Summary

The article is a poignant appeal to individuals with People Pleasing Syndrome (PPS) to prioritize self-love and healing over pleasing others.

Abstract

The author addresses those suffering from People Pleasing Syndrome, empathizing with their silent struggles and the pain of feeling unappreciated and used. The article emphasizes the importance of making a conscious decision to stop living for others and to start prioritizing one's own needs. It highlights the transformative power of self-love and healing, encouraging readers to break free from the cycle of pleasing others at the expense of their own well-being. The author shares personal experiences of loss and isolation, despite being surrounded by people, to illustrate the loneliness that can accompany PPS. The message is clear: by healing the inner child and setting boundaries, individuals can shift their energy to attract healthier relationships and live a life of peace, happiness, and freedom. The article includes a personal voice recording to further connect with the audience on a deeper level.

Opinions

The author believes that self-love and healing are essential and should not be considered selfish acts but rather necessary steps towards a fulfilling life.
There is a strong opinion that people pleasers are often taken for granted and that their loyalty is not adequately recognized or reciprocated by those they help.
The author suggests that people pleasers attract narcissistic and manipulative individuals, which perpetuates a cycle of use and abuse until the pleaser heals and raises their vibrational energy.
The article posits that by becoming one's own best friend and prioritizing self-care, a person can experience a profound transformation in their life and relationships.
The author conveys that the journey to self-acceptance and putting oneself first can lead to a more authentic and joyful existence.

* WITH VOICE RECORDING

To The People Pleaser — It Is Time To Make A Decision

A heartfelt message to those who suffer from PPS (People Pleasing Syndrome).

Hello, my love,

I know you. I know you very well. You’re a good person. You always show up for friends and family. You give 110% at your job, even though they do not value you. You’re secretly the glue that holds everything together, but you rarely receive credit for it. You remember birthdays, anniversaries, and other random dates deemed significant to your loved ones.

You smile through the pain.

You make an appearance at events, even though you would rather stay home and binge-watch your favorite show. You never arrive empty-handed and always put thought into what you bring to parties and events. Family and friends are your number one priority. People love your energy so much that they suck you dry. You put on a smile you think is genuine, listen to everyone’s problems but rarely share your own. What would it matter if they knew you were secretly depressed?

Would they even care?

You find your way home, put on pajamas, finish off the wine in the refrigerator, and crawl into bed. In silence, on your pillow, you begin to weep; deeply. You’re lonely. You’ve been lonely your entire life. There is a deep nagging pain on the inside of you. No one understands you. They use you, but they don’t really care about you. Why? Why don’t people recognize your loyalty? You’re such a good fucking person, but they just take and take from you. The only satisfaction you find in life is pleasing other people. You know they use you for what you bring, but you allow it.

The Decision

There will come a time in this lifetime when you will decide to continue living for others or start living for yourself. I don’t give a damn what people say about selfishness. Our ability to break free and be selfish is an open door to self-love, healing, and rediscovery.

I refuse to continue to sit by and watch good-hearted people be used, abused, and discarded by the very people who are supposed to love and protect them.

I was the ultimate people pleaser. I spent tens of thousands of dollars on others because I wanted them to be happy, but guess what? No one in that group had any idea I was plotting to end my life. No one asked, “How are you doing?” They knew i lost my mother, father, grandmother, stepfather in the span of five years. They knew I was struggling to care for my younger brothers from another city (who were grieving the loss of two parents). I was surrounded by people, but was the loneliest I had ever been.

Only one person stopped by and helped me after my hospitalization. Can you imagine the pain? You hope that some of the 30 people you surround yourself with will give a damn about you, but they didn’t. After I accepted the facts, I decided it was time for me to move on.

Why am I telling you this?

One day you will realize that the only person who cares most about you is you. If you find it challenging to love and accept yourself, you will continuously attract the same. Broken people attract broken people. People suffering from PPS will also be drawn into narcissistic energy vampires. They sense you from miles away and are ready to use and abuse you. But as soon as you heal, you will discover an energetic shift. The new higher vibration does not align with users, narcissists, or manipulators. They will sense your empathic love and light, but this time, you won’t allow them to invade your sacred space. My loves, I know this because I have gone through it.

The best thing you can do for yourself is heal the inner child. Go back to your childhood to figure out what led you to become a people pleaser. For me, I longed for my mother’s love; I desperately wanted her acceptance. I tried everything, but it never came, and it scarred me. So, I became everyone’s best friend. Does that resonate?

My life changed once I cut everyone off. I had enough surface-level relationships. Instead of looking outside myself for friendship and acceptance, I became my own best friend. I cannot believe how far I’ve come since walking away and putting myself first. It completely transformed my life. Holy shit, I am a completely different person.

If I can do it, so can you. You have given enough of your energy away. What do you want out of this life? Get to know the real you, and you’ll discover the real reason they were so drawn to you — you have a pure heart, and my love, that is not easy to find.

Choose peace, choose happiness, choose freedom.

I have included an unedited, short voice recording for those who care to listen. :)