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e crossed and they will look anywhere but at you.</p><h1 id="e9cf">#2. They speak in monotones</h1><p id="c343">When we are having a conversation with someone who likes us, we can talk about anything. And the conversation flows effortlessly. But when we are talking with someone who secretly disliked us, is an uphill battle.</p><p id="7aa7">They are brutally brief and you keep getting one-word sentences. If you asked them <i>“how are you?”</i> They respond with <i>“fine.”</i> If you tried to initiate a conversation, they will give a quick response like <i>“yes,” “no,”</i> or <i>“sure”</i> without going into details because they can’t stand you.</p><h1 id="944b">#3. They avoid words when texting</h1><p id="8f49">If you text or DM a person who hates you, they may not reply at all. And when they do reply, they may not use words or sentences. All you see are emojis. Although we use emojis, but they are often accompanied by words.</p><p id="0994">Punching a few words from your phone doesn’t take much effort to do. So, if the person you are texting is all emojis, they probably don’t want to communicate with you.</p><h1 id="b2bf">#4. Look out for forced etiquette</h1><p id="2d14">There is a difference between someone who openly dislikes you and someone who secretly dislikes you. The first voices her opinion to you. There will be raised voices and criticisms towards you.</p><p id="7011">But when someone secretly dislikes you, they will give you fake smiles and act normal just to keep the peace. They can be passive-aggressive when you try to confront them about something they did wrong.</p><h1 id="b23c">#5. They don’t trust you no matter what you do</h1><p id="9e05">When a person constantly keeps you at arm’s length and no matter what you say, they keep treating you as if you have some hidden agenda, it is most likely because they don’t like you.</p><p id="db76">When people like you, they want to trust you. They want to believe that what you say is true.</p><h1 id="1eab">#6. They get triggered easily</h1><p id="768c">When someone doesn’t like you, they build bridges around them to keep you away from getting too close. The relationship never goes smoothly with them. You are subject to arguments, resentments, and all kinds of negativity when interacting with them.</p><p id="3941">They will criticize your ideas, point out your flaws and disregard your suggestion for solving a problem. They will do anything to jeopardize your friendship with them.</p><h1 id="5eb1">#7. They will avoid you at any cost</h1><p id="31ae">One thing you can always count on with haters is that they will do anything to stay away from you. Emails and texts will replace personal meet-ups. If you walk into a room, they will walk out.</p><p id="6f40">If they are talking to someone and you join the conversation, they will make an excuse to leave. Or they will turn their backs on you with the intention of excluding you from the group.</p><h1 id="65dc">#8. They often seem inattentive</h1><p id="2d9c">Whenever you are talking to someone who secretly dislikes you, they seem distinctive. They don’t accept the points you make and if you asked them to do something, they will forget. Sometimes they may do the opposite of what you asked. There is a complete lack of attention and respect with these people.</p><p id="bf37">However, when a person likes you, they are curious about you and what you have to say. They are keen to know every detail of the points we make. If they notice you are losing interest in the conversation, they will change the topic to keep you engaged.</p><h1 id="ef82">#9. They don’t make the effort to understand you</h1><p id="5dba">If a person shows no tendencies of ever understanding you and you know they are not stupid, it’s probably because they are not making any effort to.</p><p id="8479">This is a major red flag in friendships. Chances are they secretly dislike you and don’t care at all about what you have to say. They

