You Want to Date Other Girls but Keep Me Dangling on a String

No thanks, I’m not an “on-call’ girl

Have you ever been told by a man you’re dating that he cares about you but he wants to date other women too?

You may have thought the two of you were exclusive given the things he said and with the frequency of dates, so his revelation may have come as a shock.

But now you have to face it and decide how you’re going to react.

He assures you that he’s not breaking things off with you, he still wants to spend time with you.

Of course he does! Why would he give up a woman who supports him emotionally and gives him companionship and whatever else if he can keep her and other women at the same time?

“But why would he risk losing me?” you say.

He’s willing to risk it because you’re not that important to him. You’re great, but you’re not worth giving up everything else for. That’s just the sad truth.

But he’s not going to give it up a good thing voluntarily.

The question is:

Are you going to go along with it?

He wants you to be available to fill in on the days he can’t find other dates. He wants you to be his security blanket that he can come back to and feel like he’s not alone.

That is a juvenile, selfish mindset that you would expect to see in a 5-year-old who hasn’t learned about self-discipline or sacrifice, not in a grown man.

Ladies, this is not how a real man acts. A man who knows the worth of a woman will never expect you to be his backup. He will respect your time, your heart, and your body.

If a man you’re seeing wants to go out and date other women, let him go. He’s telling you straight up that he doesn’t want anything serious with you. Break it off with him and don’t feel a moment’s doubt over it.

Work through your grief, examine yourself to see if you ignored any red flags to be with this man, and continue working on your own growth. But don’t for a minute allow any feelings of guilt for cutting off a man who wanted to use you for any reason. He’s a fool.

And a queen doesn’t humor fools.