They Are the Right Person for You IF and ONLY IF They Want You

“Is not it wonderful with this person?” you think.

You feel happy, elated and jovial. You met this person, and you guys hit it off right away.

You still have no idea how this happened.

You do not know why it felt like you had known this person for ages when you guys first met.

You do not know why it felt like you already had a true connection with this person when both of you were talking to each other.

All you know is you both clicked.

The conversation flowed naturally. The exchange of words was so smooth.

None of you felt like you were finding it difficult to carry the discussion forward.

None of you felt like you were forcing the other person to keep the conversation alive.

None of you felt like you were running out of subjects to discuss.

You tell yourself, “It was a perfect encounter. I want to take things forward. I believe it will go a long way between us.”

Then you both meet a few more times.

In line with your expectations, everything feels good during the subsequent meetings too.

Everything feels natural.

Everything feels organic.

But then, like a bolt from the blue, everything hits a snag — not from your side but from the other side.

Much to your disappointment, things are not going forward. You are taking initiatives, but they are giving a lukewarm response. Your vigorous proactivity is continuously awarded with explicit inactivity.

You see that it is stuck. It is not going anywhere, and you feel like it is on its way to go haywire.

Now you are retrospective.

Maybe you both had already given each other endearments.

You both had developed inside jokes.

You both had developed strong connections.

Or so you thought.

What once felt like mutual chemistry has now become unrequited affection. The more you show this kind of affection, the more you feel like you are lowering your self-esteem.

And you cannot figure out how everything became like this, and why.

It is not only you. At some point or other, we all have faced this kind of situation.

You have made your feelings clear, but they did not reciprocate. Or worse, they gave mixed signals.

You have told them you want them, but they said nothing. Or worse, they said something vague.

You have made it clear that you are sure about them, but their response lacked the element of certainty. Or worse, they said something that made everything more confusing.

Nothing can be more emotionally draining than this. Nothing can be more painful than this.

It hurts like hell when you see that your “right person” does not want you.

But here is the truth: They are not the right person for you; it is just that you think they are.

They are not a great match for you; it is just that you think they are.

You will not be happy with them in the long run; it is just that you think you will be.

It does not matter if they give you butterflies — those fluttery, swoony sensations in your stomach when you see them.

It does not matter how many wonderful moments you spent with them — taking a walk in the park or watching a cinema or celebrating a special occasion.

It does not matter how strongly you care about them — thinking about their well-being and inspiring them to do better in life.

The matter of the fact is that you can do a lot of things for them — thinking that they are the “right person” for you — and it can still happen that they do not want you.

When that happens, have unwavering faith in yourself, and tell yourself that they are not the right person for you.

Then, let them go. Set them free.

Remember, no one is the right person for you if they do not want you.

Someone is the right person for you IF and ONLY IF they explicitly want you.

Then, and only then, it will be wonderful with that person.