Women Don’t Want Men to Step Up Their Game
They want men who dare to be genuine
In an age full of edit options, Photoshop, and filters, it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s not.
People hide behind screens till they think it’s safe to come out. It’s become too much trouble to pick up the phone and talk to an actual person, so they tap on a tiny keyboard using abbreviations and emojis.
I’ve been guilty of those crimes against communication too, but sometimes I want to pick up the phone and hear another human voice. With all our technological advances, nothing beats human-to-human connection.
And I want my men like I want my communication.
Real
You know what gets my attention in a man?
Confidence
Not bragging. Not flaunting your income or possessions. It’s not something you can fake either. If you have it, I’ll know. Maybe not upon first meeting, but eventually it will shine through.
Even if you don’t feel like you have it all together (who does?), if you’re secure in who you are and what you’re about in this life, people notice. Women notice. And they notice if what you’re all about is yourself.
Bravery
You don’t have to kill the dragon to win the princess these days, though you should conquer your own demons before you start pursuing her. It takes guts to confront your issues head-on and do the work to fix them.
Bravery is standing up for what you believe, even if you stand alone. It’s confronting someone who’s in the wrong with strength and kindness. It’s walking up and talking to a woman yourself instead of sending your friend to scout out the territory. Do your own homework.
A teachable spirit
I get that men have pride and it’s humbling to be told you’re not right about something, but a man who can accept correction without getting offended is leadership material.
He can handle learning from someone who’s younger or below his rank at work, or a woman, gasp!
A man who is curious and loves learning can do great things. He not only wants to improve himself and the world around him, he puts his feet where his mouth is. That’s not to be confused with putting his foot in his mouth, which is also attractive.
Discipline
Whether it’s going to the gym, diligently practicing a skill, reading a book a month, or being in the military, discipline will set a man on a path to succeed at his goals.
A man who has disciplined himself knows the value of putting in the work today to be able to get a big reward down the road.
He knows the importance of patience and hard work when it comes to a career, investing money, or relationships.
A good man possesses many qualities that set him apart from the crowd. If you are genuine and not hiding behind any of the superficial smokescreens that so many use, you will stand head and shoulders above the rest.
The world is full of counterfeits.
Be real.
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