igniter her aspiration like Elon. Be the man who admires her aim in life instead of her long hair and narrow waist.
Let her know that you find her ambition attractive.
Also, if she has the same ambition as you do, tell her, “I see myself in you.”
Like Justine, she will know what you mean.
3. Elon backed Justine’s dream
Justine went to Japan to teach English as a second language after graduation while Elon moved to Silicon Valley.
She returned to Canada after a year, and then flew to Silicon Valley for the first among many such visits to meet Elon.
One night, after having dinner, he took her to a bookstore and gave her his credit card. He then told her to buy as many books as she wanted.
This wooed her irresistibly. She wrote:
“No man could have said anything sweeter.”
Elon was aware of how strongly Justine cared about her aspiration of establishing herself as a writer. He did not just fuel her ambition; he also provided support to help her reach her goal.
It goes without saying that reading is the key prerequisite for writing. The more someone reads, the higher is the possibility that they will develop good writing skills.
By handing Justine his credit card and asking her to buy as many books as she wanted, Elon showed her that he cares about her ambition as much as she does.
He not only proved his worth as a good provider, but also specifically wanted to sponsor her dream.
What can be more appealing to a woman than this?
If you want to attract your dream woman, show willingness to fund her ambition like Elon.
Show her that you are ready to extend support to help her achieve whatever she wants in her life.
As you do so, reassure her by saying something remarkable that will make her feel like “no man could have said anything sweeter.”