Women/Sexuality
Women Do Talk About Their Sex Lives With Each Other — Here’s What They Say
Full disclosure.
I have a few close women friends — those with whom I feel I can share just about anything. The topic of our sex lives is not off the table. It’s quite a popular topic when we get deep into long conversations about our lives.
Most women I know are not too embarrassed to talk about the raw nitty gritty of what goes on in their bedroom with anyone — especially with one another.
When my close female friends and I talk about our sex lives with our partners, we tend to talk about how much sex is happening, what kind of sex is happening, as well as how we feel about the sex that’s happening.
We also talk about how satisfied we are and if we orgasm during sex.
Sound too personal?
Maybe to some — but to my closest friends and me, our sex lives are vital not only to our romantic relationships and marriages but also to our happiness in general. A healthy sex life with my partner matters to me. Orgasms matter to me. These things matter to the female friends I talk to as well.
There are seasons in any long-term relationship when sex gets dull and orgasms don’t happen as much as we’d like. My friends and I discuss that too. I’ve written articles about what orgasms can do for a woman and how important masturbating is to me to give myself orgasms when I want/need one.
Not only are orgasms instrumental in maintaining overall good health and happiness for women, but being able to talk about it is as well.
Whether you only have one close friend to vent to, many friends, or even a therapist whom you pay to talk to about your life, communicating and solving problems is what women do. It’s how we connect. We share. We listen. We relate to one another.
The only obstacle preventing women from talking openly about the status and health of their sex lives is shame and embarrassment, which is a major factor for lots of women. However, if you have other females in your life whom you feel comfortable talking to about this kind of stuff, that’s a huge gift.
Most women I know thrive on sharing with one another about all kinds of things. So why would discussing sex be any different?
According to Psychology Today, when people share and confide in one another, it triggers a neurochemical cocktail that makes us feel either good or bad. “Feel good” conversations trigger higher levels of dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and other biochemicals that give us a sense of well-being.
When I disclose to my close girlfriends about what’s happening in my romantic relationship, that makes me feel good — as well as relieved that I got stuff off my chest. I would go as far as to say that sharing my innermost sexual experiences with my friends helps improve my romantic relationship with my partner.
So — YES, women talk about their sex lives with each other. More than people may think. And that’s a fundamentally good thing.