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are either completely switched off or they will try to make you feel bad by pretending they don’t understand what you are talking about.</p><h1 id="118c">#10. They don’t invite you to their meets</h1><p id="a7ac">Whether it’s having a coffee with a group of friends, going to a party, or having lunch together, they never invite you to tag along. They will invite everybody to their birthday party, but you.</p><p id="7f57">Best friends are people you should be comfortable with no matter the situation. If they were hosting an event, you do be the first on their list. But if they don’t invite you to their events, it’s a sign that your relationship with them is in the red.</p><h1 id="7151">Don’t be too quick to judge a person without evidence</h1><p id="f808">It’s easy for you to conclude that your friend doesn’t like you if you recognize one or two of these signs mentioned above.</p><p id="534c">However, that is not often the case. It can be so frustrating trying to make social plans with someone who doesn’t give answers to requests, and maybe that is why your friend has just given up and stopped inviting you out. And no one can put up with bad behavior for too long even if they have known you forever.</p><p id="67a7">So before you conclude that your friend doesn’t like you, reflect on your behavior towards them.</p><p id="4ada">Are you the types that always turn down their invitations? Do you always ruin their events and cause a commotion when they hang out with you? Are you the bad friend and not them?</p><p id="54dc">If you are convinced the problem is them not you, then you are probably friends with someone who doesn’t like you and wants nothing to do with you.</p><p id="0253"><i>If you enjoyed reading posts like this, check out more of my <a href="https://jesblake85.medium.com/list/relationship-70ee0bbde134">relationship stories</a>. You may consider <a href="https://jesblake85.medium.com/membership">subscribing</a> for unlimited access to more stories like this.</i></p><div id="72d8" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-secret-behind-your-man-needing-space-and-why-you-shouldnt-be-worried-f4f1a01081af"> <div> <div> <h2>The Secret Behind Your Man Needing Space and Why You Shouldn’t Be Worried</h2> <div><h3>Why do women freak out once a man asks for space?</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*qF-mtruMT1rT9PJB7hlfzA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="b069" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/why-is-it-that-nobody-tells-the-truth-anymore-92b97477ed2d"> <div> <div> <h2>Why Is It That Nobody Tells the Truth Anymore</h2> <div><h3>Most people lie to save their own skin but this is why I lie.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*uxZ1CECfjKf6VBrihA5QVA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="3e89" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-know-if-hes-married-and-lying-about-it-478167413c06"> <div> <div> <h2>How to Know If He’s Married and Lying About It</h2> <div><h3>A lie is always clear but we ignore them out of love.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*4IQ_5mjIRVbegqENs7Sf1A.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

10 Cruel Ways to Spot Someone Who Hates You but Pretends to Like You

“People betray what they love, and sometimes it is not because they stopped loving but because they couldn’t put your happiness before their own.”

Wouldn’t it be nice if everybody we met liked us? We would be popular in school, nail job interviews, get dates without much effort, and have a fabulous social life. But that is not the average person’s experience.

Andrea and Lucy have been friends since childhood. Both families have lived together since they were kids. They attended the same preschool, the same high school, and the same college. The two girls grew up as best friends.

When Andrea was getting married, she asked her best friend to be her maid of honor. Lucy was thrilled and said yes without hesitation.

The wedding preparation began. Lucy showed up at every appointment and helped her best friend in planning her big day. She helped her bestie in picking out her wedding dress, researching vendors, interviewing chefs, arranging for the photoshoot, purchase gifts, etc.

Then a night before the bridal shower, Lucy told her best friend that she wouldn’t be around for the bridal shower.

She said she was sick and couldn’t leave the house. Andrea thought it must have been stress from the wedding preparation. She was understanding. So she told her best friend to get some rest. The wedding was a week away. She will recover in time for the wedding.

As days went by, Lucy became more distant. She stopped showing up for appointments and continued giving excuses for her absence. She had only two days left before the wedding, so Andrea called her friend to know what was going on.

Lucy fessed up.

She wasn’t going to be Andrea’s maid of honor anymore. She said she thought they were friends but during the wedding preparation, she realized Andrea was oppressive and a bunch of other reasons she kept inside.

Andrea was dumbfounded. She didn’t understand where Lucy’s grievances were coming from. She thought Lucy was playing a joke on her, but to her surprise, her best friend didn’t come to her wedding.

She found out Lucy was on vacation with her boyfriend all the while she said she was sick through the Instagram photos she uploaded.

Sometimes you never know who your friends are until they betray you. Andrea and Lucy’s friendship haven’t recovered to this day.

Even if you look like Audrey Hepburn, Kim Kardashian, or Tiger Woods, there are still thousands of people who will dislike you. The truth is, you simply can’t be everyone’s cup of coffee.

Still, our lives will be easier if we could spot anyone who secretly dislikes us and be able to read them like an open book. Because sometimes a betrayal from a close friend or family can leave a long-lasting trauma.

To avoid all that chaos from frenemies, here are 10 signs to know when a person doesn’t like you but pretends to be your friend.

