Would You Date Yourself?
Before you answer, pause, dig deep, and be honest with yourself.
I had a conversation with a close relative recently. We spoke a lot about healing, forgiveness, and relationships. Then I decided to share a few questions to open her up to healing and self-love. It is a simple question but should be answered with honesty. To requote Joyce Meyer, “We can not heal ourselves unless we are honest with ourselves about ourselves.”
The question is — Would you date yourself?
If you were a healed, happy, successful person looking for a lifelong partner, would you be your first choice? When answering this question, go deep. If the answer was no (like my close relative), it’s okay. Now is the time for deep healing, restoration, and a journey to self-love and acceptance. You have completed the first step; you can now move to step two; forgiveness and healing. Please understand there is no healing without forgiveness of yourself and others. If you are not ready to forgive, you are not prepared to fully embrace healing (and that is okay).
I would not be writing messages that inspire healing if I had not forgiven the countless people who harmed me. Unforgiveness is a deadly poison. I know because it almost killed me. Holding on to bitterness, shame, and guilt was too much to bear, so I made a life-changing decision; I let it go. Once I began to heal and rediscover myself, I naturally flowed into my self-love journey.
Before my self-love journey, I thoroughly disliked myself. It was uncomfortable to sit in my apartment alone for three hours. I was always surrounded by people. Silence only reminded me of how lonely and sad I was, so I avoided it.
Like my close relative, my answer to the question was no. But today, after much healing, the answer is…
Hell yeah! I would not only date me but I would wife me up. I would put a ring on this (yasss honey!). I love the person I have become. Past pain and suffering only built up my strength and character. It has made me more relatable, empathetic, and compassionate. I am now an example to others who are hurting that there is hope.
Anyway, I want to encourage anyone reading this message to embrace self-love. When we love and accept ourselves, we automatically draw in people who love and receive us. Hurt people hurt people, but a healed person has the capacity to heal and inspire the world. Now, get to know the real you, date yourself, embrace healing and acceptance, and turn that no into a hell yeah! You are beautiful and worthy of true love, but the secret is; you must first love yourself. Peace & love, Ari.
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