#1. Take a close look at their body language

When someone finds us agreeable, it’s quite easy to pick up their body language. They will be angled in our direction. They will stand close to us and lean on us when they are talking. Their posture is open and relaxed. And there is plenty of eye contact.

However, when someone dislikes you, their body language is defensive. When they are talking to you, half of their body is turned away from you. You may notice their arms and legs are crossed and they will look anywhere but at you.

#2. They speak in monotones

When we are having a conversation with someone who likes us, we can talk about anything. And the conversation flows effortlessly. But when we are talking with someone who secretly disliked us, is an uphill battle.

They are brutally brief and you keep getting one-word sentences. If you asked them “how are you?” They respond with “fine.” If you tried to initiate a conversation, they will give a quick response like “yes,” “no,” or “sure” without going into details because they can’t stand you.

#3. They avoid words when texting

If you text or DM a person who hates you, they may not reply at all. And when they do reply, they may not use words or sentences. All you see are emojis. Although we use emojis, but they are often accompanied by words.

Punching a few words from your phone doesn’t take much effort to do. So, if the person you are texting is all emojis, they probably don’t want to communicate with you.

#4. Look out for forced etiquette

There is a difference between someone who openly dislikes you and someone who secretly dislikes you. The first voices her opinion to you. There will be raised voices and criticisms towards you.

But when someone secretly dislikes you, they will give you fake smiles and act normal just to keep the peace. They can be passive-aggressive when you try to confront them about something they did wrong.

#5. They don’t trust you no matter what you do

When a person constantly keeps you at arm’s length and no matter what you say, they keep treating you as if you have some hidden agenda, it is most likely because they don’t like you.

When people like you, they want to trust you. They want to believe that what you say is true.

#6. They get triggered easily

When someone doesn’t like you, they build bridges around them to keep you away from getting too close. The relationship never goes smoothly with them. You are subject to arguments, resentments, and all kinds of negativity when interacting with them.

They will criticize your ideas, point out your flaws and disregard your suggestion for solving a problem. They will do anything to jeopardize your friendship with them.

#7. They will avoid you at any cost

One thing you can always count on with haters is that they will do anything to stay away from you. Emails and texts will replace personal meet-ups. If you walk into a room, they will walk out.

If they are talking to someone and you join the conversation, they will make an excuse to leave. Or they will turn their backs on you with the intention of excluding you from the group.

#8. They often seem inattentive

Whenever you are talking to someone who secretly dislikes you, they seem distinctive. They don’t accept the points you make and if you asked them to do something, they will forget. Sometimes they may do the opposite of what you asked. There is a complete lack of attention and respect with these people.

However, when a person likes you, they are curious about you and what you have to say. They are keen to know every detail of the points we make. If they notice you are losing interest in the conversation, they will change the topic to keep you engaged.

#9. They don’t make the effort to understand you

If a person shows no tendencies of ever understanding you and you know they are not stupid, it’s probably because they are not making any effort to.

This is a major red flag in friendships. Chances are they secretly dislike you and don’t care at all about what you have to say. They are either completely switched off or they will try to make you feel bad by pretending they don’t understand what you are talking about.

#10. They don’t invite you to their meets

Whether it’s having a coffee with a group of friends, going to a party, or having lunch together, they never invite you to tag along. They will invite everybody to their birthday party, but you.

Best friends are people you should be comfortable with no matter the situation. If they were hosting an event, you do be the first on their list. But if they don’t invite you to their events, it’s a sign that your relationship with them is in the red.

Don’t be too quick to judge a person without evidence

It’s easy for you to conclude that your friend doesn’t like you if you recognize one or two of these signs mentioned above.

However, that is not often the case. It can be so frustrating trying to make social plans with someone who doesn’t give answers to requests, and maybe that is why your friend has just given up and stopped inviting you out. And no one can put up with bad behavior for too long even if they have known you forever.

So before you conclude that your friend doesn’t like you, reflect on your behavior towards them.

Are you the types that always turn down their invitations? Do you always ruin their events and cause a commotion when they hang out with you? Are you the bad friend and not them?

If you are convinced the problem is them not you, then you are probably friends with someone who doesn’t like you and wants nothing to do with you.

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